Cole's thread for bereaved muumies: like the sands on the beach that never wash away. I watch over my surviving mum, who thinks of me each day.

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Welcome to our santuary and haven ladies.

Many thanks for Frasersmummy for passing the baton onto Cole and I. I am touched and hope I can do all our lo's justice.

For any people wanting to join, don't be shy. We cry, we rant, we smile, we laugh - whatever we feel like we need to do.

Morning girls...Morning TW

I felt for the mum last night. She gave the appearance of being 'not bothered' until the camera got to her eyes. They were empty and amazingly sad. The Daddy kept saying everything was going to be fine. I purposly went onto active conversations thinking that somebody would have commented on her attitude - but they hadn't. I was ready for a fight on Mnet last night

I didnt realise that the baby who survived until Christmas Day had major heart problems. The minute they started to explain about her heart I was a sobbing wreck.

I couldn't watch all of it . If my dh had been out I probably would have been but generally if he is here I try to keep away because he thinks I am nuts to want to watch things that make me sob . He may have a point but sometimes I just have to .

lol at you spoiling for a fight . I think that look in someones eyes is just awful . Easily recognisable now though unfortunately .

Morning all, i didnt watch it purposely as i knew it would upset me......Lokkd like im heading for another crap day already. Wilf has started getting narky and it isnt even 9am yet!

Hi Lottie , how is Wilfs impetigo this morning ? Sorry he has woken up in a grump ( If I was being nice I would say that he probably isn't sleeping well because of the impetigo ) But that wouldn't help you much would it ?

It wasnt impetigo after all...........I was just being over cautious. Im just sick of his lack of respect and attitude towards me. He will say sorry then laugh at me.................

Oh dear , is it worse because of half term maybe ? At least he can get back to school on mon now if no impetigo . Are you doing anything today ?

He will go back on Sunday. Yes we have plans for today, thats part of why he is fed up cos he thought he was having lunch with friends and they have now said can he have lunch at home instead. He doesnt like plans being changed.............

Hopefully he will have a better day . Or if all eles fails you can always point him to Shabs on fb

Hope the day improves Lottie. My Tom has just grumped his way down the stairs as well!! I am a real 'glass is half full' kind of person but Im the only one like that at my house

I have Ems and Lew visiting today and a smashing friend coming from Preston to visit. We met her in Faliraki about 5 years ago...she is about 30 but me and DH were her surrogate parents on holiday - trying (and failing) to 'police' her and her crazy mates She is like a breath of fresh air!

Tell that Wilf that I will be on FB for a while tonight when my visitors have gone....if he behaves himself we will have a gab - if he doesn't then the 'date' is off!!

Well, have just had a phone call from a lady at childhood and adolescent psych services who has stated that they are unwilling to see boyo until at lesat a year from now. Apparently hes acting out because theres been so much change in his life and he needs to get used to it. Well, i never knew that If he's still acting out a year from now they would consider seeing him. In the meantime, she told me, i need to contact either sure start or social services (like that's going to happen) so they can give me parenting classes to help me cope with his behaviour. So, not only can i get my boy the help he so desperately needs, i need fucking parenting classes cos i'm such a bad mother. Why don't i go the whole fucking hog and have social services come in and take them off me because i ibviously can't fucking cope with them.

Pardon me, and look away now if easily offended, but BOLLOCKSYFUCKINGTWATTINGFUCKERS.

And breathe

deemented you are doing blooody brill ,i have some special books i bought when jayden died to help my granddaughter through it ,she was four when he died,yes its hard my dd refused help for the others if you have cat i will send them onto you.

Dee - I know none of your situation is funny but you have made me roll on the floor laughing my fat wobbly arse off!!!! Ohh by the way the Greeks say MALAKER (means wanker) for people they dont like very much!! Just keep shouting that down the phone to them.

How weird a country are we? We could jump in right this minute and help this little boyo to 'recover' from his loss OR we could leave him to get on with it until he is asking can he go on the Jeremy Kyle show!!!!

You are doing a fab job my friend.....'they' are just a bunch of MALAKERS (pronounced mal..ak..ers)

Dee I am so sorry it didn't work out . People can be such plonks sometimes .
You are doing a great job and you will manage with all this shite but you shouldn't have to do it on your own .

..... good night from wilfred good night shabs xxxxx for shabs xxx for shabs good night tom from wilfred
and i had to told my mum off to drinking wine by me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i said my mum you are not allowed to drink to her wine from wilfred my mum son xxxxx love you shabs from wilfred c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie c for cookie

A message to my dear friend Wilf....c for cookie, c for cookie. I have been drinking dirty beer Wilf!!! We have had a sing song at my friends house.....we sang lots of songs and I sang C for Cookie to my friends and now they all think I am the crazy lady!!!!!!!

We will have a talk on Facebook before you go back to school. Lots and lots of Love from Shabba xxxxx

Morning my loves...xxx

Morning Shabs, im glad you liked wilfs message, he said "I want to say goodnight to my mate Shabs!!" We are going to the cinema today to see Hotel for Dogs!!

Well we had a lovely time today. Unfortunately this stupid woman kept hassling me really badly to get Wilf off the bus and she did it in such an unpleasent way that i told her to "shut up you old bag"

anyone about??

hi all

why is life so bloody difficult.. mum was well on the way to recovery... and then she got a cold and bam is right back in hospital

The thing is.. I used to be one of life's copers .. I could deal with anything me and then I lost Fraser and now I cant cope with anything

Its just like the slightest thing sends me off the rails and I think.. why me ???

I know its unreasonable... but tell me its normal???

please??

sorry I havent been here for a few weeks .. and I just come along with a rant..

I havent had time (working full time for a few weeks) to catch up with all your posts but I will and try and catch up over the weekend..

in the meantime all of you are in my thoughts and prayers

Morning Ladies.

FM. Im sorry your Mum is unwell again... I will be praying for her when we go to church. Always assuming I can get him dressed and ready to go!!

Him being the Wilfmeister of course!

Morning girls. FMammy - I think that all your feelings are totally normal - well, if you are barking mad, I must be

Evening all...............

Hi Guys,

Im back again. Everytime I pop in someone is facing yet another horrible challenge. Not bleedin fair is it?

I myself am being particularly mental at the moment and bursting into tears in odd places (Enfield multiplex cinema yesterday).Luckily I was with the right person AND I had my film star sunglasses with me.

Frasersmummy - sorry about your mum, hope things improve soon.

Deeemented - I was lucky with DS1 that he got counselling right away. Trouble is it was at the hospice attached to the hospital where Billie had her treatment. Taking him there was awful. They didnt seem to think it was a problem though. Hmmm. I hope you get something sorted. Once DS1 had a few sessions I bought him an electric guitar and some lessons, TBH I think that did him more good.