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Lemon's Mum

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lemonzest123 · 14/09/2016 11:37

Hi MNers,

Thanks for tipping me off about the message limit on my other thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2725008-Would-any-MNers-be-able-to-help-tonight?pg=1&order=

I am stunned and unbelievably humbled to see that one little post I wrote sparked 1000 messages, and Im so appreciative of all you personal stories and jokes to cheer me up.

MN is offically amazing and you're all fantastic.

DM had a rough night, she apparently woke in the night with a bad headache which I think confirmed the disease has moved into her head (we expected this, apparently what's causing the paralysis often appears in the brain too). Still no appetite and sleeping all the time.

Sad

Hope everyone had a good night. I had yet more nightmares - theyre all about Mum and they all horrible. Shouty I is in fine voice this morning. Dad said he heard Shouty I bellowing to Shouty II to shut up the other day. Pot, meet kettle Hmm

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lemonzest123 · 26/10/2016 06:19

Been awake all night absolutely dreading the funeral today. Doesn't look like sleep is going to happen. Any ideas what I can do til its time to get up? DP is snoring away so don't want to wake him.

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Allatseainthemidlands · 26/10/2016 07:05

Hi lemon. It's not surprising that today feels huge. Maybe try to think about all the people who will be there to support you and to remember your mum. Breathe deeply and run through memories that make you smile. It sounds as though you have a good vicar to take the service. I know lots of us will be praying for you- that you will find comfort in the service and find that it's a useful step forward as you start this next phase. We're all still here . Flowers

VanillaSugarandChristmasSpice · 26/10/2016 07:07

Lemon - get up, have a shower, potter around, keep busy. Pack tissues. Don't be afraid to weep.

saffronwblue · 26/10/2016 07:08

Drink lots of water. Will be thinking of you xx

User568945 · 26/10/2016 07:19

Hi Lemon, just popping in to say we'll be thinking of you today. Take it one step at a time, and know that she's so proud of you xx

boo2410 · 26/10/2016 08:15

Morning Lemon, it's going to be a sad day, beautiful service but plenty of tears. Completely understandable. Remember your darling Mum with happiness knowing you did all you could for her and that she is in a better pain free place. Easier said than done I know. Remember that all MN will be with you today holding your hand. Take care FlowersFlowers

booellesmum · 26/10/2016 08:23

Just to say will be thinking of you today and hope it all goes as well as it can do.
I read this at my Dad's funeral, says it all really.

When God saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be
He put his arms around you
And whispered come to me
He didn’t like what you went through
And he gave you rest
His garden must be beautiful
He only takes the best
And when we saw you sleeping
So peaceful and free from pain
We wouldn’t wish you back
To suffer that again
Today we say goodbye
And as you take your final rest
That garden must be beautiful
Because you are one of the best.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 26/10/2016 08:29

Very much thinking of you, Lemon Flowers

boo2410 · 26/10/2016 09:14

Booelles thank you for sharing that, it's so beautiful I've welled up. Flowers

whitehandledkitchenknife · 26/10/2016 10:04

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Florathefern · 26/10/2016 11:11

Boelles that is lovely.

Thinking of you Lemon. Your DM would be so proud of you x

boobyooby · 26/10/2016 15:59

Hi Lemon,

Thinking of you still. Hope the day has gone as well as it can for you all xx

Grumpyoldblonde · 26/10/2016 16:24

Hi darling, hope the day is bearable and your mum gets a fitting farewell. Take good care of yourself. The person may be out of sight and touch but the love remains.

ohfourfoxache · 26/10/2016 18:48

Darling Lemon, I hope today went as well as it could xx

Allatseainthemidlands · 26/10/2016 22:27

Hi lemon I hope you're resting and that whatever today has held you are feeling loved and supported

FlowerOfTheValley · 26/10/2016 23:27

I hope today went as well as possible Lemon. Thinking of you Flowers

boo2410 · 27/10/2016 11:44

Hi Lemon, hope yesterday went as well as it could. Sending you a hug, take care of yourself. Flowers Flowers

FarelyKnuts · 27/10/2016 13:55

Hope yesterday went as best as these things can. Thinking of you Flowers

Fanlightfanny · 28/10/2016 12:20

Hi Lemon, hope you're ok? Take it easy now, thinking of you.

tessiegirl · 29/10/2016 17:07

So sorry about your mum, Lemon. Really hope funeral went as ok as it could Flowers

boo2410 · 29/10/2016 19:33

Hi Lemon, just popped in to say I'm still thinking of you, hope you're ok. Take care Flowers Flowers

boo2410 · 30/10/2016 20:18

Hi Lemon, just sitting here watching the X Factor and you just popped up in my mind so I'm popping in! Hope your weekend has been ok and that you are holding up. Take care Flowers Flowers

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lemonzest123 · 01/11/2016 18:54

Hi lovelies,

Was going to wait til I had something positive to say bit there isn't anything.

I'm sitting at the train station on the way home from stupid work and the frieght train went past at its usual time. It wasn't even that many weeks ago I'd be saying into my phone, every night, "Hang on Mum, the loud train is just going by". I still have the call records.

Crying in front of everyone and don't even care.

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VanillaSugarCandyCanes · 01/11/2016 19:27

Oh bless.... it takes time. I used to cry hysterically at random times .... I even used to slap my own face to try and pull myself together.... cry all you want FlowersChocolate Brew🍫🍲🌹🌈

saffronwblue · 01/11/2016 19:30

Just let the tears flow, lemon, it is the most natural part of grief. Xx