Fraser's thread for bereaved mummies: Death leaves a heartache no-one can heal - Love leaves a memory no-one can steal

[frasersmummy]

Hello my good friends

Its lovely to be asked to set up our new support tread especially as we head towards our first festive season supporting each other.

I hope Frasers part of the journey is as smooth as Eris, Jack and Matt&Gareths

I dont really have anything useful to add..

I just wish we could all get together, hold each other tight , have a really good bubble and then get really drunk

I think its easier to be positive when the days are long and light.

I agree about long Summer nights FM - I despise the winter. I hate the 'grey lid' that seems to be always on this part of England in the Winter.

I think the thought of Christmas and all its emotions, and for me Rememberance Sunday just seems to much to take on right at the moment.

Think we all need to line up and kick each others bums

Just watching Rolf Harris talking about his relatives in the first world war. i just know he is going to sing 'two little boys' oh yes, here we piggin go!!! Thats my twin boys song Rolf if you dont mind. xx

He had NO RIGHTS singing that no right whatsoever. I used to sing that to Dan and Gareth all the time.

Think I am just going to sleep until the Spring........

I sang 2 little boys a lot to Ross when he was a baby.. still do from time to time and i sing it a lot at Frasers garden

When I read earler that Rolf is re-releasing it for the 90th anniversay of ww1 my heart sank

you just know because of the reason its being released thats its gonna be played everywhere...

shall we start a petition for him to rerecord jake the peg instead

oh yes or maybe the 'Ladies from the court of Kincaraticus (sp) were just passing by'

Danny sings to Lewis (Lewis Daniel) 'danny boy' but sings 'Oh Tiny boy' - it breaks my piggin' heart.

oh bugger i've just realised considering why he is re releasing it that my song choice is highly inappropriate

I'm really sorry... I hope my insensitiveness didnt upset anyone ..

perhaps the petition should be for tie me kangaroo down sport instead

sorry

Pisching hysterical if you ask me FMammy - but then I have a sarcastic evil sense of humour. You havent offended anyone darling - you made me ROFL

Love this

oh shabs I havent heard this since I waa about 5 .. you have put a big smile on my face ..

thank you

nay problem hen

This makes me LOL

So glad you came. Wish we didn't have to meet like this but so very glad you came.

We have a wonderful bunch of mums on here...really lovley girls. We are all struggling down the same crappy path of bereavment and grief.

When it is our childrens birthdays or their 'remember days' (anniversarys) we have started lighting a candle to remember our lost children.

Up to now we have shared over 3,000 messages between us.....we all try to keep each other going and have been known to be very drunk and dance and tell rude jokes

Stay around my love, we will walk the crappy path together xx

Thank you love. The 'double edged' sword is the fact that our first grandchild is the image of all four of our sons. My DS1 has become the most loving daddy (he is almost 27 and so is his lovley partner Emma)

Life is good really but there are times when I still sob and grieve intensly for my sons.

Only on this thread can we laugh, cry, sob, giggle, act daft, wail and smile all in the same day....because we all know how each other is feeling. It doesn't matter what the age of our 'babies' is....it just matters that we stick together.

Good night Ever - I am going to turn in for the night. I really hope you come back tomorrow when all the ladies are here. Holding you close in my heart and mind....take care xxxx

Everlong, glad you could join us, sorry DS cryin musr go

Oh everlong sorry not glad at all, I wish you didn't have to be here at all, just wanted to welcome you to the thread.

Shabs and Frasersmummy you have made me smile, on reserve battery so must dash night night my loves sleep tight.

Good morning girls xx

Good morning everyone .

I have been in bits yesterday and this morning . I had heard bits about that poor 17mth old who was killed at the hands of his parents but I have tried to avoid reading about it . Well last night we watched the news and it was there in all its awfullness . I can't get him out of my head , I just don't get how anyone could do that to a wee boy . I suppose because Harry was 14 mths it has hit a chord with me . I would have done anything to keep him and they just didn't give a stuff .

Sorry not a good day today

Oh sweetheart. I watched the news as well last night and it had a very similar effect on me. We live in a strange world. In my opinion we need to bring back capital punishment in this country. Poor, poor little man

Thanks Shabs , I would normally be a real liberal about capital punishment and say it should never ever come back but I have to say in this case I would gladly do it to them myself .

Sorry Everlong I didn't say hello and welcome to you .

How are you doing this morning ? I remember that feeling of not thinking you could possibly have any more tears left . I can vividly remember sobbing and sobbing and no tears being left and then drinking water and them falling again . It was like I had to top up the liquids .