Fraser's thread for bereaved mummies: Death leaves a heartache no-one can heal - Love leaves a memory no-one can steal

[frasersmummy]

Hello my good friends

Its lovely to be asked to set up our new support tread especially as we head towards our first festive season supporting each other.

I hope Frasers part of the journey is as smooth as Eris, Jack and Matt&Gareths

I hope you mean the nice pic Shabs....... and not the Quasi one!!! Thanks Everlong. Several family members were bemused by the choice of name i wanted an old fashioned name and was very moved by the poetry of Wilfred Owen when i was at school. He was such a fascinating man. He was injured in WW1 and insisted on returning to the front when he was better to replace the injured Siegfried Sassoon. He died a week before Armistice Day. His mother received news of his death on AD! ....... I took Wilf to London on Monday and by the time we got off the train( a commuter one) the whole carriage was laughing with him. He adores one of the guards on the train a Jamaican guy called Theo....he saw him coming up the carriage and stood up and shouted "TEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEO" Cheeky Monkey Teo" Theo was equally delighted and replied "Hello there my man its a long time since i last see you!" The carriage was in hysterics!
I'm off to see my friends children in their school play tonight. Louis is very special to me as he was born on my birthday four years ago. I call him my extra special birthday present!

Course I mean the nice onces

Will just link you all to my other thread........ too long to explain again on here.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/bereavement/659896-Im-so-proud-of-my-son-Wilfred

Morning girls xx

Morning .............xxxxx

Us too Everlong - had to walk my son all the way up a steep hill to High school!! I love ice skating but that was just ridiculous. Should be 2,000 pupils in the school today - I would be amazed if there are more than half who actually made it.

Some of the kids were walking in the road - but the rain is pouring down and its still really dark. My heart was in my mouth all the way there and back.

Lets hope the sun comes out soon!!

Noticed you on another thread Everlong - the advice you gave was exactly right - well done my friend

Ive just had a lovely surprise...my stepson rang me about an hour ago and he's calling to see me tonight as he is in the area. I havent seen him for nearly three years so am so excited!

WOW great suprise Lottie - hope you have a good 'catch up'

hi girls and thanks to everyone for the candles lit for jayden,sorry not been online but broke laptop monday so my dd at work so sneaked on hers ,well weather is crap no school or anything today as everyone snowed in.
yesterday mil feel in the house and broke her hip so waiting for op today,shes 73 so hoping it goes well.
gosh i never relised how much id miss you girls ive been lost without you,had to clean everyday instead.

Hi everyone,
Not having a good day, Its 6 months today since Noah died and I've just completely broken down this afternoon. DH is away with work until tommorrow so can't really speak to him. I've just been feeling so down lately, last week was my birthday and we went away for a few days but I just felt so miserable. I just miss Noah so much and think about him constantly it doesn't seem to get any easier. I'm also 14 weeks pregnant and am feeling really anxious about that (by some coincidence the baby is due on Noah's Remember day which I'm finding hard to deal with although I know its unlikey to arrive then). I've been feeling nautious and having mild stomach ache most of the day and I'm convinced that there will be something wrong when I see the midwife next week I've been worrying like this for the last few weeks but have been too scared to do anything about it. . Have got some friends coming over this eve to watch Mamma Mia, It was only arranged today before I realised it was the 4th (had been convinced it was only the 3rd) and now It feels so wrong to do it. I just want to curl up in a corner somewhere. Sorry to go on but I just had to let off to someone.

PinkFrog - stop changing your name I can't keep up! its too confusing. xx

Lottie you must be so proud of Wilf. I'll try and watch it next week, Would you remind us the night before? x

hey darling big hugs to you and congratulations too,i know its hard,my dd was just like you,youll never forget noah,never and the hurt never goes away,but youll get there honestly,jayden believe me will never be forgottenx

Hi all......... was so so lovely to see my Peter tonight. I have never ever treated him like a stepson always like hes my special big brother(hes eight years older than me) We had such a lovely hour together catching up!

TLK Sorry you are feeling rough, hope you managed to get through this evening.
Take care
love CM

Lighthouse - I am so sorry that you are trying to be 'normal' so very sorry that things are crap for you. Noah is your precious boy.....I have just come home from my dear friend Joannes. We have had this discussion tonight that we pretend we are fine...that everything is ok......but IT IS NOT. We allow other people to say what they think etc etc. Please listen. We care about you so much. We are all friends on our special thread. I think that all of us would take each others pain away if we could. We wander around OUR LIFE and think.....maybe in a few months everything will be just fine, maybe it wont hurt so bad.......IT WILL HURT LIKE MAD BECAUSE WE ARE FANTASTIC MUMS AND WE ADORE OUR CHILDREN.

Lighthouse, please come and say how you feel. I promise that I will say the truth if you will xxxx

Good morning girls xx

Morning xx

Your secrets safe with me Everlong.

I bet he didn't think that at all.

I cried all over our local town and I didnt care either!!!

Have a good day Everlong xxx

Morning all

Everlong I would often start crying in shops , sometimes it just comes from nowhere . I don't think anybody ever asked me why .

Lighthouse I hope your evening went ok last night . An evening with good friends always helps me .

morning girls hope everyone feeling better the snow is going a little,dd gone to colledge so nipped on here to say hello.
shabs im so glad you came on last nite you always say the right things.
my dd rang this morning everyday little old lady lately has come out and said hello to amelia in buggy,but called her jayden ,anyway this morning dd told her this is not jayden,its his sister jayden passed away 2 years ago.
ah she says i thought he wasnt growing and wondered why you dressed him in pink,hey i said to dd i thought we were the mad ones.
dd thinks she must have been in hospital when jayden died as she is in her 80s.