DH has died - niffler

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Husband now terminalhttp://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/lifelimitingg_illness/3050597-husband-now-terminal

We filled the last thread. Thank you all for every good thought you have sent my way.

This is her at daycare on Monday. She fell in love with the other Shih Tzu (cream). She loves male dogs and gravitates towards them especially ones of a similar size to her. Apparently they were smitten and the guy running it was under orders to tell me about her new boyfriend 😂

That place looks great. I can imagine you won't want ddog "helping" you pack up after a day there though

The worse thing is she isn't a roller. She has rolled twice on a walk and both times it was just in the grass, no gross things. So heaven only knows why she smells like she's been making friends with cattle.

The guy running it had surgery on his knee once and had help for a couple of days. When his help had gone ddog thought it a brilliant idea to run into a field of sheep and eat their poop. She refused to come when he called and he couldn't climb over the fence. I have no idea how he got her back. She had to be on a lead for a few weeks. She's never usually so disobedient but apparently sheep poop is too good to give up 🤢.

That photo's lovely Niffler - happy dogs!

The really are happy. She loves going and walks off without a backwards glance. She's being a nightmare today though she doesn't like me packing

What a lovely photo. Your d dog looks like she is leading the mischief! That is funny about her and the sheep manure. I hope the packing is going ok.

She's always leading the mischief little monster she is. Someone once stopped me when I was leaving the groomers with her and was stroking her and said she had a Shih Tzu too. She said 'they love being clean and tidy don't they, mine doesn't like getting wet and muddy'. I was I said mines disgusting she eats manure and goes paddling in the river. Packing is slow going with ddog home but my dad will help me finish off on Wednesday.

How did you go with the packing? My dog hurt her tail, no idea how. She is on anti inflamatories. I hear you about the mud, mine loves swimming. Has yours been at day care this week? They have so much fun there.

It's gone okay. Very stressful though not made easier by my dad complaining about how he would do things except he's lived in the same house for 26 years. Aww no I hope her tail gets better soon. What type of dog do you have again? She hasn't been this week which was a mistake on my part I should have put her in.

Arrived at in laws. MIL isn't speaking to me, has already cried and had what I can only describe as a tantrum and I've only been here 30 minutes. I think ddog and I won't be staying here long. Oh and they have sorted the spare room out for me which is to remove the sofa bed and rug and leave the rest of their stuff in there. If that's not a we don't really want you here I don't know what is.

Hi Niffler. I discovered your story this evening and had quite an emotional rollercoaster reading what you have gone through. Such a sad story but incredible to see the undivided support you gave to your DH and the obvious love and connection you had with one another. I think that is a rare thing to find, I am sorry that it was taken away from you.

I am so sorry that your PILs feel that it is ok to treat you in this way, they seem to be acting very selfishly. Obviously they are mourning too but should not be offering you support if they don’t intend to see it through. I hope you can find somewhere to stay ASAP as it seems as though it is always a struggle when you stay with them. Is there anyone who could look after your ddog for a while so you could stay with your own parents? I know it would hurt to be away from your dog for a while but may be less painful than having to put up with an unwelcoming home! Seems like the last thing you need.

I wish you all the best anyway in the coming weeks and months. I have admired your strength through such a terrible time.

I could put the dog in local kennels for a few days if I needed but I could stay a couple of nights with my grandmother with her and my cousin has offered me somewhere to stay for a night or too. MIL has spoken to me this morning to ask if I slept okay and then to tell me all the details of her mental health and what the docs have said. I have to go sort the storage out today so I'll be able to be out of the house for a good few hours.

She sounds very difficult to be around at the moment and won’t do your grief process much good. I guess just one of those people who you can only take in small doses!

I hope you sort the accommodation situation soon so that she doesn’t affect you too much. Don’t feel afraid to ask others for help, they will want to I am sure 😊

She is much better in small doses. I'm trying to find something ASAP.

Oh Niffler I am sorry to here you are having trouble with the ILs are you still there? It is really not what you need at the moment. I know your MIL is grieving too but she is being very selfish. I hope you manage to get something sorted as the situation does not sound at all good for you.

My d dog is a puggle. How is yours?

I'm still with in laws but I'm looking for something else. I need a few hours to be able to sit and apply for jobs too. Ah puggles are a little crazy aren't they. Ddog is good, very sleepy in this hot weather.

Wishing you well with the job and house hunt.

How has your week been nifler? Puggles are very greedy, she is a good dog though, her previous owner didn't want her as she howls sometimes, when she gets excited like before going for a walk. I think it's funny. Last night she was barking which is unusual for her. My husband got up in the night to go to the loo and the security light was on. He opened the front door and there was a hedgehog outside!

It's been a somewhat difficult week. MIL has been in a bad mood for a few days which means she's having a go at everyone. I have a job interview on Tuesday though and I've applied for lots of other jobs. As if a hedgehog was not only outside but managed to trigger your security light.

The hedgehog did! I have a photo but not sure how to post them. Congratulations on the job interview, what sort of job was it for? Hope this week has been better and Mils mood has improved.

MILs mood has been up and down but up the past couple of days. It was for a trainee pharmacy dispenser, I have another interview next week and I'm going to view a house. On the app you click on the paper clip to upload a picture but if you have an iPhone and they are in the cloud you have to download the full version of the picture first.

I've had 2 interviews and didn't get either . I'm hoping something will come up soon.

Sorry about that, job hunting is horrible. Hope you get something soon.

Thanks Nifler I think it worked! Sorry to hear you didn't get the jobs, hopefully it won't take too long to find something. Did you go to see the house? How has MIL and d dog been? It is hard but try not to let mils mood affect you too much.

I hate job hunting . Aww that's a big hedgehog. Ddog has been doing a bit better. MIL has had a couple of down days, she's been in a mood with BIL so has been fine with me but it will probably be my turn next week.

I went to see they house it was awful! I'm going to see another on Tuesday. There is one coming up to rent soon that I think may be better suited for us though. A little bigger, bigger garden and a drive.