Fraser's thread for bereaved mummies: Death leaves a heartache no-one can heal - Love leaves a memory no-one can steal

[frasersmummy]

Hello my good friends

Its lovely to be asked to set up our new support tread especially as we head towards our first festive season supporting each other.

I hope Frasers part of the journey is as smooth as Eris, Jack and Matt&Gareths

Yes my love I do - I havent been told by MN who but believe me I know.

Welcome back

Are you ok ? What a horrible thing to do to you

Just another lesson in life I suppose. I have taken off my profile and my pictures because the people who are important to me on Mumsnet already know my story and have seen my pictures. I wear my heart on my sleeve in real life and on MN - maybe time to reign in my emotions and trust except for when I am around friends.

Thanks TW - it has made me feel very down but, lets face it, this is just an internet site.......faced bigger demons my friend. Much bigger xxxxxxx I appreciate your support xx

just coming on to say that i was one of the number of people who reported your thread, shabster, but i never for a minute thought that you'd be kicked off, i just thougth it would (and should) be deleted. it sounds like an unusual admin thing tbh, i wouldn't read too much into it.

I already knew that you had.

Glad you are back , hows things otherwise ?

Things are ok thanks TW - hope you are good my friend xx

Quietly seething to be honest, but not too bad!

I am not surprised , I would be too , I did miss most of what happened but shocked that you couldn't come on all weekend .

Seeth away for a wee while at least .

I suppose you have just got to try and not let it ruin all the good things about being on here .

Glad to see you back my friend......

All for one and one for all......

Like your new name it's very classy !!

The good far outweighs the bad on here my love. One of my many faults is that I am like an elephant - in that I never forget. I never, ever forget how people have treated me - be it good or bad. I am normally very calm and laid back and then my feelings build and build and I errupt

I could win gold medals for never forgetting xxx

i know that, shabster, i said so on the thread, i was just trying to say that it'as not normal practice to ban people and it was not what anyone would expect when reporting so try not to take it to heart.

Dont want to debate the subject anymore - especially not on a thread that is so important to me.

okay, you're purposely taking what i'm saying the wrong way. i wish you weren't.

Aitch, thank you for your honesty, didn't take much working out though did it

Think Shabs wants to move on now and be left to slot back in where this gaping hole is !!

for the last time, i'd said about my reporting her on the other thread, there is no mystery.

i am trying to say to shabster that if anyone was reporting her they would not have been doing so to get her banned, they weould have been doing so to get her post deleted as that is normal practise. so she can either take the fact that she was banned personally, or she can accept it for the admin issue it most likely was and not worry about it.

OK I am not taking anything in the wrong way. I have read your posts and as I said this thread is like my sanctuary, somewhere I can come to when I am down and get help. Somewhere where sometimes I can help other mums. This thread is somewhere we can think about our children who have died.

I am not being nasty or being sarcastic. I want to put this behind me and move on.

It's good to see you back Shabs, we missed you.

Aitch, it's nice to see you have the balls to admit it was you. I think it's going to have to be a case of 'agree to disagree'

You're both great ladies, you just don't happen to agree.

I dedicated this thread to my little boy who was stillborn almost 5 years ago in that it would provide hope and support to many others as the 3 that have preceded it has..

if its going to become an argument I shall ask mumsnet to remove it and leave someone else to start a new thread.

Frasersmammy - Im sorry that this is happening. Coming onto our threads is a comforting place for me, somewhere I can have a cry and very often have a good laugh as well. xxx

look, i'm sorry to keep coming back to this but i;m not posting to say that i reported it. i understand that you feel this is your haven etc but i do think that by tagging me as 'the' person who reported your post you're

this is the email VS was sent, yes?

"Hi, thanks for your email.

We suspended Shabster's membership over the weekend because we were
getting a lot of complaints about her postings about another member,
Cod.

We've been in touch with Shabster today and we're just waiting to hear
back from her.

best wishes
MNHQ"

all i'm saying is that anyone reporting the post won't have been calling for your posting rights to be suspended, so don't worry that it's a bigger deal than it is. you shouldn't imo have been suspended. that's all

should say you're missing the point.

dont apologise shabster... these things happen..I dont think aitch is trying to stir it on here either

I just really really dont want to see this thread dissolve into a bun fight .

anyway.. its puring here in Glasgow and the more I read about people wanting to demonstrate about baby p the more I want to yell and stamp my feet and say demonstrate for my little boy too

I know its not gonna happen cos they dont know about him ..but why dont still births and neo natal deaths make headline news

its about time the world was aware

it IS pouring here, isn't it...? we've got the lights on.