Fraser's thread for bereaved mummies: Death leaves a heartache no-one can heal - Love leaves a memory no-one can steal

[frasersmummy]

Hello my good friends

Its lovely to be asked to set up our new support tread especially as we head towards our first festive season supporting each other.

I hope Frasers part of the journey is as smooth as Eris, Jack and Matt&Gareths

Good morning girls xx

Good morning everyone

I hope a brighter day is in store for you all , yesterday sounds like a bit of a crappy one for a lot .

Everlong I know what you mean about thinking that everyone knows , it is such a huge thing that has happened how can they not possibly know about it ? After a while I stopped feeling like that and just felt invisible and actually would have loved to have carried a big sign around with me telling everyone what had happened . (Not really the done thing round these parts )

pinkfrog I am also a big wuss , I can't handle going to the grave anymore . I know I have to go soon and make it all tidy but I really hate going . I used to practically live their for a yr or two and now it all just seems too depressing .

Good morning TW.

All will be well.....ALL WILL BE WELL

Trying to convince myself xxx

If you pretend for long enough one day it will be true

Thats my theory anyway

Sometimes it even works

I totally agree TW

All will be well.....all will be well...all will be well....all will be well xxx

This too shall pass

This time of the year is so hard , especially when you have got a birthday this month as well .

I am actually doing ok so far this year which is a miracle , but I can't even relax and enjoy it , I am waiting for the inevitable downer . Daft isn't it ?

Morning all.......two weeks today is Jacks Remember Day! I will be online in the morning but in the afternoon we are off to London for our trip to Eurodisney! Im trying to get excited but keep thinking about Jack and that i should be taking two boys with me that and also how brave Wilfred was talking about his Daddy last week.

Jack WILL be with you my love....he wouldn't miss a trip to Eurodisney! Wilf's daddy will also come along to look after all of you and enjoy watching your smiles. People who we love never, ever leave us emotionally. Just because they are not with us physically means nothing. Remember the film Ghost? What do they say in that? 'As long as we keep our loved ones in our hearts they never go away.'

OMG - my mum used to have one robin who visited her garden daily....after Matt was killed a second robin joined in!!!! They sit on her windowsill till she goes out with food for them!!!

Im having a night with a lovely friend of mine tonight. We are going to watch a film and she is going to help me wrap my presents up! With my dyspraxia i find things like wrapping presents very difficult and end up making a real mess so anyone who volunteers to help is brilliant!

I'll help Lottie!!!! Hurry up Lottie put the sellotape on

Thanks Shabs......Catherine has just gone we watched a brilliant film.
www.imdb.com/title/tt0902348/
AND.... we have wrapped nearly all the pressies YIPPEE!!

Good night girls....I am 52 in 22 minutes I WANT TO BE 17 AGAIN, KNOWING WHAT I KNOW NOW!!!!! Sweet dreams, sleep tight.xx

Good morning everyone

Happy Birthday Shabs

Good morning girls.

Thanks TW - I feel verrrrry old!!

Still a spring chicken

Imagine how old you will feel when your dil goes back to work and you have all that baby stuff to do again ?

Are you doing anything nice today ?

LOL - Cause I had Tom when I was almost 41 it wont be as bad BUT I will be so tired!! I was exhausted last week when Em and Lewis visited for the day - looking forward to it though!!!

Dont think I will be doing anything very exciting but I have a feeling Lew and Mummy are visiting today - so will be up to my armpits in baby food and mucky nappies!!!! LOL xx

Awwwww several of my DS1's friends are on Facebook this morning. Must be getting ready for work, already had a few birthday messages. Great bunch of lads - all around 26 years old - several have become first time dads this year. One of the girls in Matts class had a little boy late last night . All growing up - now THAT makes me feel old xxxx

You will be fine with the baby, I still have three in the house everyday, it keeps you young

Well I suppose I have Tom (11) DH (55) Hamster (a boy aged 18 months) so thats like a small army really isin't it????

Think the hardest bit will be getting into a routine with him - his Mummy is in a fantastic routine but we are very laid back here. DS will be dropping him off by 7am and picking him up about 6.30pm four days a week!!!!!!!!!!!!! Mind you he will be 8 months old by then GS I mean not DS!!

Tom wants to push the pram to High school and push it home at night.....so we will be back doing the school run again

Loving your Christmas name by the way xx

why Pink Frogs?????

Ages ago - Frumpy Grumpy on the multiples thread said I was as mad as a pink frog - it just stuck after that

Ahh I see

I have my 3rd memory day tomorrow. Chynna would have been 17 tomorrow, 10.12.91 - 12.12.91