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For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

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lottiejenkins · 10/09/2008 14:01

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

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charleymouse · 31/10/2008 01:34

Thinking of you and your little ones Shoshe.

Sorry Lottie, how are you?

travellingwilbury · 31/10/2008 08:28

Morning all

How is everyone doing today ? Has anyone heard from Tiamummy ? I am a bit worried about her

shabster · 31/10/2008 08:51

Morning love - not heard anything from her and not noticed her on any threads.

travellingwilbury · 31/10/2008 08:57

Hopefully she will pop back and let us know how she is .

How are you doing ? Are you feeling any brighter ?

shabster · 31/10/2008 09:09

Im OK love - think I just hate the thought of Winter. Makes me really fed up with my lot!!!

travellingwilbury · 31/10/2008 09:11

All the run up to christmas doesn't help either does it ?
We have Harrys anniversary on the 2nd Dec and I always struggle with the whole christmas thing

shabster · 31/10/2008 09:25

Christmas has gone easier for me but, there again, many years have passed. Its Gareth and Dannys 27th birthday on the 28th December and that is a difficult day. We have to celebrate for Danny but it is so sad without his twin. He must feel it so much. Especially now that he has a little boy who is more like Gareth than he was!!!

We just have to keep plodding along our crappy path dont we?

travellingwilbury · 31/10/2008 09:28

We do indeed . I do end up having a good christmas and I always think that I have to give my boys the christmas I would want to give Harry if he was there so that helps .

Losing a twin brings its own set of troubles eh ? It is such a unique relationship .

xxx

ILikeToScareYouScareYou · 31/10/2008 11:44

Morning everyone.

Lottie - I hope yesterday was ok for you. I know you're having a mad time at the moment anyway, nevermind with your anniversary.

I've been thinking about Tiamummy a lot as well, I hope she is ok .......... well ok as you can be.

lottiejenkins · 31/10/2008 12:58

Thanks ILTSYSY............ it gets worse........the water is now going back into the pantry which is the lowest point of the house! I think im going to need an ark shortly..................

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shabster · 01/11/2008 08:28

Good morning girls - Lottie keep singing 'things can only get better!' When I win the lottery tonight I will sort it all out for you xx

shabster · 01/11/2008 10:54

Ive put Lewis' Halloween picture on my profile....he looks very funny

shabster · 01/11/2008 17:19

Is it something I said?

Where is everybody?

hazygirl · 01/11/2008 17:56

hi im here xx

frasersmummy · 01/11/2008 21:33

I am here..

I was thinking earlier today that everyone appears to be in hiding

Ross is at his grandparents tonight soI have demolished a bottle of pinot grigio and about to start another one

I have searched for posts by tiasmummy but she doesnt seem to be around at the mo.. maybe she justs wants to be alone at the mo

how many "guisers" as we say up here did you have last night.. we had over 30

frasersmummy · 01/11/2008 21:34

lottie.. you must be in bits..

where is all the water coming from???

shabster · 02/11/2008 01:49

Just got home. Had an email from Tiasmummy tonight. She sounds ok - is staying with a friend. Thought that you would like to know. Much love to you all - see you in the morning.......well - later

ILikeToScareYouScareYou · 02/11/2008 09:15

Morning ladies,

Frasersmummy - we didn't have any trick or treaters on Friday. Which is strange considering we live in a village which is packed full of families, and especially as it was half term. Maybe our building site/extension kept them away.

Baby Mac celebrated though, he had a skeleton babygro that glowed in the dark!

I'm glad Tiamummy is ok, I often think about her.

It's Cole's remember day this coming Friday. I feel ok about it at the moment, but I'm expecting that to change.

shabster · 02/11/2008 09:38

Will be lighting my candles for Coles remember day.

Good morning girls.

frasersmummy · 02/11/2008 09:41

I like.. this is one of those situations that people who have not lost a child dont get it isnt ..

they just dont seem to understand the way the hurt buildsover the course of the days before..

take it easy this week.. well as easy as you can with mac

sending you hugs

shabster · 02/11/2008 09:57

I always find that the remember day is much easier than the 'build up' to it. Usually find peace and calm on the day (and afew snotty tears )

feedmenow · 02/11/2008 10:52

Morning all! Have been away for a few days due to training course and dodgy computer.

Shoshe, I didn't mean to ask about your children then bugger off and not reply - sorry! But thank you for answering my question. I can't imagine how you must have felt with them all being prem.

Lottie, glad that things are slowly getting sorted. Would, of course, be gladder if they got sorted for your quicker, but something is better than nothing I suppose!

Shabs, Lewis looks so cute and so stunned!

Ilike, I hope this week is gentle for you and that having Mac helps ease your pain at least a little.

I have got a sunday lunch from hell ahead of me today. PIL's anniversary so going to BIL & SIL's for dinner. We wanted to go out for lunch cos it is easier for everyone to enjoy and relax. But they decided we can't go out because their children are too difficult so we are going to theirs instead. However, we are having to prepare and par-cook the potatoes and parnsips, plus I have made an anniversary cake and 2 puddings. And we are eating at, what in our house, is a ridiculous time for children - 4 o'clock. Oh, and we have to go round early to actually help get everything ready. I don't mind helping out, but it does p*ss me off a bit because we would much rather have gone out and been able to relax - instead I have already spent all day yesterday cooking, and dp is spending his morning preparing the pots!!

But rant over now! Have a lovely yesterday everyone!

shabster · 02/11/2008 11:04

Good to see you FMN - hope you have a good day

lottiejenkins · 02/11/2008 11:08

I dont know where the water is coming from FM.............. i have a horrible feeling there is a leak in the heating pipes somewhere!

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frasersmummy · 02/11/2008 20:16

I took my dh to the airport to catch a flight to Manchester tonight .

Now I remember why I normally make him get a taxi I simply cannot say goodbye at an airport gate without bubbling like a flaming eejit.!!

I met a friend today who was telling me her dog had died but obviously didnt want to say so in front of Ross. She was saying stuff like its in the sky. Ross looked bemused and said why , I cant see it

I said oh Ross my friends dog died and is in heaven. Was it old and sick mummy .. yeah. Oh well Fraser can play with it now.

I am really proud that he can cope with the concept of death so well but its hearbreaking that he has had to

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