Support For Anyone Who Loses A Parent

[Mummylin]

We offer a shoulder and compassion for those that need it.

Hope it’s ok to join. Your stories are very touching. It’s been a year since my dad died & most days I can rationalise things & be positive & grateful for what I had but today I don’t seem to be.
enigmam I was pregnant too, with twins when he passed and I can’t get over that he never met them. It makes me sad every day but especially seems to be upsetting my today and I can’t stop crying

It all can seem very hard at times
Im fine till i sit down

So our flat is very tidy at the moment

Hugs to everyone

((Hugs)) all round.

I'm the opposite- my house is a tip! My DH does a lot, without complaint, but I'm a bit of a couch potato at the moment. I've needed to book something in everyday this week, just to discipline myself to get up and get dressed! I've wallowed for a couple of weeks, it's time to get moving now.

Hotpink my heart goes out to you.Mum sorted out lots of Dads things the weeks following his death.I can't believe it will be six months this weekend since he left us.I've completely.worked my backside off and this has been good for me.Perhaps now is the time I think about what has gone on.Tbh I rarely mention my Dad but when I do my male boss told me it must be easier if you know they are I'll.I agree.then he tells me of someone with an I'll child.I never wallowed in self pity or anything so I have no idea why he makes it sound like I shouldn't feel anything.
Sorry to you all with your recent losses.
An unexpected death must be very hard to deal with.

@whatisforteamum Thank you. Mum died in June, and Dad never managed to sort anything out as he was found to have terminal cancer 2 weeks after Mum's funeral, it was a complete shock and he died a month later. I have no other family, it was only ever just me and my parents, so it's all down to me to sort out. I have a 7 week old baby too which makes it a bit more difficult ☹️

I'm so sorry Hotpinkangel19 & Mimi333

Oh hot pink, no wonder it's hard. What a shock for you.

Thank you. It will get done eventually, I'm just lucky it's their own home rather than rented as I can take my time!

I’m sorry to all of the new people who have joined. Hotpink I know how it feels to be an only child, very lonely. My mum has finally been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, a condition that Dad and I were sure she had but I didn’t get her to go to the Dr until after Dad died. I feel so lonely with Dad gone and Mum not able to support me. She and I rarely talk about Dad. Living far away doesn’t help as I worry about her all the time. I don’t know why I suddenly seem to miss my Dad so much, it’s been 8 months now and I was doing so well but now it feels like it was only yesterday again.

Hello. I'm here. I'm tired. Confused. Making decisions now about things which have needed doing for our family business - that needed doing before Christmas - and I'm just so uncertain of myself, of my thoughts, my abilities. I want to phone my Dad. He's the person I would usually speak to in times like this. But he's not here. I hate this whole experience. I really do. It's shit.

@ChristmasLightLover I know how that feels. I'd give anything to be able to call my parents.

I would also dearly love to call my Dad

I am sad that I never made it in time to be able to talk to him
and for what ever reason my mum kept how truly ill he was from me

I wish I could turn the clock back

Hi, I lost my mum on Monday after she contracted flu. Good to read this thread and understand that this emotional rollercoaster is normal. Is it normal to feel so tired, like my arms are going to drop off?! X

So many new people! I am sorry, each of you.

Moomeg- totally normal. Especially with your unexpected loss, I would think. I have been more in bed than not for about 2 weeks. I can wake up at 6, doze for a couple of hours at 9, have a little lunch, an afternoon nap, and then go to bed at 9. I'm exhausted now, because I've been out 2 days in a row.

I think it's emotional and hormonal- stress hormones. My friends little girl hurt her finger yesterday, then fell asleep about half an hour later. I think your body needs it. I also fell asleep waiting at the hospital after a car accident I was in.

I hope you feel better soon, Moomeg, is there anyone to help you with the arrangements?

Yep I have my dad and sister and we are working together as far as possible. Trouble is I work for myself so having to work, but little and often as that's all I can manage. Have to be kind to yourself I suppose. Its only been three days... 😕

That's so soon. I imagine you are still in shock, to an extent.

So sad. Be kind to yourself, so many people in this situation. X

so sorry for all the newcomers
moomeg it's totally normal to feel wiped out. I slept in spurts throughout the day for 2 weeks.Its the shock I think. My dad was terminally ill but it's still a massive shock.
Your body needs to deal with it and does so by sleeping. Be kind to yourself it's early days⚘

Lost my mum 5 months ago to breast cancer. She may have been 86, but it's been unbearable.
I am an only child who lived with my mum all my life. Can't cope with it at all. My anxiety levels are through the roof, and everyday i have major panic attacks.
Nothing has any meaning. And all i see is my mum's empty chair.

Steph2033 - I also suffer from panic attacks. Could you get some help from your doc to get you through this difficult time? I find dealing with grief and panic attacks overwhelming so have got doc to help me so I can at least function but also deal wih the grief xx

I sympathise with you both and can relate to anxiety and panic attack’s. Recently I have been having anxiety which gets worse in the evening when we pull the curtains. I feel so alone in the evening even when my husband is with me.

Hello. So sorry to see new posters yet again, but it's heartening to see everyone is being supported. I am sure that today is going to be a mixed bag of emotions for a lot of us. If this is your first year without your mum I really feel for you. I promise it does get better as time goes on.
Only a short post as I am still trying to recover from being ill, can't believe how tired and weak I feel ! Hopefully will be back on here soon, but for now keep the support going for each other. 💐

I had panic attacks after I lost my Mum last year. They were horrible. Thankfully mine stopped and I haven't had one for months x

@Mummylin hope you're feeling better soon.

Sad to read these stories. I lost my mum at the beginning of Feb. She had a heart attack on her 60th birthday and spent 6 days in palliative care. Luckily all of us were there throughout. Everyone keeps telling me I'm coping so well but I don't feel like I am. I have 2 young DC who keep me busy and a supportive DH but I just want mum. We lost our dad 16 months ago so we are feeling quite lost. Hoping everyone can find some sort of solace in these tough times. X