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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

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Find bereavement help and support from other Mumsnetters.

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Bereavement

DH is dying

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WhereDoAllTheCalculatorsGo · 14/02/2015 03:11

I don't even know what topic to put this in. My DH had a brain haemorrhage yesterday morning, the doctors have said it's not survivable. He's 60 years old and my best friend as well as my husband, we've been married for 23 years. I was sat at the bedside in ICU yesterday thinking that I wasn't going to post on mumsnet, even though like a lot of us I spend quite a bit of time here and feel like part of the community, but at 3 o'clock in the morning when you're all alone it seems like a good idea.
I got sent home from the hospital 'to try to get some sleep'.

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ShyGirlie · 14/02/2015 08:40

Thinking of you this morning. Such a terrible shock for something like this to happen so unexpectedly. Hope you find renewed strength today, and can spend as much time as possible with your lovely DH with your family nearby. There's always someone here to chat and hold your hand.x

VeryVeryDarkGrey · 14/02/2015 08:41

I'm so sorry op

Lolly86 · 14/02/2015 08:43

So sorry to hear your news x

PacificDogwood · 14/02/2015 08:45

Wishing you all the strength in the world
Life can be very unfair.
I hope you and your DCs can be a support to each other.

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Bin85 · 14/02/2015 08:48

Sending love
This happened to my best. Friend at 54
Perhaps you should go to the hospital and spend some quiet time with him so you don't regret it later?
Sorry you may feel I shouldn't say that
It will be hard
You will cope somehow

Patatas · 14/02/2015 08:51

Sending you peace and strength to get through today op. So sorry you are going through this.

PinkSquash · 14/02/2015 08:53

So sorry Where x

magimedi · 14/02/2015 08:55

So very sorry for you & your children.

MilkThistle187 · 14/02/2015 08:56

So sorry this has happened, it must be a terrible shock. Sending love and strength to you and your family x

notnaice · 14/02/2015 08:57

Just tell him you love him.

Take one step at a time. It always amazes me how resilient humans are. You will get through this. It'll be hard but there will be better times. Things will gradually get easier.

Thinking of you

DorothyBastard · 14/02/2015 09:00

I'm so very sorry Wheredo

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Woopsiedaisy · 14/02/2015 09:03

My thoughts are with you.

I lost my DH in a not totally dissimilar way (severe brain trauma following an accident).

I can't pretend it was easy, but I can tell you the things that helped me through it.

I took the time to tell my DH everything He had been to me and everything I felt, before he died.
I fought all the battles he couldn't fight. When the Hospital tried to move him out of ICU and put him in a side room to die and then told me they couldn't give him the Morphine he needed for pain, I got him moved to the local Hospice.
I agreed to transolant and still love the thought that part of my DH lives on in other people.
I was respectful of other peoples feelings, but absolutely clear that he came first.
i was kind to myself.
I acceted help where it was offered.
I lived in the moment. The future was too scary and would take care of itself.
I accepted Counselling when it was offered.
I took the time to grieve.

10. Slowly, gently I built a new life for myself.

All this was years ago. Although I never thought it possible I came out the other side a happy person. DH lives on in my heart but I have created a new life, in a new place, that reflects all the positive things we had together and the person that I have become as a result of knowing and loving him !!

Stay strong WDATCG we will hold your hand for as long as you need it.

BeautifulPain · 14/02/2015 09:04

Im so sorry where, I'm wishing you strength and sending you love x

UnalignedAnt · 14/02/2015 09:04

I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Wishing you and your family strength and sending hugs

JsOtherHalf · 14/02/2015 09:05

So sorry to hear this. Relative passed in similar circumstances a while ago, do look after yourself as best you can - try some soup if you can't eat.

Stealthpolarbear · 14/02/2015 09:06

oh calc wish therewas something i could do or say xxxx

Rainicorn · 14/02/2015 09:07

I am so very sorry

PetiteBateau · 14/02/2015 09:07

I am so sorry to hear your news. Lots of love to you & your family xxx

Allstoppedup · 14/02/2015 09:08

So very sorry, thinking of you today.

TheLastNameLeft · 14/02/2015 09:11

You are in my thoughts, much love to you and your family XXX

chelsbells · 14/02/2015 09:14

So sorry you are going through this. Sending strength and love to you and your family x

Quadrophonic · 14/02/2015 09:14

I am so very sorry - you will be in my thoughts xx

SoftKittyWarmKitty · 14/02/2015 09:18

So, so sorry. Sending you love.

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