Support For Anyone Coping With The Loss Of A Parent.

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This new thread may help those whose comps have a problem with long threads.
I hope this thread can be as supportive as the last one. It is so uplifting to see the support everyone gives to each other when they most need it.💐

Hugs to you all

Just been reading through all these and it is comforting to know I am not alone in this grief madness.

My mum is still fighting it the whole way which is incredibly distressing to see, each day gets harder. I feel like I have been grieving for her now for 7 weeks. I know my mum wouldn’t have wanted any of this, she was only 60, still working full time and very independent, it is utterly heartbreaking. So ladies, life is short so don’t feel guilty about eating that cake 💐💐💐

Hello, I cannot imagine how much stress you are now all having to go through with the situation as it is now. As if you don't have enough to bear without not being able to go and see the surviving parent and not being to hold the funerals that you wanted to have.
I feel deeply sorry for all of you and hope that somehow you will get through this terrible time. 💐

Hello all,
My dad died last Thursday night and so I’m in the full throttle ups and downs of grief, not helped by not being able to see my mum who is on her own.
This thread makes me feel less alone. Xx

@ellie2201 so sorry for your loss 💐

@Vix20678 hope you've managed to have a happy birthday despite the sadness you must be feeling today X

So very sorry for your loss @ellie2201

Hope you're managing to cope @glitterb sounds so difficult for you especially with everything as it is at the moment

@Richlyfruited thank you, everything feels very surreal at the moment, it’s been 7 weeks of complete hell and we are ending that by her not coming home. We hoped for miracle and it unfortunately hasn’t happened for us.

@Richlyfruited thank you. It hasn't been too bad a day.

@Glitterb my thoughts are with you. I sat by my mum for weeks last summer just waiting for her to let go. I know it's horrific.

@ellie2201 I'm so sorry you find yourself here but I'm glad you feel less alone. Do talk to us.

Love to you all tonight

Hope everyone is ok today. Vix are you going to do something special tomorrow? Maybe light a candle and have your own reflection. I will be thinking of you.
My mum seems very low today, was looking to send her a treat on amazon prime but delivery is not very fast at this time. Might need to pay her a visit tomorrow, will take a loo roll in case I’m pulled over!

@Jazzmin yes I think I'll light a candle and play some of his favourite songs. Dreading it to be honest.

@Vix20678 i will be thinking of you tomorrow..
Absolutely light a candle, play his favourite sounds and celebrate his life. Understandable to dread it, it seems like an unfinished ending with no funeral. However he will be with you everyday 💐💐

@Vix20678 hope you are ok.

@Vix20678 My dad is being cremated today too. I don’t know what time yet. My mum is obviously very upset but I’m trying to be strong even though we are apart.
I hope you’re as ok as you can be. I think it’s best to face our grief rather than distract ourselves, and just remember that grief is the price we pay for love.

That’s lovely, Ellie. Thinking of you, too.

@Vix20678
@ellie2201

My thoughts were with you both yesterday, I hope you are both holding up okay 💐

Thank you xx I’m ok actually. I feel generally quite peaceful about it all. I still get waves of grief regularly throughout the day but I’m trying to face them rather than distract myself.

How is everyone else doing?

Thank you all for thinking of me, I am much the same as Ellie. Yesterday was tough, though.
How are you all doing?

@Vix20678
@ellie2201

Been a tough few days, My Mum is still here (ever the fighter!) but it is becoming increasing distressing and upsetting to see her. She has been on end of life care now for 16 days, maybe this is usual with brain injuries 🤷🏻‍♀️ Either way we are still here hand holding and telling her all will be okay x

Oh @glitterb that must be very tough

Must have been a difficult day for you both yesterday @ellie2201 and @Vix20678

I'm feeling so sad for those unable to see ill and elderly family members at this time.

@Richlyfruited yes me too. My mum had dementia really severely for the last 18 months of her life. The thought of not being able to visit her and support my dad is just too awful, and so many people will be going through this and similar right now. I can't imagine how stressful it must be.

One of my silver lining thoughts is that at least that worry is taken away from me.

Sad to be joining you.
My amazing dad died yesterday. I'm an only child and have no partner or children, so its just him and me. He lives near me and I used to visit almost daily. Once thongs got hairy I would just drop food off and wave through his patio doors as I'm a front line worker and was concerned about taking CV19 to him, but if I'd known how he would pass (not CV19) could have spent more time with him.😥. Terrified of how to organise everything alone and during lockdown.
I have read the whole thread through blurry eyes, which has made me weep but was so lovely to see the support. But reached December. Oh god, Christmas! And howled. Just how do I do it?

@RoseForRembrance I am so sorry to hear your news about your lovely Dad, also I am sorry you have to join our Mumsnet club (the one thread no one wants to join)

Do you have anyone who can support you? Any friends at all? Please do not feel like you are by yourself. Come on here to rant all you like, and so many people will have advice and support 💐

@RoseForRembrance Sending you the biggest hug. You are not alone. This is going to be extremely hard - there’s no avoiding it but it will get easier with time. I hope you have someone you can call for a cry. It’s such a cruel time to lose a loved one.

My own Dad died on Wednesday which I'm still struggling to take in ( trust my father to go in April fools ) he was having treatment for cancer which I think was worst then he was letting on.His heart failed and they couldn't get him back,then his partner told me today his dog had to be put down last night it's been such a shity fucking week.

Just wanted to send all my love and hand holds to those who have lost a loved one during this terrible time. I just can’t imagine how hard it is not being able to be there with loved ones in hospital, or to visit after passing should you wish or indeed have to have such restricted funerals. It’s like all your choices have been taken away. I think you just need to hold onto the fact it’s something out of your control and plan a really lovely memorial service / ashes scattering at a later date.

It’s 15 months since I lost my lovely dad. I was thinking a few weeks ago how hard it would be with his lung disease if he had still been here. I think grief is a strange journey. Lately I’ve been thinking of my dad so much more. Sometimes it’s just out of the blue it hits you.

Sending you all so much love

I’m having a bad day today. I’ve felt so sad and angry all day. Been horrid to my husband. Urgh. It’s such a rollercoaster. Sending love to you all xxx