For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

[lottiejenkins]

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

Shabs, desn't sound like any sort of weakness o m. Souns ike a loving fist-time-babysitting grandmother who has all too sadly experienced the loss of a child (or worseinyour case, children.) Itwill d you all goo - Dan and Em to remember that they are people and parters, not just parents, and you tohave a chance to look after your grandson and to re-remember that itdoesn't always go wrong.

Lottie, what did men do to gve you such a lo opinion? How is Wilf feeling thismorning?

FM, I turnd into a light-weigt with dink assoon as had children, but at least I'm a cheap date I could tell you some horrfic stories of when dd1 was a baby and I naively didn't realise that I couldn't handle my drink anymore! It trulyis a wonder the poor little loe is a stable as she is ! (That makes it sound like I'm confessing to bein a neglectful mother! I'm not (on either count) but I was just yound and a bitdense abou motherhood!)

Ilike, I am 27 weeks now. My midwife is good - and I know I could see her whenever I want. But I don't really want to. It's stange really -I feel panickier and panickier as time goeson but at the same time I am strangely calm, with a bit of a "what will be, will be" attitude. I think it's just me protecting myself, but hey ho!

Although on a positive note, we are going out to look a travel systems today AND I thik we ll (me, dp, dd1 and ds that is) agreed on a name the other day! I won't besharing it til she is born cos she should be the first to kno it, but it makes her see a bit more "real" IYSWIM?

Anywa, loads to do so must go!

Have a lovely day all! xx

FMN.....i got chatting to a gorgeous guy who looked just like Liam out of Coronation Street...then saw him making faces when he thought i wasnt looking!

Wilf has another patch on his bottom lip as well now so its a good job he aint going to school!

His loss Lottie - only his loss xxx

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/bereavement/643672-Had-the-most-terrible-news

Have linked our thread to a newly bereaved mum of a grown up son. I hope she comes to talk for a while with us.

Only a few spaces left on this thread - so sad that we have to be here, but so delighted that we have all found each other.

Thanks Shabs for passing the baton to me and Jack for this leg..........

No worries at all Lottie - Wilfs sense of humour and your friendship did swing it for me!!!

Did you see my facebook profile that dear Wilf wrote for me Shabs??.............??

No I didn't I will go and have a nosey

ive changed it now.......twas the one that was there before!!

Lottie, hope you gave him a mental slap round the face with a wet kipper!

I did......i also went up in my drunken state and gave him a kiss on the cheek when i left! He was so hot it isnt fair....how many Liam Connor lookalikes come into my life? Not many!!

TWOFALLS - I'm so sorry, I saw your post a few days ago but forgot to mention that I had read it.

Thank you so much for thinking about us, I am really touched. I often think about you, your friend and his wife, and I also remembered that it is his remember day very shortly.

I hope the passing year has treated you and your friend kindly. Your posts always showed what a great friend you were to both of them.

Thanks for the congratulations on Mac. he's gorgeous and looks just like his big brother

Hi Everyone

I will go and attempt to start a new thread for us just now

I know we have a few spaces left but I am working tomorrow and probs wont get on till late .. and I wouldnt want us to run out of space

You can of course finish this thread for Jack before switching over

Evening ladies. Hope you are all okay. Haven't been around really the past week as have had a bad cold and feeling generally rotten.

Ilike - you and Cole have been in my thoughts. How is Mac doing?

love to you all xx

As promised here is our new thread .. at least I think this link will work

Fraser's Thread

I hope you will all come join me over here when we have exhausted this one

Thanks for this thread Lottie and for passing me the baton

Lottie I swear men were just put on this earth to annoy us ... You can do better than this eejit

shabster.. checking on lewis was anything but pathetic. Ask any grandmother they will tell you they do this too the only difference your fear is a lot more real

You are a really strong lady shabster dont put yourself down

lighthouse I hope you feel better soon

fmn after the 24 weeks viability I remember a period of well I have to give birth no matter what now so I have to trust that the hospital wont let it happen again. It was a very odd mixture of worry and thinking nah it wont happen again. I do think of you a lot

Thank you FMammy - I was hoping that you ladies would understand why I am barking mad

Just think, we have shared 3,000 messages on our thread.....3,000 messages of sadness, happiness, tears, grins, drunken ramblings (for which I apologise) candle lighting to honour our children.

I appreciate everyones friendship so much xx

Thanks FrasersMummy xxxxxx

Matts favourite assembly song

Just wanted to leave Matts song on Jacks thread - although we sang this at Matts funeral it makes me smile. There is light at the end of the tunnel my friends....I'm right behind all of you with a carrier bag full of new light bulbs just in case

ooh shabster thats one of my favourite songs too .. really made me smile

as it says on a desk in my office

I thought I could see a light at the end of the tunnel..but it turned out to be just some bugger with a torch bringing more work!!!

The majority of the children (about 150 school mates) had the day off school and came to the funeral. They sang it exactly like that, actions and everything. They all had their school uniforms on - bright red jumpers - it lit up the church. All the congregation joined in and did the actions. This may sound so weird - but IT WAS GREAT

Anytime you need a friend

For everybody on our threads

I like been thinking of you and praying for you, Cole and Mac and the family.

Shabs I DO think you are mad but in a good way .

I regularly go in to check if DCs are okay 'tis normal, even more so in our circumstances.

Lottie, you can do better girl and you know it.

FM well done on the new thread, will promise to try harder

FMN you can spill the beans on the name, just tell her now, she can kick once for yes twice for no.

TLK hope you are feeling better soon, we have had the dreaded S & D here this weekend, only me tho hank goodness.

Was anyone else blubbing like a baby or was it just me watching the remembrance day service this morning and losing the plot. All those proud old fellas marching along like gooduns.

Right off to catch up with new thread night night

Hopefully i can get this message up! Thanks for everything on Jacks leg of the thread! Speak to you all on Fraser's thread! xxxxx