Support For Anyone That Has Lost A Parent.

[Mummylin]

Welcome to the new thread for support in your loss.

Thanks mummylin. I do have happy memories. It seems a lifetime ago now. I have my wee boy now and I feel bad for what he will miss out on with his Papa x

Hope all are doing ok. Hopefully the better weather will be here soon. I myself am recovering from some virus ( isn't everything a virus these days ) but on the up now. 💐. For you all

thanks mummylin I've lot the lurgy too! it's awful. I've not been out all week. I just home mum doesn't catch it!

Can I join you please? Lost my dad this week

Hello Iwould. Very sorry that you have had to join us here, but we all can empathise with what you are going through right now. We know it is truly devastating and it's like being hit with a hammer. The advice I would give you right now is to get through it day by day for now. Do you have to sort everything out or are others seeing to things ?

Don't look forward too much, there is no point at the moment, it's enough to get through the "now"
Sending you and your family my deepest sympathies at this very sad time. 💐
Anything we can help you with or if you just want to rant or chat, someone will be here for you.

iwould ⚘⚘it truly sucks and is the most heart breaking experience. very early days, come here for a chat when you're ready xx

Thank you so much

So sad to see new faces joining the thread.... ☹️ Sorry you have to be here too.
Mixed emotions here, I gave birth to my baby girl on Monday morning, I just wish my Mum and Dad could have seen her. X

Iwould I am so sorry

I lost my DF 4 months ago. It has been very hard but this thread has been a great help for me, so I hope it will help you too.

pink many many congratulations on the birth of your baby. Bitter sweet for you, but remember family genes live on. 🌹🌹🌹🌹

jools hope you soon feel better, it's rotten isn't it. 💐

Iwould so sorry to have to meet you this way. My mum died on 3 Jan, which seems strangely like a lifetime ago and yet so very recent. Her funeral was today and was more helpful than I thought possible. So many people I haven't seen in years and the support was amazing. But they've all gone home now and I think we are about to feel very much alone.

Hello chicken I am glad all went well today. It certainly does help after the funeral to be able to speak to so many people be it family or friends. But, and it's a big but this is where it begins to hit you hard. Gradually everyone leaves and goes back to their normal life while those closest are left to deal with their grief. It is tough, but you will get through this tough time. I hope you have RL support. 💐

My dad didn’t want a funeral, he tried to leave his body to medical science but they won’t take it because he needs a post mortem. It all feels so surreal at the moment

I think in the beginning it's hard to believe it's actually happened. It's like a bad dream in a way. But then reality kicks in again with that awful sickening thud and you remember it feels so real.
I used to wake in the morning and just for a second I forgot my mum wasn't here anymore, until a minute later it hit me all over again.
I have that feeling at the moment as I just lost a very close uncle so unexpectedly. I just cannot believe it's happened at the moment.

Surreal is exactly how I've felt. I feel a bit like I'm playing a part. And it seems very wrong that other people are getting on with their lives. I do have good support, but I'm more worried about my father who has been left on his own. We live a very long way away and we have to go home on Sunday. I think it's going to hit him hard at that point.

my dad died 4 months ago. it's still so very raw some days, but on other days it's like a distant memory. We've had none of the birthdays, or anniversarys yet so I'm dreading that.
Hotpink many congratulations on your new little girl. so bittersweet for you, but remember your parents will live on in your little girl. 💟

My dad died this week. He had asbestos related cancer so we have to wait for the inquest.
It's been very up and down. I can be fine one moment, down the next.
Back to work on Monday, feel I need the distraction right now.

maggienolia ⚘my dad died in September from industrial Asbestos related cancer. He was 73. The inquest was in November. My heart goes out to you, it's so so hard. I admit I didn't go back to work for ages, but I work in the same hospital as dad died so it was a tough time.
Be kind to yourself, it's very early days. I still cry some days, and other days I can chat about the lovely, funny things dad did. Xmas was very hard & sort of surreal.
You will get lots of support on here ⚘

Today would have been my DF's birthday. I am finding it very hard but am trying to remember the happy times as I know that is what he would want. I just miss him so much

ineed ⚘have a drink and toast your dad. remember all the good times.

ineed it time s very emotional when it comes to birthdays and special anniversary days. Somehow we all get through them, even though we feel so sad. Wish your dad a silent " happy birthday " in your head and think of the happier times you spent together. 💐

@maggienolia my dad has this now. We are almost 5 months in to a 6 month prognosis. So sorry to hear you are a bit further ahead with this than me. Hope you’re doing ok. Your poor dad.

(I cannot officially join the thread yet and feel like I don’t have a right to post as such, but knowing it’s here is a comfort. Plus I like to look in on the lovely hotpink and jools who have given me so much support).

You are very welcome here bon Maybe we can support you through this awful time. 💐

Hi Bonapp please don't feel you can't join us on here, you know you are most welcome. I think anything that helps us all has got to be a positive thing.
I just found a lovely photo of me and my dad I forgot I had. i will get a frame for it tomorrow. if I shut my eyes I can still remember his voice