Harry's thread for bereaved mums , Wether its a hand to hold or a shoulder to cry on we are all here one for all and all for one .

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Many thanks to ILike for passing on the baton to myself and Harry . I know we are a bit previous but I am worried I will get the timing wrong .

I feel like I have only been here a wee while but it is invaluable to me .

This is a poem that has helped me in the past .

I have not turned my back on you
So there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven
Just beyond the morning sky.

I've seen you almost fall apart
When you could barely stand.
I asked an angel to comfort you
And watched her take your hand.

She told me you are in more pain
Than I could ever be.
She wiped her eyes and swallowed hard
Then gave your hand to me.

Although you may not feel my touch
Or see me by your side.
I've whispered that I love you
While I wiped each tear you cried.

So please try not to ache for me
We'll meet again one day.
Beyond the dark and stormy sky
A rainbow lights the way.

me too FM , I need to step away now . The discussion isn't helping them to come to a decision for the daughter .

Ive just had a nice surprise/shock, whenever i go to coffee at our local chapel i always look up as i go past the graveyard and say hello to Frank, well today i had to look twice as his gravestone was there! I mentioned to my lovely stepson ages ago that i couldnt afford the stone and he has paid for it! It is the same as Franks first wife's and is perfect, i have texted my stepson and said thanks and how lovely it is!!

awww lottie thats wonderful... kindness like that really does restore your faith in humanity doesnt it??

How lovely for you Lottie.

Thats brilliant Lottie - he sounds a good lad xx

That must have been a hell of a surprise . A good one but still a shock .

My house is nearly back to just its usual mess now

My friend should be here about 4 so the wine is chilling and all is well .

I am feeling better now and looking forward to having a good catch up . My dh is away until tomorrow so once the wee ones are in bed we will have peace .

Im off to a girly birthday party!! My friend Emma has hired the pavillion in the garden of our local pub!
www.laxfield-kingshead.co.uk/
Click on the garden link. The pavillion is the picture on the far left, im in the middle picture farthest right with my back to the picture! My dad used to own the pub and sold it back to the brewery.

I had a meeting with consultant today

he tells me that they dont know what is wrong with mum. They know that her oxygen drops and her co2 rises and thats when she struggles but they cant see why.

But on the plus side they are giving us more support, more exerices, better equipment so we can deal with this betterat home and therefore cut down the toing and froing to the hospital

so fingers crossed

shabs thank you for your kind words on that other thread

never a problem FM - never. Just was trying to make people realise that little children grieve as well. My eldest boy - Danny - is a truly fantastic example of how a child can be touched by grief and bereavement but still be a fab kid!! He lost his twin brother when they were 7 months old and his little brother when he was 10 years old.

Despite all that shite crap he has grown up to be the most wonderful son I could ever have wished for. An amazing partner and Daddy - not saying that he never gets anything wrong - just saying that he is a wonderful human being.

Good night girls - speak in the morning xx

Good morning xx

Morning folks.

My baby girl is one today. I should be happy. I am happy. But theere's only one card on the mantle that says 'To my sister', yunno? Gah.

Love to you all x

Good morning all x

Dee I know what you mean xx It's hard x

I know what you mean Dee

But a very happy birthday to your darling girl

I really know what you mean Dee.

Every December 28th it is my twin boys birthday....the hardest, hardest day was when they were 21 - we had a big party for Danny BUT it all seemed so wrong. I didnt put pictures on the venue walls of the twins - didnt know what to do for the best. Its so hard.

Happy birthday to your DD xxxx

happy birthday to your dd Dee

Its crap innit ... every milestone is tainted with what ifs and sad memories..

its just crap...

Lottie asked me to let you know that her computer is 'no more' it is 'poorly sick'!!!!

Shabs if you are in contact with Lottie remind her I work in IT support and willing to help if I can

Dee - Happy birthday to your DD. I know its very hard x

I was sort of hovering last night and saw that a few friends were getting a bit upset/miffed at another thread. I hope you dont mind but I put my oar in. Nothing spectacular but just trying to back up the idea that kids do grieve.

I saw your post last night chegirl.

Course we dont mind you having a say .. ya nutter

I couldnt keep my big gob shut .. nothing new there!!!

Im back...........be very afraid! My sister has lent me an old tower and my nephew spent nearly oan hour on the phone to Tiscali to get it working again!!!

Hi FM. Oh jolly good. I am used to be far ruder on MNs (not on this thread obs) but I didnt want it to turn into an excuse for a ruck. Feel sorry for OP. She was only asking!

Welcome back Lottie

Che I thought your post last night was beautiful - proper said it like it is!!!! The same old, same old faces always turn up on a bereavement thread on MN - I could tell you which names will be posting - always wanting a row and always thinking they know best.....BUT when you think about it only people who have been bereaved of a precious loved one (especially a child) really know what they are going on about.

Night night girls - Im proud of myself Verrrrrrrrrrrryyy early night for me....xxxxxx

Morning girls xx