For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

[lottiejenkins]

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

I think its a lovely idea evansmummy . I am sorry to hear about your brother and I completely get the thing of drinking maybe too much . I did that for a long time .

evansmummy, I'm in....... am over qualified

Sounds like a great idea evansmummy, but I'm so sorry about your brother. It sounds like you and Vag should kick things off and bring some peopole who need to talk together.

hi i think its a brill ideas,been to a bonfire firework tonight and girls got upset at fireworks tonight as she thought they would hurt her little brother,now im thinking do we do right saying hes up there,i dont want them any more confused than already.
fmn the crocs are away horray,shiny shoes on now,amelia didnt get any as didnt walk,this week walking all over so back to shoe shop i think.

ooh hazy .. how did you cope with that question ??

its soo hard trying to explain death to kids isnt it.. and it takes your breath away when you are somewhere where you are not thinking about it and your little one starts asking about it.

aside fron this did you enjoy the fireworks

our local one was ok .. nothing brilliant ..but ok ..Ross got bored 20 mins in

i say heaven is after clouds,they dont go that far up do they,the fireworks were ok , but the girls didnt cry this year at least,she did say to me as we set off if i cry tell me not to be silly blss her

I like that Hazy - HEAVEN IS AFTER THE CLOUDS.

That is perfect

hi shabs are you feeling betterx

Not really Hazy - dont know what the hell is wrong with me. Think its the menopause - I had the blood tests done last year and it was confirmed. I feel so gloomy and down in the dumps. Every little thing gets 'on top of me'.

No major reason - just fed up with my lot at the moment I think.

Give me a kick up the arse bum Hazy, sort me out!!

ooh will have to start thinking about our new thread sooon

well done hazy .. another hurdle crossed.. god there are more than any of us every imagined arent they

Just think when this thread finishes we will have had 3,000 messages between us. So glad to know all of you....just wish it was different circumtances.

or even CIRCUMSTANCES!

hi girls,

Am not a bereaved mum so don't often post but pop in here to see how you're all doing.

How's Tiasmummy, does anyone know?

Hiya love.....I got an email from tiasmummy about a week ago. She was staying with relatives and trying to sort things out.

thanks shabs, I hope she's ok.

love to her and to all of you and your precious little ones.

Thank you my love.

Dont be a stranger on this thread...xxx

Hi everybody.
Just wanted to catch up on how Feedme is doing (we were on the pg after mc thread together) and am thinking of you often. Glad your scan went well and good that you'll talk to a consultant about antibodies.

We are thinking about a little sibling for DS, but I keep thinking, we can only start trying once I could cope with another mc or worse. I am still grieving for my first child. I know you understand, although nobody in RL does. You are all so strong, unfortunately had to be. I admire you.

All the best to everybody.

Good morning girls.

Hiya Glimmer. Stay around my love xx

hi girlsxhope you all ok xx shabster ill give you that kick up the bum i often need it myself.
olivia asked my youngestdd to go to school and complain as she wasnt allowed to play out after dinner ,reason why she stayed and had second helpings then bellwent ,haha

Awww Hazy - your grandbabies sound lovley!! Cant wait till Lew is talking because he is going to be one rum bugger (as my Gran would say!)

He smiles for everybody but stares at me and my Mum (his great grandma) without blinking! I think he knows he is not going to win any battles with us

He has my son and his DP wrapped around his little finger. He plays them both off till he gets his own way - and he is only 5 months old.

To be honest, my son is very low at the moment. He is finding full time work (and plenty of overtime) day release to Manchester Uni, coping with Em's PND (its still there tho not as bad), lack of money, etc etc a bit overwhelming at the moment. He said last night that sometimes when he looks at Lew it makes him sob. He is very, very like Gareth and Matt. Wish I could wave a magic wand and take his troubles away.

Movit, sorry to hijack this thread but I have been looking out for you because I thought Cole's remember day must be coming up. I have been thinking about you because it is also my friend's coming up and I remember how kind you were to me, despite going through an awful time yourself.

And congratulations on Mac by the way.

And love and thoughts to all of you who are coping with such terrible things. I think it is amazing the way you are all supporting each other.

Thanks twofalls xx

you know ladies we have created a very special little space on mn here

Its a place where people can wander in say a few words and wander out again .. sometimes never coming back, sometimes popping back from time to time and sometimes staying for a gab...

its soo stress free!

ilike.. I have been thinking about cole's remember day.. Unfortunately I will be at work tomorrow so if I dont get time to post please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.. will light my candle for cole when I get home

so happy birthday for tomorrow cole

happy birthday cole and big hugs xxwill be thinking of you tomorrowxx

Evening all! Just another quickie from me as ds is calling me to go and read his book!

Evansmummy, a thread for bereaved siblings sounds like a really lovely idea. As everyone else has said, the support you get from people who have been in your shoes is fantastic.

Shabs, sorry you are still feeling down my lovely. For some reason, the suggestion "maybe you should take up/try out bellydancing" popped in to my head!!!! No idea why, but maybe you should give it a go anyway!
Thinking of you, Dan, Em and Lewis. x

Glimmer, so lovely of you to come by! Thank you, I really apreciate it! It just sucks, doesn't it, tat things happen that cast shadows over our lives? I was talking to dd1 about mc last night (she feels life is very unfait that we lost 2 babies, one in a first tri mc and then Eris) and it struck me that it happens so often, far too often, and that there is nothing we can do to protect ourselves from it. But when you are ready, you'll get through it. x

Ilike, lots of love to you, dp, Mac and Cole for his remember day tomorrow. x