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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

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MaureenMLove · 28/05/2007 17:21

We're here Custy <a class="break-all" href="//hugs" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">hugs]

MaureenMLove · 28/05/2007 17:22

Sorry, that just meant hugs

harpsichordcarrier · 28/05/2007 17:22

oh custy what a nightmare
I am very sorry for your loss
HC xx

RubyRioja · 28/05/2007 17:27

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onlyjoking9329 · 28/05/2007 17:33

oh shit, so sorry.

CantSleepWontSleep · 28/05/2007 17:35

Oh custy I'm so sorry. What a horrid shock.

MellowMa · 28/05/2007 17:49

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TheDuchessOfNorksBride · 28/05/2007 17:54

Custy you poor thing. I hope you come to terms with it soon.

You know that there are experts in everything on MN to help you out, especially with the legal & financial stuff. You will find all the relevant paperwork, if it's not in the house, then perhaps her solicitor or even the bank has it.

ruddynorah · 28/05/2007 17:55

oh custy am so sorry.

please let us know if we can help at all.

i sorted everything out after my grandad died. i guess you're working your way through a lot of paperwork. are there any other relatives or friends who can take anything on? am thinking of you.

flamingtoaster · 28/05/2007 17:57

What an awful shock for you. Sorry to hear such sad news.

talcy0 · 28/05/2007 17:58

Thinking of you custy

runkid · 28/05/2007 17:59

Custy, so sorry for your loss xx

Gingerbear · 28/05/2007 18:01

Shit Custy What a terrible shock, especially for your son and GF.

Will try and help all I can with any advice about financial stuff.

Gingerbear · 28/05/2007 18:01

Shit Custy What a terrible shock, especially for your son and GF.

Will try and help all I can with any advice about financial stuff.

hayes · 28/05/2007 18:06

sorry to hear of your loss

shouldbe · 28/05/2007 18:07

Sorry for your loss. Best wishes to you and your family at this time

BreeVanDerCamp · 28/05/2007 19:08

Bump for the night shift.

WeaselMum · 28/05/2007 19:12

so sorry - hope you get all the help and advice you need x

BibiThree · 28/05/2007 19:13

Just wanted to say you will get through this and you are capable of it. I know how it feels when it's all left on your shoulders to sort out, even though you're grieving. My Dad died suddenly and unexpectedly last year and everything was left to me, I basically had to put my grief on hold until I'd sorted through the paperwork.

We're all thinking of you and your family, and will be here when you need us.

jajas · 28/05/2007 19:22

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katierocket · 28/05/2007 19:24

oh Custy, not read all the thread but what a hell of a thing to happen,.

misdee · 28/05/2007 19:24

oh custy

kittypants · 28/05/2007 19:29

custy im so so sorry.what a horrible time.thinking of you.

SenoraPostrophe · 28/05/2007 19:31

shit, sorry, custy.

chonky · 28/05/2007 19:32

Custy - thinking of you