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Sudden death of my DH

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echt · 05/07/2016 09:49

Seven days ago my lovely, funny, devoted DH had a stroke and died two days later. I'm up my eyes in funeral arrangements as one might expect, and today is a sort of respite as more is in train.

I had always secretly thought that I would be alone in this country one day that he would go before me, but not so soon. He was only 61.

Sad
OP posts:
ineedwine99 · 05/07/2016 10:23

So sorry OP Flowers

Dumdedumdedum · 05/07/2016 10:24

So sorry for your loss. You must be in such shock. I know it is early days, but if you can, do go for bereavement counselling. Flowers

Chasingsquirrels · 05/07/2016 10:27

I'm sorry for your loss.
Be kind to yourself and take each minute, hour, day as it comes.
Flowers

Original poster
echt · 05/07/2016 10:28

You're so right about the shock, Dumdedum: dry mouth, inability to frame a sentence, unfinished tasks.

Is your username for the Archers? DH grew up on the radio drama, though he found the Helen/Rob thing too painful and we haven't listened for weeks. I catch up on Lowfield and Radio Addicts.

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VioletBam · 05/07/2016 10:28

Oh Echt :( I'm so, so sorry. It must have been a dreadful shock and I can't imagine how you feel right now. Flowers I've always noticed you on here and thought how nice you seem and I really am sorry. xxxx

MadameCholetsDirtySecret · 05/07/2016 10:30
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villainousbroodmare · 05/07/2016 10:30

I'm so sad for you. Hugs from Ireland.

poppym12 · 05/07/2016 10:31

I'm so very sorry Flowers

BertPuttocks · 05/07/2016 10:33

I'm so sorry, echt. Flowers

Callmegeoff · 05/07/2016 10:33

echt I know you from the gardening thread, your Dh sounded like a lovely man. Flowers My father died aged 59 it's too young . Really really sorry for your loss, I'm also feeling a bit guilty for having a mild moan albeit light hearted about my Dh on another thread. I don't know what I'd do with out him...

tadjennyp · 05/07/2016 10:34

So sorry, Echt. Flowers

ScrambledSmegs · 05/07/2016 10:35

I'm so sorry for your loss, echt x

missybct · 05/07/2016 10:35

Sending you love and best wishes, Echt Flowers

Would you like to talk about him here? xxx

SecretSpy · 05/07/2016 10:35

I'm so sorry echt, I recognised your name as someone who's been here a long time like me. Flowers Thinking of you and your family

MissingPanda · 05/07/2016 10:36

So sorry for your loss Echt Flowers

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 05/07/2016 10:36

I'm so sorry, Echt xxx

VulcanWoman · 05/07/2016 10:37

Sorry for your loss.

shovetheholly · 05/07/2016 10:39

Oh echt, I'm so very sorry. He sounds like a very, very special man. What an awful, sudden loss for you and your family. I am thinking of you and holding your hand. Flowers

TwoLittleBlooms · 05/07/2016 10:40

I am so sorry for your loss Echt Flowers

ffon · 05/07/2016 10:40

I recognise your name echt, I'm very sorry about your husband.

welshpixie · 05/07/2016 10:42

PM'ed you

SurlyValentine · 05/07/2016 10:42

I am so sorry for your loss echt. Take it easy Flowers xx

AngryBeaver · 05/07/2016 10:43

Oh my goodness. Just about to go to bed here in NZ . But, just felt compelled to reply to your post.
I can't even imagine the shock. You poor woman.
61 is far, far too young to go away.

You have had friends and family cluster around you, thank goodness.
I hope that you have ongoing support, and as someone suggested, bereavement counselling.

I don't know you echt. But, I send my love to you. I hope that's ok xxxx

imwithspud · 05/07/2016 10:49

So sorry for your loss Flowers I can't imagine what you must be going through right now.

pinktransit · 05/07/2016 10:49

I'm so sorry. Words just aren't enough.
You will be in shock, please let friends and family help as much as possible.
My DP died last year at just 60, 6 weeks after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer - I leaned on my DD and friends just to get through the days. You'll be numb for a while yet, it's just too much to take in at once.
Take care of yourself, and let others take care of you too.
My thoughts are with you
xx