Fraser's thread for bereaved mummies: Death leaves a heartache no-one can heal - Love leaves a memory no-one can steal

[frasersmummy]

Hello my good friends

Its lovely to be asked to set up our new support tread especially as we head towards our first festive season supporting each other.

I hope Frasers part of the journey is as smooth as Eris, Jack and Matt&Gareths

Hiya moveit!!! It's going to be fun isin't it Just as I got Dan through high school Tom came along (16 year age gap!!!) just as I get Tom settled in high school - I get our Lew!!!!!!

I will need lessons in pram pushing, feeding a baby, then potty training etc etc etc!!! You lot will have to help me

hi shabs and everyone xxhope you all wellx

HI all

if we are doing a vinyl night can we have the king of kariticus??? shabster.. I hope you are pleased with yourself.. i havent been able to get that song out my head for days

I have had a really good day ..took Ross out to xmas fun day before the xmas lights switch on tonight. Santas sleigh and Reindeer passed 2 feet in front of him.

He was on the bouncy castle, the train, and the carousel and he went sledging on real snow. Cost me a whole £4.50

nice to see you back trips.. you are really having a hard time this year but you seem to be holding up well

fmn you are very quiet are you ok

lottie.. how's the house are you still evacuated.. will you be sorted for xmas

everlong hope we havent frightened you off with our ranting this week.. how are you holding up

hugs to everyone

Good morning girls xx

FMammy - sounds a lovley, lovley day. Glad you had a great time.

right I am gonna have a rant .. I know its completely unreasonable and probably even insensitive but this is now beginning to get to me..

there are sooo many people on mn saying they want to hold a vigil, or hold a memorial service or even buy a star for the little boy in the news. fair enough if it makes them feel better then far be it from me to criticise..

but I really want to post on some of these threads saying .. no-one is holding a vigil or a memorial service or buying a star for my little boy and he is dead because of someone's negligence

Like I say I know its unreasonable .. but is it at least understandable???

Have to agree, FM.

Reminds me of the other day when I was called by someone from the NSPCC. She was extremely well drilled and wouldn't leave me alone despite me saying v. clearly that the money I can afford to give away goes to medical research into baby loss. So, when she said 'Don't you know 1 child dies every day from abuse?' I shot back 'Don't you know that every day 17 babies are stillborn or die in the first days of life? (These are SANDS' figures, and AMR quotes 25 deaths of premature babies every week.)

The way I see it, the tiniest, most vulnerable people in our society, whether they are the aborted, the longed-for and lost, the very early or the unloved like Baby P are getting a raw deal and I sincerely hope this tragic death might at least make a lot more people stop to think that children are a blessing, and our future, and we need to do more to cherish and care for them.

Just one more thing - I wasn't surprised to see people on the SGB thread referring to an article by Janice Turner in yesterday's Times. Soon as I read it I thought, she reminds me of that poster on MN. Both of them as hard as nails.

best wishes,
K

Ladies............and friends of Shabster. Just had a private e-mail from her to say that she can not get noto here, when she tries to log in and post a page comes up saying she is forbidden. It could be that she has been reported on that other thread. What can we do? She has contacted MN and they have not replied. She last posted late morning but has no access since.

Trips - maybe no one from MN was around yesterday, but will be today? I hope they contact her or you today so you can find out what is going on.

Perhaps the system puts an emergency temporary ban on reported posters at the weekend. Hope it gets resolved very soon

How do we contact Mumsnet to ask for her to be put back online?

I have just contacted Mumsnet HQ to ask for Shabster to be reinstated! I hope all you other friends of hers will do the same!!

Morning girls, quick update refernce our friend Shabster.

She is still unable to get onto MN. Hopefully all will be sorted very soon and she will be back here with us (no doubt making us laugh and cry at the same time)

Will keep you posted. x

Who did she get reported by?

Was it to do with the BabyP thread? I read some of that and I don't remember seeing anything that was out of line.

Not sure if that is what has happened MoveIt, just know some her her posts have been deleted and she cannot get on.

Trying to remain calm as I do not want to spontaneously combust

how do i contact mumsnet??

am at work and dont have tine to look through the site..

how do i contact mumsnet??

am at work and dont have tine to look through the site..

frasersmummy, top of this page, along from Useful Stuff you will see Contact Mumsnet, click on that and it automatically sends you to email and enters their address......

Have emailed myself, it's disgusting, she didnt have any notification or anything..

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

Update........... Just got this

Hi, thanks for your email.

We suspended Shabster's membership over the weekend because we were
getting a lot of complaints about her postings about another member,
Cod.

We've been in touch with Shabster today and we're just waiting to hear
back from her.

best wishes
MNHQ

i'm sorry but thats ridiculous

are we not allowed to say that name now??

Thanks for all your love and support xxx Have name changed to a word that makes me happy (the hotel we go to in Rhodes)

What a weird weekend!

i have contacted mumsnet

hahah too late

welcome back.. did you get an apology??

No apology my love.....still kind of reeling a bit. Thought we had 'freedom of speech' in this country BUT 'hey ho' just glad to be back xx

Do you know who reported you?