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My son died, aged 24

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Random789 · 10/02/2020 08:00

My son died. The police came to tell us on Thursday morning, so he died either late on 5th or early on 6th Feb.
He was very mentally ill and also had a diagnosis of autism. I'm not sure if he still had a diagnosis of schizophrenia, but he was vulnerable to repeated episodes of psychosis.
He was transitioning into living in his own flat after about three years of living on a mental health rehab ward. He had just got to the stage of spending nights there, and was due to be formally discharged from his section today.
He died from loss of blood. In the past he had used recreational drugs to try and cope with how he felt and it is possible that happened again and contributed to what he did. We don't know yet.
He was a terribly unhappy person, unable to break away from solitude and inactivity, unable to do anything that would be a source of comfort or absorption or satisfaction.
He was very thoughtful, gentle and kind.

OP posts:
backaftera2yearbreak · 10/02/2020 08:01

I’m so sorry for your loss.

LuluBellaBlue · 10/02/2020 08:03

I’m so sorry Random, sending you lots of love Flowers
Please keep sharing about him, I’m sure others too will be along to hand hold

Purplewithred · 10/02/2020 08:03

I am so very, very sorry for your loss. Flowers

dalmatianmad · 10/02/2020 08:03

I'm so sorry this is happening. I hope you have friends and family to support you Flowers

JiltedJohnsJulie · 10/02/2020 08:03

Oh Random I can’t begin to imagine how you feel Thanks

Stuffofawesome · 10/02/2020 08:03

I'm so sorry for your loss. May he rest in peace

thesunwillout · 10/02/2020 08:03

I'm so sorry for your loss op xx

cheeseandpineapple · 10/02/2020 08:06

How heartbreaking for you, so sorry for your loss Flowers

Motacilla · 10/02/2020 08:06

I am so sorry for your loss, this must have been something you feared for years as you all lived with his illness. I hope you have lots of support around you.

onalongsabbatical · 10/02/2020 08:06

I'm so sorry for your loss OP. Flowers
Do you have support and company?

Camopetals · 10/02/2020 08:07

What a terrible loss. I'm sorry the world was such a difficult place for him, he didn't deserve to feel that way.

Random789 · 10/02/2020 08:12

Thank you everyone for the good wishes.

OP posts:
endofthelinefinally · 10/02/2020 08:13

Oh, Random. I am so, so sorry for your loss of your dear son. I have been through a similar loss. You must be in a state of shock.
When I lost my son, it was this board that got me through those early days, weeks, months.
There are many of us walking the same path. We are here to listen and help if we can.
Flowers

QueenOfOversharing · 10/02/2020 08:13

So, so sorry for your loss. I cannot begin to imagine your pain. Hope you have support to get through this terrible tragedy.

EssentialHummus · 10/02/2020 08:16

Thinking of you and your DS random Flowers.

Binterested · 10/02/2020 08:16

What a terrible thing to happen. I’m so sorry - it’s horrific and I cannot imagine what you are going through. Holding you and your son in my thoughts.

puds11 · 10/02/2020 08:18

@Random789 I’m so very sorry for your loss Flowers

Nanamilly · 10/02/2020 08:26

Random, I think we may have spoken about our sons in the past and Im so very sorry this is happened.

Morgan12 · 10/02/2020 08:26

I am so sorry Flowers

I hope you and your family have the support you need. What a cruel world it is sometimes.

poppym12 · 10/02/2020 08:29

I'm so very very sorry Flowers

KundaliniRising · 10/02/2020 08:30

Oh Random i am so so sorry for your loss Flowers

MeanMrMustardSeed · 10/02/2020 08:31

So sorry to read this x

Yeahwhatevs · 10/02/2020 08:32

So very sorry for your loss OP. What a terrible shock for you. Get as much support as you can. Flowers

eaglejulesk · 10/02/2020 08:34

I too am very sorry for your loss, it must be a dreadful thing to have to deal with. He is at peace now, which hopefully will provide some comfort to you in the future, although of course it doesn't help at this time when it is so raw. I do hope you have supportive people to help you through this. Big hugs Flowers

Visiters · 10/02/2020 08:36

So very sorry to hear.

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