Oh my god ... Help me please I don't know what to do!!!

[Mummy2TandF]

my dh went fishing last night and at 11:30pm I had a knock on the door from the police .... My dh has been found dead on a footpath at the lake They think it was a massive heart attack, a stroke or a blood clot but will do a PM tomorrow, I don't know what to do, I have my family here with me but it is easier to talk on here How do I tell my dc's? WHAT do I tell my dc's - they are only 2.9 and 10 months Will they understand, what are they going to do without their daddy? How will I get through the days without my dh? I know we argued etc but I really, really, loved him and now he is gone Help please

sorry for your loss and thinking of you and your children{hugs}

Just seen this - I'm so sorry - it's heartbreaking .

Feel like I need to post again - I am still so numb I have a notched up an impressive 3.5 hours sleep since Tuedasy morning and have eaten 2 rich teas and a boost bar .... I am just not hungry and not itered I am on my own tonight for the first time since Craig's death, although I want people around me I thought that I might be able to just drop off to sleep watching the TV or something if I was on my own - I don't know whether I can face going to bed ... I mentioned that I have arranged the funeral and now have a million and one things going around and around in my head ... Have been trying to track down some of Craig's friends who we have lost numbers for and finally tonight they both called me I feel so much better now that all the old gang will be together again for him. Craig is now at the chapel of rest and I feel better about that. The coroner has also said that they think the cause of death was Sudden Adult Death Syndrome (the adult form of cot death)..It's ironic that not long ago I was organising the Mile For Maude Walk finding it impossible to understand how ggg must have been feeling and now this (alhthough it is my dh and not a dd) . Sorry I am waffling now, am off to find the legoland website to try to search for a picture of dh and ds on the Dragons Aprrentice from bank holiday Monday. When we went dh didn't want to buy it because he said he looked too scared but I really want that picture now because it was of both of my boys the day before Craig died

Oh mummytoT&F, I really don't know what to say. I just wanted you to know I am up and had read this.

Please remember to take care of yourself.

Good luck with getting the photo from Legoland, sweetheart. I'm glad you have found those friends. I've been thinking about you a lot this week but can't think of anything helpful to say...

I can't imagine how you feel.

Please, please look after yourself though. Try to get some sleep.

Thinking of you.

x

Your poor, poor girl. This is the worst of times, and it's so very hard to know what to say. You're in a really black place, the blackest it will ever be, and although a hundred thousand people can tell you that it will get better, you're nowhere near believing it, are you?

what awful news...

OMG only just saw this I am realy sorry for your loss mummy. Life can be so unfair sometimes. My thoughts are with you and your children.

Im sorry there arent words that can change how youre feeling.

In my thoughts and prayers tonight. So, so sorry for your loss.

terrible news, i hope you've managed to get a wee bit of sleep by now.

So sorry for your loss. At last your Dseems to hve died happy and painlessly.Every day will get a little bit easier, a little bit at a time. Bet wihes to yu and your family, and yu are not alone.

I haven't known what to post as all words seems so empty, but wanted to say my thoughts are with you because I've been thinking of you ever since I first read this.

I hope posting on here will help you, and my heart goes out to all of you on here who have lost someone in this horrible and sudden way.

My best friend died of SADS when we were 22. So screamingly frustrating that someone can just die from nothing. She was asleep though and like a child probably just stopped breathing, or her heart just stopped beating. Surreal. Not sure how it works if you're awake, but I was told she would not have suffered and that might make you feel a little better.

I will be thinking of you on Wednesday. Glad to hear you all had a nice day out before this happened. That will be a nice memory for you and ds to hold on to.

Hope you are ok, try to eat if you can. You will eat and sleep again when the adrenaline wears off. Once the funeral is over there will be less to think about hopefully and your brain might suddenly remember that it needs to sleep.
Failing that you could try reading a really boring book.

I'm so sorry

so sorry,thinking of you ,it hurts i know ,look after yourself xx

So sorry, thinking of you all xx

hi mummytoTandF, good luck getting hold of the photo. I live jsut down the road from Legoland, so if you need someone to enquire there, or pick it up or anything, I can pop in for you.

I don't know if anyone has already said, but you really should go to the GP and get something to help you sleep. I've taken them short term too, while going through a difficult time, and they really do help. You need your sleep for the children's sake.

i hope you got some sleep M2T&F
still thinking of you
xxx

i am so so sorry for you. i lost my sister 3 days ago.

So sorry for you

M2T - I have only just seen this. I am so shocked and sad for you and your boys. What a terrible, terrible thing, there is nothing really that I can say. Thinking of you. Take care. xxx

So sorry.

What a nightmare, I really am so sorry

good luck with getting the picture and hope you track it down thinking of youx