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found my mum dead

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Tortington · 28/05/2007 06:32

came up to oldham and found my mum daed. there for at least a couple of weeks. house a state. i just looked through the window my son andhis GF were with us.

we ere in a crash on friday coming up - the poor GF has had her fill.

i had to give my BIL money for air frsheners. the police went in with masks.

the wholething is just horrific. as an only child its all down to me. and i can't seem to read simple documents. BH weekend isn't helping. mum had money in lots of different accounts, i can't find her funeral policy and she told me she had one. she has shares for fucks sake.

never sent my kids a birthday card. she set up 3 accounts un beknownst to me and had been putting money in. so that did mi head in, bibbin all o'er place, nothing is sinking in.

my dh has to come up and bring the kids, he's neer driven on a motorway and my car is a bit knacked.

i am relying on people to put me up and although i wouldn'rt rather be anywhere else in the world than at my cousins, she has two small children and no matter how many times they say it doesn't matter and don't worry i must be in the way. but my cous and my BIL have been good.

there is lots of fincancial stuff to sort out.

no doubt i'll be asking you.

the terrible thing when there is ( relatively) a sum of money to be had, nice people suddenly get nasty. we will see.

my in laws are being very helpful and have moved the bed outside and done horrible things to save me from facing them. but my dh is going to come up and at that point i think i will be coming back to you as a body of opinion - not emotionally, family or financially swayed.

i am living in a house with a four year old and a toddler.

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Egg · 28/05/2007 19:39

Oh Custy, so sorry, what a horrible shock. We are all thinking of you here.

whoops · 28/05/2007 19:40

Sorry to hear this what a shock

saffy202 · 28/05/2007 19:49

So sorry to hear this

I found my mother dead but it was the following morning. I found CAB very helpful and like someone else has mentioned the formal arrangements take over first, it is afterwards that the emotional side kicks in.

Make sure you look after yourself and accept any support that is offered. [hugs]

Wotsit · 28/05/2007 19:51

so sorry to hear this

francagoestohollywood · 28/05/2007 19:55

I'm so very sorry, custardo

FioFio · 28/05/2007 19:57

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CakeandFineWine · 28/05/2007 20:01

Custardo
Just heard you're news via another thread!
So sorry to hear your news and my condolances xx

Sobernow · 28/05/2007 20:09

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TigerFeetFormerlyCheesyFeet · 28/05/2007 20:17

Custy, how crap

so sorry sweetheart xx

Mhamai · 28/05/2007 20:20

So sorry for your loss custy.

Kaloo20 · 28/05/2007 20:20

so sorry, I think you are being very strong, even to be able to post at this time
thinking of you

Tamum · 28/05/2007 20:21

Oh custy, I am so sorry. What a complete mess of conflicting emotions you must be going through just now.
xxx

emkana · 28/05/2007 20:22

I'm so sorry you're going through this custy.

Beauregard · 28/05/2007 20:25

So sorry to hear this Custy
thinking of you
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

mummytosteven · 28/05/2007 20:25

very sorry to hear this.

honeybrown · 28/05/2007 20:28

Am thinking of you too x

LittleWonder · 28/05/2007 20:40

When the "now" is unthinkable, all we can do is remember that this too shall pass. Condolences to you and your family.

cookieMOMster · 28/05/2007 20:41

so sorry....

pirategirl · 28/05/2007 20:42

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

FloatingOnTheMed · 28/05/2007 20:46

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j20baby · 28/05/2007 20:47

oh custy,

i'm so sorry for you, take care x

MerlinsBeard · 28/05/2007 20:51

Custy, I am so sorry to hear this

princessmel · 28/05/2007 20:52

How awful for you custy
Really sorry to read this.

GlassSlipper · 28/05/2007 20:53

This must be a terrible shock. I imagine you feel numb. Take all the support you can and dont panic about things like finances as it will all be there in a week, or 2 weeks time. Prioritise the funeral arrangements and then work through things one step at a time.

Losing a parent must be hard enough, but to do so in this way must be doubly difficult. Take things slowy.

You have my heartfelt sympathy. xx