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For Bereaved Mummies. Remembering Jack and our other precious little ones... the sharing of hurt is the beginnning of healing.

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lottiejenkins · 10/09/2008 14:01

Third time lucky........ Thanks to Shabs and FMN. I hope i can carry the baton as well as you did. I havent made a good start though. Things can only get better.........

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triplets · 15/09/2008 13:38

Hi Hazy,
At last you know if they have moved him that he is in the right place, getting all the care he so needs, try to keep ositive, I know how hard that can be at times, we are all here holding you up xxxx

lottiejenkins · 15/09/2008 17:11

Afternoon all.... I have just got back from my reflexology and massage and feel nicely relaxed. My practitioner Hannah is lovely she comes to the house and does Wilfs feet to help him with his "toilet problems" and he always tells people that Hannah "plays with his feet" Mummy then explains what she really does!!

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hazygirl · 15/09/2008 19:15

hi girls back again,fil seems much improved in new hospital,a lot better,better hospital ,better staff and specialist care for renal treatment,doing more tests today so should know more,
thanks girls for keeping us goingxx

shabster · 15/09/2008 19:28

no worries whatsoever Hazy - just wish I could do more - you sound much more positive and upbeat xxx

Moveit - please, please can you email me your address? sharon dot hillman at ntlworld.com

lottiejenkins · 15/09/2008 20:20

hazy......... im glad that things are looking brighter! Shabs would you like my email address? would be good to keep in touch that way too?

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shabster · 15/09/2008 20:42

That would be really good Lottie.

triplets · 15/09/2008 21:43

Hazy..................brilliant news, there is so much they can do, never give up, one minute Harry looks so awful, like tonight, I fret, worry, then another day he is off to the allotment on his bike! I am sure they will sort him out, you`ll be surprised, just keep strong xxxxx

frasersmummy · 15/09/2008 21:50

evening girls... its been raining here solidly all day long

I'm glad things are a bit better at the moment hazy.. I think you are really brave to deal with all of this . Like I said i had a friend who went through this and I watched her suffer day in day out. Its horrid to see a loved one so ill and not be able to help.

sending you hugs

shabster · 15/09/2008 21:55

hiya frasersmammy - its been dull here in Lancashire all day as well. Just been outside and it smells like bonfire night - Autumn is racing along.

I feel a bit weird tonight - keep hearing a boy shouting Mam - I was convinced it was Tom but he is asleep. Only one of my four boys called me Mam and his name was....Matthew!!

Bit odd and a little un-nerving BUT comforting as well.

I haven't been drinking either

frasersmummy · 15/09/2008 22:14

hey shabs its strange when you feel something odd like this happening to you isnt it ??

its almost like you know your loved one is nearby

frasersmummy · 15/09/2008 22:18

i've just noticed a thread on here asking for opinions on the royal alexandra hosp in paisley

this was where I lost Fraser but also where I give birth to Ross..

will be keeping my mouth shut (for a change)

will lurk and see what gets said..

shabster · 15/09/2008 22:20

LOL at lurking and keeping your mouth shut!!! You have a good sense of humour my friend.

shabster · 15/09/2008 23:38

Good night my friends, sleep tight xx

shabster · 16/09/2008 07:30

Good morning - its cold this morning!

lottiejenkins · 16/09/2008 07:49

Morning. I only opened the door to get the papers out of the letterbox Shabs but it looks brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr out there!!

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hazygirl · 16/09/2008 09:14

hi girls its raining here and cold tooxx
fil is improving looking better,and thanks girls for all your support ,xx

shabster · 16/09/2008 09:45

Hazy - so chuffed to hear about your FIL - may it long continue xxxx

feedmenow · 16/09/2008 15:19

Glad to hear about fil Hazy. Fingers crossed all the way. xx

Kat172 · 16/09/2008 17:31

Hey ladies im Kat the lovely fedmenow gave me think to this thread, I lost my daughter this yr she was nearly 2 so im just hear saying hello

shabster · 16/09/2008 17:43

Welcome Kat - its good to have you with us - just wish it was in different circumstances. I will come back on later have had to wrestle my DS off the computer!!

lottiejenkins · 16/09/2008 17:56

Welcome to Jacks part of the journey Kat........ am very sorry to hear about your daughter...... stay with us and we will try to offer some wise words xxxx

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feedmenow · 16/09/2008 19:28

Hi Kat, glad you came over.

I know I said on your thread, but this really is a lovely place to know that you can say anything you want about Macy and people will listen. Whether it is to actually talk about her in particular, or whether it is to off load your crap feelings.

I am newbie at this really - my daughter was stillborn in March (although because of my loss, I have made friends here ) so am more likely to look to you for guidance on how grief goes. But others have been coping with it much longer. Shabs, for example, lost her first boy 26 years ago (is that right Shabs?).

Anyway, I know I can come here with my ups and downs and be accepted and supported regardless.

SO, I'm glad you came. I'm sorry that Macy died and that you had to be here at all, but it's nice to have you none the less.

Would love to hear all about Macy when you're ready. I saw her piccie on your profile and she looks beautiful. Sounds like she was a fighter though?

lottiejenkins · 16/09/2008 21:33

Evening all........... went out at 7.15 to buy something for tea met a friend and he "dragged" me into the pub for a drink.... i got home about 20 mins ago two pints of cider heavier I'm feeling ok though!!!

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shabster · 16/09/2008 21:44

Kat - I love the name Macy - it sounds so feminine and cute.

Yes its 26 years since Gareth died - aged 7 months (twin brother to Danny) due to congenital heart disease and Matt was knocked down by a lorry and killed 16 years ago when he was 7 years old.

Some days it feels like it all just happened and others it feels like 100 years since I last saw them.

lottiejenkins · 16/09/2008 21:46

i feel really bad now posting about my evening............

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