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DH is dying

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 03:11

I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

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purplemeggie · 14/02/2015 04:56

Flowers. Glad you have your little purry friend - they do know when they're needed. Thinking of you x

differentnameforthis · 14/02/2015 05:26

So sorry op...although sorry isn't enough I know...

HoggleHoggle · 14/02/2015 05:31

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

JoanHickson · 14/02/2015 05:37

I am so sorry.

I am up not due to a purring cat. Enjoy the comfort. My cat scratched at the door mat and woke me. I just had to clean a puddle of cat wee at 5 am. I would have liked a purring cat on my lap instead.

Often even if you have friends they can let you down at times like this. It is good your dd is nearby and your ds lives with you.

RevoltingPeasant · 14/02/2015 05:41

Flowers OP.

You sound like you have a lovely, strong, close marriage. Your DH knows he is deeply loved. No one can take that away.

McKayz · 14/02/2015 05:42

I'm so sorry to hear about your DH. Sad

FlossieTreadlight · 14/02/2015 05:54

I'm so very sorry. Thanks

Original poster
WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 05:58

I've had a shower and have got coffee. It is good to be able to 'talk' to everyone here.

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echt · 14/02/2015 05:58

So very sorry about your DH, Where.

Cats are good for comfort.

Thanks
fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 14/02/2015 06:05

Really really sorry to hear this.

We are all here for you Thanks

HawkeyeInChaos · 14/02/2015 06:08

So sorry to hear this where. My thoughts are with you. Flowers

rumbelina · 14/02/2015 06:11

This is shit, I'm so sorry. FlowersFlowers

cherrytree63 · 14/02/2015 06:13

I'm very sorry to read this Where. My husband died after a three year illness so I had some time to get my head round it, a sudden thing like this is just terrible.
My thoughts are with you and your family x

Bowlersarm · 14/02/2015 06:17

So sorry, WhereDo. Thinking of you.

FiftyShadesOfGreen4205 · 14/02/2015 06:21
Flowers
Purpleknickers · 14/02/2015 06:27

So very sorry, my mum died in very similar circumstances it's a horrid shock my thoughts are with you and your family.
Keep posting on here each day will be a new challenge but you will get through. I'm pleased you have a purry friend to give you some comfort Flowers

PossumPoo · 14/02/2015 06:28

Another one in Australia, able to offer a hand hold.

Sorry to hear about hour DH but glad to hear you have your dc near you Flowers

PossumPoo · 14/02/2015 06:28

*your

honeypie10 · 14/02/2015 06:30

My best friend died last year of the same thing. I have no advice other than to take baby steps each day. Im so glad you have your children and your cat for comfort and support.

My cat became my personal little therapist - still is, take care I'll be thinking of you today x

Timetoask · 14/02/2015 06:32

I am so sorry OP, I hope you and your 2 children can comfort each other. You've got each other.

Isthiscorrect · 14/02/2015 06:40

Hugs. I have no words to comfort your sorrow. Flowers

babsmam · 14/02/2015 06:43

Flowers I'm so sorry for you all. [[[[[]]]]]] hugs

Rosa · 14/02/2015 06:44

So sorry wishing you strength in the time to come.

Kleptronic · 14/02/2015 06:49

Sorry you are going through this, Where. It is so hard to lose someone. Take it a minute at a time, then two, then back to one again, then five...wishing you strength.

coolaschmoola · 14/02/2015 06:51

So sorry Where.