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Our special thread where we can be who we are. A thread to remember our children who are no longer physically here. Our 'safe haven.'

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LilyTheSavage · 30/07/2015 20:49

This is it. Here we are. Thank you to Shabbs for noticing how far down the last thread we got.

Remembering all our precious children. Sending love to you all. This is just so wrong. I could howl to the moon tonight.

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WoodViolets · 07/09/2015 01:54

Shiney, hope the birthday party went well, and the DTs enjoyed it, and you are managing.
Thanks -- DS2 had a great birthday. I'm just glad we made it through it.

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LilyTheSavage · 10/09/2015 07:10

Just dropping by to say hello. Sending love to you all. XXX

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shabbs · 10/09/2015 14:14

Afternoon girls - hope you are all doing ok xx

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WoodViolets · 13/09/2015 18:29

Hugs to you, Shiney How is DT1?

Rough couple of days here ... it had been 7 months yesterday, and today is World Sepsis Day (from which DS1 died). I constantly question if I had taken him to the doctor earlier, or especially, a different doctor, if things would have been different.

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WoodViolets · 15/09/2015 14:53

Thank you, Shiney It is just so hard not to obsess over the what ifs ...
So glad that DT1 is a bit better ... thinking of you guys. Flowers

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WoodViolets · 18/09/2015 15:18

Oh, I am so sorry Shiney Don't blame yourself ... it is all so much to handle for a child, let alone an adult. As much as we would like, we can't protect our little ones from everything. Getting the diagnosis, and the support he needs IS how you are protecting him.
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shabbs · 21/09/2015 10:36

Morning girls. Sorry I have been AWOL - sometimes 'stuff' gets a bit hard to handle!! Just life getting on my nerves!! xxxx

WoodViolets · 21/09/2015 13:53

Hi shabbs
That certainly is true! Hope you are doing alright.

WoodViolets · 21/09/2015 13:55

posted too soon ... as alright as you can be.

shabbs · 28/09/2015 20:31

Im OK thanks - just a head full of jumbled up rubbish, sick of always being broke, missing my Dad and fretting about my Mam whose Alzheimers is marching on. Kind of reached that exhausted stage tonight - yawning constantly - think I will attempt a really early night xxxx

cathpip · 30/09/2015 12:46

It never rains but it pours....... Dh was made redundant in July but luckily has just started a new job and now dmil has been diagnosed with dementia. We knew it was coming but in typical inlaw style of them not wanting to worry us they have not told us till now because fil is now having to use respite care. Dh is very upset as his mums physical health has deteriorated drastically, and I'm trying to be sympathetic I really am but all I can think of is the fact that she's had a long happy life and 73 more years than Pippa and also 9 more years of life than my mum so far. I just want life to be boringly normal again with no drama, I'm so very tired of all this shit that's being thrown at us.

shabbs · 30/09/2015 16:40

Oh Cathpip - I know those times....those times when every last single bloody thing that can go wrong - does go wrong. I am so sorry to hear about your MIL but also understand every word of your post.

Sending much love and a massive hug xx

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WoodViolets · 01/10/2015 18:45

cathpip So sorry you have had so much to deal with. Hope you can manage some time for yourself.

shabbs Hope you got the rest you needed. So sorry about your mum.

Hope everyone is taking care of themselves as best they can. I keep waiting for some quiet times, but it seems life keeps flinging things at us, regardless of how we feel.

Shineyshoes10 · 01/10/2015 21:37

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WoodViolets · 01/10/2015 22:44

Ah, that could be very true ...

How is your DT doing?

Mojito100 · 02/10/2015 09:20

Having been absent for quite awhile I finally feel able to post again. It's been one of those periods of time where I just needed to be alone, get on with the hectic nature of day to day life and try to cope as best I could. I have caught up on posts and also wish for quiet times which you never really have. For me it seems to be stolen moments which never feel enough but is all there is time for.

I hope others are coping as best they can.

Cathpip - how is beautiful Henry???
Lily - I hope you have weathered the second anniversary of your beloved boys passing.
All others - I hope you are managing and those around you are also coping OK.

I did say I would post some information on attachment issues which my youngest has had after the loss of DD. I will do this shortly.

cathpip · 02/10/2015 19:10

Mojito I hope your well, quiet times would be nice but they are in short supply here. Henry is thriving, he's nearly 7 weeks old and huge. Elliott and Henry are now referred to as captain disaster and first mate pork a lot :) Aubrey is a very proud big brother.

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Doobydoo · 02/10/2015 20:30

Today I should be the mum of a 25 year old! Happy Birthday Hannah. Xx

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