Oh my god ... Help me please I don't know what to do!!!

[Mummy2TandF]

my dh went fishing last night and at 11:30pm I had a knock on the door from the police .... My dh has been found dead on a footpath at the lake They think it was a massive heart attack, a stroke or a blood clot but will do a PM tomorrow, I don't know what to do, I have my family here with me but it is easier to talk on here How do I tell my dc's? WHAT do I tell my dc's - they are only 2.9 and 10 months Will they understand, what are they going to do without their daddy? How will I get through the days without my dh? I know we argued etc but I really, really, loved him and now he is gone Help please

Have just seen this thread, so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your dcs. Hope the fishing trip brings you a little peace at this awful time.((((())))

M2T&F and all of you who have lost your husband, partner, friend, lover, too young, too soon......so sorry.

My thoughts and prayers are wit you all.

Hope today went well for you, thinking of you x

Hi, i have just read your other thread and now know what misery you are in. I am so sorry for you but i have been on a roller coaster of emotions tonight. I started reading the bereavement section tonight as i lost my sister in January this year to cancer. I stumbled accross your other thread and could not stop reading as you seemed so much like my sister and her life. I was already to post life is for living and move one when i now realise what has happened. I have hated my brother-in law for many years for they way he treated my sister but he is now left to bring up his two children with our help and doing not a bad job. My sister loved him although we could not believe what she was coping with. Like mums net she used to confide in me and my other sister but would not have a bad word said against her husband. I miss my sister so much and feel a life has been wasted for all these years of unhappy times so i would like to ask you to grab every chance you have in the future when times get better to enjoy life as you deserve. I wish it was my sister that had the chance and you sound so similar. Take care and i hope you are not affended by my comments.

Yesterday was really nice, all of Craigs friends were there and it was much more how he would have preferred. When I arrived at the lake I had a meltdown saying that I couldn't do it because he had only been home a day I wasn't ready to let go I even considered keeping some of his ashes with me but decided that he should be whole He would have wanted to be in the lake. Our friend who owned the lake said a few words and we all had a toast to Craig with Brandy (Craig didn't drink as a rule but when he did it was always brandy) and then he went out on a boat into the middle of the lake and scattered Craigs ashes and some rose petals It was so nice, I am afraid that I found it worse than the funeral itself though because it was actually saying goodbye for the last time .... My legs gave way underneath me and I just sobbed and sobbed We also burnt Craigs work tie and shoes on his behalf because he hated wearing shoes and a tie. It really was a fitting send-off but I can't believe that this is it, I will never see or hear him again My heart is breaking and if I didn't have the dc's I don't think I would be getting up and dresssed etc - I wouldn't wish anything like this on another human being, it is horrendous

Mummy2TandF - my eyes well up every time I read your posts...I can't imagine for a second what you are going through. I hope that (as well as remembering the huge part yourself and your dc played in his life)seeing how many good friends Craig had can reassure you that his life was not without meaning. I am so very sorry you are going through this

Oh The finality is almost unbearable. You are so brave. I know we have to get on with life because of the dc but it is nevertheless very, very brave and strong of you to manage to keep life going for them and yourself. Every day you manage this is an extra little bit of strength to help you through this.

So sorry. x

i've sat and read the whole thread with tears rolling down my face
the dd's are still up and i just want to hug them and dh too. the silly arguments we've had today now make me feel ashamed.

you will get through this - remember there are lots of people on here who have been there and will always be here to listen to you

take care
love to your dcs, they will keep you going

xxx

i cant begin to imagine the pain you must be going through, i just sincerely hope you have plenty of friends and family around you to help you muddle through..dont forget to ask them for help as some may think you want space.x

Have only just seen this thread and really don't know what to say.
Will be thinking of you and if you need anything or any help with T&F,please email me.xxx

mummy2 i have only just seen this too omg i am so so sorry,life is so unfair sometimes i wish you strength and love every day,please let me know if you need anything at all.
(((((((((((mummy2,toby and freya)))))))))
Hope you are getting lots of support.

I've only just seen this. I'm so sorry for your loss Mummt2TandF. I am inspired by your courage and hope that your children are ok. xx

Sending you love and hugs and this horrible, horrible time xxxxxxxxxxxxx

oh sweetheart i think it was lovely what you said to your ds about his daddy, fishing in heaven and your ds saying about his daddy having a brolly. maybe when it is bonfire night you could all write letters to him and post them to him through the "bonfire post", rather like posting letters to santa. the fragments of the letter going up in the air will be helped up to your dh by the angels nad he will get all the letters. maybe this can be something for the whole family to do?

i have not been getting on very well with dp lately but i will make the effort as i realise how short life can be. im stuck for words now and trying not to cry as i feel for you so much.

i agree that it wil be worthwhile for you to go to cab with someone that will take notes for you and will ask questions that you may not think of.

(((((((((((((((((((((((((twinmumbai&gabbel&mummy2tandf&lovecamping))))))))))))))))))))))))

How are you today Mummy2TandF?

hi mummyt how are you todau as i said before i know things seem bad at the moment financially but things will get sorted i was in the smae situation as you when my dp died and we were renting our house but with phone calls made to the companys and help form the cab things sorted themselves out. everyday is one more step you are taking in your life and you will becoem stronger craig will always be there with you looking over you and your dcs. you will have good days and bad days the good days will become more than the bad ones just take evryday one step at a time everyone on here is here for you. xx

callmemadam ive been around just been busy as dd started school last week

Oh my, I'm so so sorry. Have only just read your post and I don't know what else to say.
I would think that everyone who has read this has shed a tear.
I've been pretty horrible to my hubby recently but it's made me think now...
Have lots of cuddles with your babies.
Lots of love.

Mummy2TandF i was on the Nov 06 thread too and just seen this thread. All my sympathy to you my love, bless youx

Hi
just been away for a week on holiday with my little one, paid for my wonderful sister, who didnt give me a choice and just booked it and said come away. It was good to get away , so if you can when things have settled it may help mummy2t&f . Even if its just to stay with friends away from the house and his familiar stuff. Think i might have made a rod for my own back though, finally got round to saying daddy had died and that he was in the sky now. So every night when its got dark my little one has pointed up to the sky and said night night daddy. Does and doesnt make me feel better but i want him to remeber he had a dad and it seemed the best way to do it. Had a visit form the health visitor today who offered loads of support , may be worth ringing yours it was good to talk to someone disconnected if you know what i mean