Support For Anyone Coping With The Loss Of A Parent.

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This new thread may help those whose comps have a problem with long threads.
I hope this thread can be as supportive as the last one. It is so uplifting to see the support everyone gives to each other when they most need it.💐

Thank you for your replies and sending my love to everyone struggling. I just re read my first message -"Once thongs got hairy" and I smiled for the first time since it happened.

My Mum passed away peacefully this afternoon, just half an hour before I got to the hospital. The nurses all held her hand whilst she passed. I feel strangely numb :(

I’m so sorry @Glitterb. Sending you a big hug and strength. ❤️❤️

@ellie2201
Thank you, it all feels very surreal. Sitting down with a large gin to try to relax

I’m also having a large gin. My dad’s death still feels surreal a week on. It’s going to be hard but you’re going to be ok.

@Glitterb. So sorry you're joining us. I've had a rough day. Woken with that huge sense of dread and loneliness and actual pain in my chest and stomach. I tried to get up and keep busy, but it felt like trudging through treacle. They have let people at work know, so lots of messages coming in, several people checking me regularly. Its all lovely and helping me feel less alone. But each message leaves me howling. 😥. I'm exhausted but scared to go to bed, either to sleep and dream or to toss and turn and remember those last hours.

Hello, I’m afraid I’ve come to the thread nobody wants to join too. My Dad died last Sunday after nearly a year battling cancer. The last year feels like we’ve all (myself, my husband, my children and my mum) been dragged through hell. We nearly lost him so many times before and his mental state was so dreadful by the end, he suffered very badly with delirium and with each new infection we lost another part of ‘him’. I am an only child and my parents had a very difficult marriage despite loving each other dearly so all care and decision making fell to me.

Because he had a raised temperature when he died they had to treat it as suspected Covid19 (although the tests came back negative) and we could only see him one at a time in full PPE.
I just feel numb and actually feel a little relieved that the interminable pressure and fear has lifted a little. Then I feel awful as I adored my dad and everyone is expecting me to be inconsolable and most of the time I’m sort of ‘ok’.
The whole world is insane and I’m trying to protect my poor children who had to watch their beloved grandad diminish before their eyes and now can’t even draw on the support of their friends, teachers or even other family members.
I’m still allowing my mum to visit which brings more guilt, I would have her move in but she has an enormous dog who is not trustworthy with children and would almost certainly kill our small dog and she refuses to put him in kennels. She only lives 3 doors down and is self isolating (as are we - the only time either of us have left our homes in over two weeks was to be with Dad as he passed) even the hospice has said that given the circumstances they would not advise that I leave her totally alone but I still feel so stressed about it all.

Sorry that this is so long and rambling

@RoseForRembrance it has been a long 8 weeks for us, I don’t remember the last night I slept all the way through without dreading the phone ringing. I hope she is in a better place, all the pain is over for her now. I have no idea on how to sort everything, and think I am going to just chill tomorrow with the dog and catch my breath. I can barely believe that I won’t see her again.
I hope you are holding up okay, this is the worst situation xx

So sorry @glitterb I hope you are ok. I am remembering the days and nights of expecting the phone call and when it finally happens it feels so surreal

Sorry too you've had to join the thread too @howareyoumeanttochoose, @RoseForRembrance and @funkylittleboatrace

Sending love to you all tonight xx

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