For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

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Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

Frasersmammy - why to Manchester? Why am I a nosey pig? We live about 8 miles away from the city center and it used to be my 'stamping ground' as a teenager

Im glad your DS has his 'head' around death. Wish he didn't have to but feel proud of him!

dh is implementing some sort of new system for rbs.

He is down there to see how one of their main processing centres copes with the new system.

so if your direct debits dont work tomorrow then you know why

He has just called me to say he is not coming home because he has a gigantic bed, a 40 inch plasma on the wall and a subscription to sky sports

Sorry for being a nosey pig!!! Manchester has changed so much. When we went into the center to watch the Osmonds I was almost totally lost and just wandered around behind my friend with a stupid expression on my face.

His hotel sounds lovely

not lurking honest.

Sorry not really caught up, thinking of you all take care love CM

Good morning girls xx

morning everyone. ow is everyone?

Been for my blood tests this morning. YAY -NOT!!
Went on holiday with my DS's and sister last week and hated it. It was freezing, the boys cried every nite cause they wanted their dad (who couldnt come as he had to do training for his new job) and my sister was useless!! She didnt want to do anything, wanted to lay in everyday, wouldnt help with the kids and complained SHE was tired all the time!! I'd been up since 5.30 evry morning, pregnant and running round after 2 kids. GRRRR!
I didnt expect her to do everything for me but just would of appreciated a break or a bit of a hand once in a while. So we left a day early, the second we got home the boys were SO much happier. Now I remember why im not that close to my sister.

X

morning girls x hope you are all ok.been busy at work ,took two eldest granddaughters out for new shoes as they were refusing t remove their crocs that i got in summer for them,its too cold now for them now ,i cringed when they look down and see granny got hers on still. yes i cant afford new shoes i lie you need more than me since granny doesnt go out.
well im off away or weekend to stay with friends at portsmouth,hope we get there quicker this time as naf man liedlast time,nav man is called naf man by my grandkids x haha

Hi everyone,

Hazy I was so sorry to hear about your dog. Hope you are okay.

Hope everyone else is okay. It's cold here have the heating turned up and am refusing to go out!

Mel, sorry you had a rotten holiday. My DH was meant to be off last week and today and has had to go into work everyday but 1. I could scream as this also happened when he was supposed to be off in August. If I didn't know better I'd say he didn't like spending time with me

HI all

shabster you are not nosey ...its nice that we take notice of stuff that goes on in each others life.

whats with the pink frogs by the way..I sawa reference to them on here and didnt get it .and then noticed the multiples thread says it .. am I missing something??

Ilike how are you holding up

mel its really annoying when there is another adult who doesnt help. Its actually easier to be on your own cos you just know you have to do everything.

I got in trouble at work today for daring to try and help someone in my office who had a series of 3 bereavements in his close family and has had a serious breakdown because of it. I got told by my boss.. you shouldnt talk to him about his personal life.. he needs to get beyond it and get back to work

I had to really bite my tongue hard not to flip out and tell them where to go

frazersmum thats awful if only people relisedxgood on you for trying you help xx

One of the lovley, lovley multiple mums - Frumpy Grumpy always says that I am as mad as a pink frog

Think she may have something there

Oh FM you keep doing what you are doing - in fact give him a massive snog from me and tell him it will slowly get better.

I despise people who think we should 'be over it, get over it, dont talk about it etc etc'

Well done you for giving a damn about someone who is feeling crap.

[big hug for FM emoticon]

Good morning girls xx

Good morning all xxx

good morning girlsxxxxxx

Well the builders quotes have gone off to the insurance company now! Im so so fed up with it........ i put my foot through the floor last night!

FM - your boss sounds like a right plonker (very tame description there).

Mel, sounds like a bit of a crappy holiday for you

Shabs, I like the mad as pink frogs thing! Although surely there are pink frogs in the world?

Charley, Hazy how are you both? hazy, did you convince the girls out of their crocs yet?

I have had an "exciting" day - growth scan went well and baby is growing to plan. Alythough I have protein in my urine so am doing a 24 hour test. Great fun carrying a pee-tub and pee-jug around at work in a tesco bag!!

Also finally got to speak to my consultant about the anti jkb antibodies they found in my blood in July. Hopefulyl chances of anything bad are very slim, but lots of action being taken just in case. But I also found out that I now need to carry a Blood Transfusion ID card for life in case I need emergency transfusions

Anyway, must go and read with ds now before snuggling him in bed. Will hopefully convince dd1 into bed soon afterwards so that I can go to bed myself!

Good morning girls xxx

Good morning xxx

Morning ladies.

I'm just here to ask your opinion on something. I have noticed the amazing way you support each other on this thread, and not wanting to detract from it, or step on anyone's toes, I wanted to know what you thoght about me starting a similar thread for bereaved siblings.

My brother died a little over 5 months ago, and I have notcied that there are a few of us who have lost brothers and sisters around. Each time someone posts, it's amazing to be able to leave messages of support for them, but you know, you never want to hijack someone else's thread, while all the time needing to share your own grief somewhere. So a specific thread for siblings seems a natural progression...

I don't want to upset anyone though, so wanted to check it out with you first.

Thanks xx

I think it is an excellent idea EM well done you!

I think that is a fantastic idea. Go for it!

I know that the self help group THE COMPASSIONATE FRIENDS has a group for bereaved siblings if that is of any help to you. If you havent got there contact details and you would like them just shout up.

Great idea

Oh FMN and Eris - see what you started? what a fantastic legacy Eris has left on this Earth.

evansmummy I am sorry about your brother ... how are you holding up. I think the thread is a great idea.

This thread has been such a help and is a really nice place to come and say I feel crappy today and know people will understand

I think creating more threads like this can only be a good thing

There may also be some cross over from this thread in that we might get some tips on helping the siblings of our angels.

you go ahead...

Thanks for your encouragement. I will do it.

Shabster, I am registered on TCF siblings forum, but didn't find it to be very helpful, unfortunately.

fm, I'm plodding along. It isn't getting any easier, and I thought it would. I'm hating being back at work and thinking about stopping. I still look forward to the evenings before they days I'm not working so I can get drunk. Sad.