Support For Anyone Coping With The Loss Of A Parent

[Mummylin]

Here we are on a new thread for a new year.
Hopefully we can bring some comfort to those who are mourning their Mum / Dad.

It's so hard to verbalise how I feel. Utterly bereft. I just cannot say the words irl
I know I am very lucky in that my truly darling mum will love on through my children. Who provide me positive distraction in these hardest of days.

So sorry to see that yet more posters have cause to join this thread. My deepest sympathy to all of you. I think for me it had to be the worst period of my life. But for all of you in the first grip of grief , you may think it's not possible , but in time the future will be brighter for you all. Yes life can never be the same, but we learn to live with what has happened.
Particular thoughts go to Indianna I cannot begin to understand how distraught you must be feeling. I hope that you have family that will support you through this awful time. 💐
WL. This is such a sad time for you, but there will be someone to talk to here if you feel you need a shoulder. I hope your mum will be kept as comfortable as possible and she remains pain free.💐

Thank you mummylin
I think we're in the final hours now. It feels so surreal.
I'm so sorry for everyone else going through these difficult times too.

Thinking of you @WLmum. I really feel for you as the heartache of seeing your parent fade is so very hard to deal with. I hope your DM is as comfortable as is possible. Take care.

@WLmum I am so sorry you are going through this. My Dad died very suddenly, however I remember very clearly how very difficult my mum found it to nurse her mum through her final days. Make sure you look after yourself. Sending you thoughts and hugs.

The waves are crashing in this week.

I hope it’s ok for me to post here, my mum died. One minute she was here and then, she was dead.

I’ve been ok, I’ve been happy and feeling good about life. But (because there’s always a but) this week I’ve been numb, I knew a wave was coming in, and it’s hit me full force in the last hour.

I feel so alone, I could always turn to her, she was always there and now, now she isn’t.

I am so sorry @AddisonForbesMontgomery

Do you want to tell us about your mum?

The shock of someone being here one day and not the next is enormous and honestly, I don’t know how you are supposed to go about dealing with it. I just wanted to say you aren’t alone

My mum was kind, and generous, she put everyone first, she loved me so fiercely. I could tell her things and ask her not to tell a soul and she’d not even tell my siblings, she was a fighter through and through. She would never have left us if it were her choice. She’d be here now. Which I think makes it more unfair, she had no choice.

I’ve been in bed at 8:30 every night this week fighting the numbness but this wave has hit me like a ton of bricks. I know I’ll be ok soon, but tonight this really hurts.

Hi Addison it is so mind numbingly painful isn't it. But these times seem to just creep up when your not expecting them and it hurts, a lot. But these awful times will eventually get less and less , although it does take time.
And then one day you will think to yourself that actually you don't feel quite as bad as you did. Just take each day as it comes , it's enough to cope with otherwise you can get overwhelmed. Take care 💐
A few more posts and I will start a new thread, probably tomorrow.

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I lost my beloved mum on the 24th July. I really miss her and feel so sad but at the same time numb.

I am distressed that I can’t seem to pray for her. I always pray when something is on my mind. She was buried abroad so it’s been a few weeks since I visited her.

I love and miss her so much but I’m glad that in the end her death was quick and she didn’t suffer. I’ve already cleared out her clothes, I felt I had to. I kept some. I have lots of her things. I wish I could see or touch her hands again.