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For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

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lottiejenkins · 10/09/2008 14:01

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

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shabster · 13/09/2008 17:59

Thanks a lot - Im starving now!!!

'Angry food' ROFL.

hazygirl · 13/09/2008 18:32

hi me too x fil taken into hospital taken a turn for the worse,dh is in pieces ,trips he will be alright once on a drip wont he

shabster · 13/09/2008 18:46

Hazy - dont know if Trips is around but I am SURE she said her DH was much better when he went on the drip. Sending my love and thinking about you x

triplets · 13/09/2008 19:02

Hazy......try not to panic. I am sure if he hasn`t been drinking it will be dehydration, Harry looked at deaths door I kid you not. He was on a drip for 24 hours and looked amazingly different. I can tell the signs now, he gets disorientated, tired, feels sick and his eyes go very glazed. Please keep us posted, he is in the right place. Thinking of you all xxxxxxx

hazygirl · 13/09/2008 19:24

cheers girls,sat here knowing nothing is doing me in ,thanks for that

triplets · 13/09/2008 19:34

what time did he go in Hazy?

hazygirl · 13/09/2008 20:14

half six.bil just rang looks like kidneys are failing.dh wont go down to hospital ,he was with jayden and says he cant do it again,but will regret i know,oh shit cant do this again x

Boop · 13/09/2008 21:40

Hello Ladies
Sorry not been on, was in Butlins x
I posted on the last thread before I saw it was to full X
Anyway little bit about my beautiful girls, Eva and Bo, were the result of IVF, Eva is now 2.2 x We lost Bo at 30/32 weeks.
Things are ok, but still cant get how I can feel ok and then feel so blue the next x
We have had a alot of fertility issues, and doubt we will have any more children, as I have endomitriosis, had miscarriage, and eptopic last year. Have a blood condition that showed up when I was pregnant, and could of had an affect on what happened to Bo x
I know she is around, and will always look after her sister, as she did when they were together inside xxxxxx
Thanks for your welcomes, and look forward to getting to know you all x x
Today is a better day, but have found out an old friend is preg with IVF Twins, I am very pleased, but feel jelous too, is this normal?? Dont normally feel this way at all, am I becoming bitter? x
Anyway, thanks ladies x Boopxxxxxxxx

lottiejenkins · 13/09/2008 21:42

Welcome to Jacks thread Boop.......... Hazy........... am thinking of you and your family and praying for your dh's father xxxxxxxxx

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triplets · 13/09/2008 21:47

Dont give up Hazy, Harry was on the point of kidney failure when he went in, if I hadnt nagged and he had been left here another day I am sure he would have collapsed. Keep with us xxxx

Doobydoo · 13/09/2008 21:47

Lovely thread title.What utterly fab photos ShabsterHe looks very cheeky and happy.
Hannah would be 18 on 2nd OctoberFind that amazing.Lots of stuff going on here at the mo with family and bereavements and dp made redundant.So lots to think about as we may come back to UK.wILL CATCH UP WITH REST OF THREAD NOW.X

Doobydoo · 13/09/2008 21:50

Hello to all who have joined.Stick with us!
Oh Hazy,am thinking of you and all of you tbh.xx

hazygirl · 13/09/2008 22:40

hes been admitted to hdu and potassium levels are sky highx thanks girls for your supportx

shabster · 14/09/2008 02:01

I want to put this message on here but I dont want to upset either Hazy or your family.

OK - here goes. Jayden was a new soul....a precious baby. He should not have died. He should still be here.

OH HAZY PLEASE FORGIVE ME FOR SPEAKING MY MIND, PLEASE.

Your FIL has had quite a long life....he has watched his children and grandchildren grow and thrive.

What happened to Jayden was not normal...he should have lived a long, long life. He was sent to this earth for a reason.

It is the natural thing in our world for older people to pass on. NOW I FEEL AWFUL FOR SAYING THAT BECAUSE I AM LUCKY I STILL HAVE MY MUM AND DAD HERE. I hope and pray that your FIL gets better, but it is the natural passage of life.

I would never hurt your feelings....I promise I dont want to fall out or hurt you. Oh I am just going to slap myself around the face and shut up.

I am here whenever you need me Hazy. If you want my phone number just shout up. xxxx

shabster · 14/09/2008 02:04

OK now I have put my foot in things over and over...

Boop - welcome to our thread and Im sorry you have to meet us this way.

I feel awful about how I have put my feelings down on here and I hope Hazy will forgive me.

Boop - will come and tomorrow and have a gab xxxxx

shabster · 14/09/2008 08:41

Morning girls xx

hazygirl · 14/09/2008 10:36

morning shabs i feel the same,i said it to dh last night ,fil is much improved renal failure last night which put strain on his heart,cathetrised and on a drip ,saved this time,he is consious now as wasnt last nite,but dh has gone to work,its brookes bday today and we have to be there for her.
shabs you speak sense you can never offend me ,you girls keep me going when at times i find it hard ,i come here and even if i dont post i lurke i confess ,xx

triplets · 14/09/2008 10:37

It is the normal pasage of time Shabs, but dependant on what age we lose our parents I think. My Dad was 74, but selfishly I still want him here now, he would be 82, there are bungalows full of 80/90 year old by me and they are all off down the town twice a day!

HAZY...how old is he? Potassium levels can be sorted, it was the opposite with Harry, his were too low, even now he is supposed to eat a banana a day as they are packed with the stuff, but he only probably eats 3/4 a week if I am lucky! Hope you start to hear of some improvement xxx

triplets · 14/09/2008 10:39

There Hazy we are here at the same time.......so I can send you a

shabster · 14/09/2008 10:48

Oh thank God I didn't offend you Hazy - my big mouth runs away with itself sometimes

I will be devestated when I loose my parents so I know what you mean Trips.

triplets · 14/09/2008 10:51

What age are they now Shabs?

shabster · 14/09/2008 10:55

My dad is 76 and my mum is 74

hazygirl · 14/09/2008 10:55

he is 77,tbh he had quad bypass about 12 years ago,we should have lost him then,just feel guilty we made him have bowel operation and he did so well to get improved to be knocked down with leaukama and cant treat him.i know we are on borrowed time now and one time we will run out but want one last birthday,one last christmas,but then id want another.
with jayden it was hell ,and i will never forgive god for taking him away,why the hell he has to take our children ,why.
jayden should be two on thur sday,he should have a party celebrate,instead we get a bloody visit to a cemetry,a few cards from peoplethat will talk about him instead of changing the subject sorry girls im ranting ,my face is a mess and my dad is coming down in an hour and ill get told off for been like this iykwim xx

shabster · 14/09/2008 10:59

Hazy - know exactly what you mean. Dont know why precious children die - if anybody out there knows a good answer I would be delighted to learn why.

triplets · 14/09/2008 11:23

Well, the awful fct is, it happens every day, everywhere in the world, but............our kids were loved and had a wonderful life with usm no matter how short. I often make myself think of all those thousands of poor kids who die every day, who have nothing......nothing, no parents, no food, no home, no love, so mamy mant lost souls .........oh

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