Harry's thread for bereaved mums , Wether its a hand to hold or a shoulder to cry on we are all here one for all and all for one .

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Many thanks to ILike for passing on the baton to myself and Harry . I know we are a bit previous but I am worried I will get the timing wrong .

I feel like I have only been here a wee while but it is invaluable to me .

This is a poem that has helped me in the past .

I have not turned my back on you
So there is no need to cry.
I'm watching you from heaven
Just beyond the morning sky.

I've seen you almost fall apart
When you could barely stand.
I asked an angel to comfort you
And watched her take your hand.

She told me you are in more pain
Than I could ever be.
She wiped her eyes and swallowed hard
Then gave your hand to me.

Although you may not feel my touch
Or see me by your side.
I've whispered that I love you
While I wiped each tear you cried.

So please try not to ache for me
We'll meet again one day.
Beyond the dark and stormy sky
A rainbow lights the way.

oh sorry..

Good morning from Glasgow

My neighbour is fine at the moment.......(fingers crossed) No it wasnt bacon and lemon!! It was cauliflower cheese with bacon, then for pudd it was a cloudy lemonade lemon sponge pud!!

haha I cant read I blame tw for confusing me!!!!!

FM - I was using one of those George Foreman grill things and forgot to move my hand when I put the lid down [doh emoticon] Got a small really sore burn now!!! Lewis has spent the morning, so far, picking at the scab that is covering the burn - he's a dirty dog

Good morning all x

My front room is going to a reddy colour and then cream in the alcoves
I am half way through so I had better get going soon . Anyone want to help ?

It is time to think about handing on the baton so Hazy , I have looked but couldn't see if you had done one yet . Apologies if you have . So it is over to you next time xx

The headstone should be put back up tomorrow, in preperatin for Brogan's birthday on Friday. I'm not holding my breath though.

afternoon girls,shabs that was a silly thing to do,hope your ok,
well life is so quiet here now my youngest dd gone,i realy miss her feel kinda useless she came home yesterday and helped me bath ol and brook,they realy miss her,oli was helping her pack a couple of weeks ago and there was a triple pack of photo albums dd2 didnt want so oli asked if she could have them,then gave one of them back to dd2 and one to brooke,and said we all put pictures of each other one then if we never see each other again we wont forget each otheer,dd2 laughed and said im ten minutes down the road but oli realy believed shed go forever,it brought tears to my eyes,shes six years old.
lottie glad your neighbour is ok,and lovely that you cook for her,it dont seem worth cooking her now just me and dh,somedays neither of us about depending on shifts ,my mates say we should be making most of it but im not sure of it yet,
i was thinking how dee starting our next thread do you all agree ,pleasexxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hazy - think that sounds a good idea!

I think thats a fab idea Hazy . I wasn't sure who had done one and I did nearly say Dee xx

I have nearly finished my painting
Now I just have to get the front room back to being liveable . It is a tip at the moment .

OCH Why is life so shite..

sorry my language is becoming realy bad but mum is back in hospital AGAIN

this is the 4th time she has been in . with only 3 weeks out between each hospitalisation

This time she had the blue lights the lot.

I just cant understand why they keep letting her out when she is clearly soooo unwell

Hugs for you FM........... xxxx {{{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}

Oh feck, FM - that sucks. Hope she's as well as she can be, and that you;re ok too - take care of you, 'k?

Hazy - are you sure? I don't mind if you want the baton, but if you're certain then thank you, i'd be honored.

Oh my word FMammy - what a worry. Hospitals, nowadays, seem to like 'chucking out' patients before they are properly well. My sons DP came home 2 and a half days after a very traumatic CSection. She could hardly walk and was very, very down.......it seems crazy to me!

Sending hugs and love xxxx

FM You swear as much as you like .
I am sorry to hear your mum is poorly again , you must all be so worried .

My dh is away for a couple of days . Am I bad and evil for being glad of the peace ?

I get to watch what I want and everything And play on here as long as I want .

Excuse me for barging in but I wanted some advice. I know you all give each other some amazing support so would really like to have your help please.

A neighbour of mine's 17 year old son died last year unexpectedly and of unknown causes. It will be one year tomorrow. My brother also died almost a year ago, and through our 'losses' we have become kind of friends. She texted me today to say she felt awful and didn't know how to get through tomorrow. We are meeting up this evening for a glass of wine, and I have a card for her. I don't know what to write, even though I've been in a similar situation myself, words are failing me. I also would like to have some wisdom to share this evening, and wondered if any of you can help me?

I really hope you don't mind me asking xx

Hi Evans mummy , I am so sorry for your friends loss and for you losing your brother as well . I haven't really got any pearls of wisdom as I think the best thing anyone can do is what you are already doing . Being there with an ear and a bottle of wine was always a good start for me .
What I will say though is the first anniversary is awful . For so many reasons , the biggest thing I struggled with was not being able to say/think "this time last year Harry was here with me doing ......"

Just the fact that you have thought enough about her and her son to invite her round and face her will mean more than anything .

I hope you both manage to find some sort of peace with each other x

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.................
look how people have responded to the OP in this thread...........some people dont know tact do they??
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/bereavement/747037-daughters-nans-funeral

I have put my twopennyworth Lottie . Not sure if it will do any good but worth a try

EvansM - I think something really simple - 'to let you know Im thinking of you' would be fine....never apologise for coming onto our special thread - good bunch of girls on here xxx

EvansM - never forgetting ours and other peoples loved ones is very important. Just mentioning their names and acknowledging their existance means so much.

FM - sorry to hear about your mum again. I remember you saying before that your mum doesn't like to be pushy with medical staff. Maybe it's worth starting to intervene on her behalf?

Lottie have posted - there are one or two 'odd' folk on MN aren't there?

Just got an email from Wilf it has made my day xxxx

I am so wound up my peoples responses on that thread that I can't trust myself on it, so I'm stepping away.

"She will get over it" - I really can't believe someone really thinks that. A child has lost her Nana ffs.

Can i share something with you ladies? A photo of Brogan trying on her Christening gown. It's not what you'd epect, but i've never been one to conform it should be on my profile now..

I cant look at your profile . Am I barred ?