Fraser's thread for bereaved mummies: Death leaves a heartache no-one can heal - Love leaves a memory no-one can steal

[frasersmummy]

Hello my good friends

Its lovely to be asked to set up our new support tread especially as we head towards our first festive season supporting each other.

I hope Frasers part of the journey is as smooth as Eris, Jack and Matt&Gareths

Good morning girls x

Good morning all x

Lets hope for a calmer day round these parts today

Morning TW - Yes here's to peace and tranquility!!

How you doing this morning ? Reading your post from last night about Cod made me wonder about all the hand wringing and tears that went on here when she left . Now if that isn't "competitive sadding" I don't know what is

Never thought of it like that my love

Im not too bad thanks love. Got to go to GP and have my blood pressure checked today...I hate having that done. I got toxemia when I was pregnant with the twins and have had high blood pressure ever since. Got to try and keep calm - deep breathing and all that

Oh yes and remembering to breathe is always a good start .

I have got an exciting day of housework ahead of me . And my youngest has got a visit at pre school this afternoon . Another few months and I will actually be on the house on my own for a couple of hours two mornings a week . Scary thought .

Scary but nice to have a small amount of time to yourself. I, hopefully, will be full time child minding for my lovley grandson from January. That is going to take a lot of 'getting used to' for both Lewis and myself!! He is glued at the hip to his mummy and I dont know who will cry most when she goes back to work - him or her

Wow , you are brave . I am sure he will be fine and happy . At least it is with his nanny , whenever mine were left with my mum they never gave me so much as a backward glance .
She has now very selfishlly moved to France so we don't see her that often .

morning girls will post later as just finished work and worn out,bighugs xx

morning at work ..

have had time to post a rant on mad womans thred
though why i dont just ignore her I dont know

....you and me both frasersmammy!!!! My sarcastic tongue keeps making an appearance on the thread

Ahem, shabster et al? I've contributed to the "other" thread and I just have to say that I am in awe of you. I have been reading this topic every day for months and you have my utmost respect. I have never lost a child in the way you have so I don't feel as if I can join you, but I think you are all miraculously courageous and, well, I am sure I'm not the only lurker who feels this way.

evening all just checking in making sure you are all ok tonight

hi ninkynork.... nice of you to drop by stick around for a gab

I could be wrong but from the wording of your post sounds like you might have a story you want to share..

if not then just ignore me

Ninkynork, hello, I have not suffered ANY loss of a child but I am always welcome here as I am sure you are too. The loss of a child in any way, regardless of what age, means you are welcome, however, dont ever join in one of Shabs late night disco's, so my top tip to you is not to appear once she starts posting when she gets home at sill o'clock coz she will keep you here all hours

Hello everybody else that's about tonight, I hope you dont mind me popping in, have been watching the other thread detiorate with a permanent expression on my face.

BTW TW the poem you posted the other day was wonderful. Shabs linked me to it and I found it extremely moving. One day, maybe I will show it to my Mum or be a chicken and print it off and leave it for her to read.

I have just read some of that thread. No-one speaks straight from the heart as our Shabby. She is wise, and lots on that thread could learn a lesson from her. Shabs and I met once in r/l, about 6 years ago, she is wonderful, she knows how crap life can be, she will always give all she has. Maybe its because both Shabs and myself have been around alot longer than most of the Mums on here, we do have alot of experience in life, and sadly in death. I found alot of those postings hurtful, heartless and immature.

Thank you for the welcome

Vaggy...........are you referring to our Radio Gaga?

Oh god, now look I've got lured in by DJ Trips

Trips I've just posted over there, it is unbelievable isn't it ? How are things with you old bean, your DH, DB and the DT's ?

Just a minute Vaggy whilst I turn my vinyl over
That thread is just awful, I havent posted on it as enough is being said, but our Shabs is spokeperson for us all, well done to her. Well Dh went out today for the first time since coming out of hospital, he needed to, getting very grumpy.He has made a very quick recovery though as the wound is huge! Also started to eat well, so we will just get him back on track and then the next 6 chemos will start. We are just hoping they will leave that until after Christmas. My DB, well he too has made a very god recovery but does not like to be told so, rather wallowing in it I feel. Not doing half the exercise he should. The DTS are really hard work atm, I have also now got IBS, felt really uncomfortable for the last few weeks and have struggled, they are just 3 xs 10yr olds who feel at times as though they are ganging up on us! But I dont and won`t give in!I am now very very worried about a dear friend of ours. She had breast cancer 9 years ago, all clear since. Then 2 months ago she found a sort of dent in her false breast, they did an MRI and it turned out to be a fold in the silicone implant, just cosmetic more than anything to worry about. Then she got a letter saying the scan had picked up something unrelated to the breast and she had to go for a chest ct scan. She got the result last week, it has found a mass between her heart and her lungs, its large. She has an appt next Mon to see a cardio surgeon, all they have said atm is that it has to come out. I am so scared for her, she is such a lovely person, lives very near to us, known each other for about 25 years, its so worrying and so unfair. I shall be very glad to see the end of 2008.

Oh Trips you really do need to get New Years eve well and truly on the way don't you. I'm glad DH is getting about and eating well too. Fingers crossed they can start the next course after Christmas.

Your DB needs a rocket up his posterior !!

You are totally doing the right thing with your boys, if they see a crack in th veneer they will go for it

Your poor friend, yes, that must be an awful worry for you. Life is so bloody unfair and there is no rhyme nor reason to who continues to walk this earth is there ?

I am currently posting over "there", just getting my knuckle dusters out now

I just put my LAST post on that revolting thread.....sometimes even if you confront a bully you cant win. In the light of day, who cares what Aitch and her mob think. I am proud of all my dear friends on this thread and how we can conquer anything....Night night girls, see you in the morning.

I got 'done' on the thread!!!!! Ah well. Good morning girls xx

Hi Trips, it's good to see you. Great news about your dh, and not so great news about your friend. I bet you can't wait to bring in the new year and say goodbye to 2008.

theninkynork - please stick around if you want to, there isn't an entrance exam

shabs - I hope you're building up your stamina to look after Lewis for 5 days a week . What a wonderful relationship you two will have