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Our special thread where we can be who we are. A thread to remember our children who are no longer physically here. Our 'safe haven.'

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shabbs · 13/04/2014 13:49

United we stand.....divided we fall. My love to all of you - a place to remember our precious children and to help each other walking this 'crappy path.'

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jenmac22 · 28/04/2015 09:29

What a beautiful tribute to your little girl,cathpip.
Xxx

Mojito100 · 28/04/2015 10:16

How wonderful to celebrate Pippa and how bittersweet that you have to do it this way. Well done the blokes for doing it.

LilyTheSavage · 28/04/2015 18:23

How wonderful cathpip. I think I heard Pippa being mentioned as I was glued to the sofa all day watching. It was very emotional.

What a wonderful tribute to Pippa.

Mojito100 · 30/04/2015 11:20

Morning all.

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shabbs · 03/05/2015 08:56

Morning girls - from a freezing cold, windy, rainy Lancashire. xxx

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Neverending2012 · 04/05/2015 00:31

I walked 50kms to raise money for the hospice that helped with my son yesterday. I'm stiff as a board and my toe nails are going to fall off. Spent the whole way thinking about my gorgeous boy. It ended at the hospice he died in, as odd as it sounds it was lovely to be back, it's a place I can remember him. The staff were so kind. Such mixed emotions. Just miss him terribly.

Spamminit · 04/05/2015 02:05

Can I come in?

My 3rd son was born 1.04 Saturday morning at 18+4 gestation. He is beautiful and perfect. Tomorrow I need to arrange his funeral, I couldn't bear it today. I don't even know what to do Sad

Mojito100 · 04/05/2015 14:02

I'm sorry you are here Spammit and for your loss. It's a wonderfully supportive group.

Mojito100 · 04/05/2015 22:37

For those on here some are in such early stages of grief; for some it has been a longer time.

I just wanted to share a poignant moment I had on the weekend. I baked my DD's favourite biscuits which I had forgotten about until I found the recipe. It actually brought back lovely memories without that heart breaking feeling. It was lovely to be able to think of her without that overwhelming sadness.

bella93 · 04/05/2015 22:39

Hi can I join too?

my beautiful boy died in january a few weeks before his third birthday. it was completely sudden, we found him in his bed. Through an autopsy we found out he had an inoperable brain tumour

sorry for all of your losses xx

Our special thread where we can be who we are. A thread to remember our children who are no longer physically here. Our 'safe haven.'
Neverending2012 · 05/05/2015 00:09

Bella and spaminit sending lots of love.

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shabbs · 05/05/2015 00:32

Welcome Bella and Spamminit - as I always say I am so sorry that you have had to come and find us. There is no death so sad as that of a child - no matter what age that child is. I have lost two of my four sons.....one of my twin sons died at the age of 6 months - almost 33 years ago and my DS3 was killed in a RTA when he was 7 years old - almost 23 years ago.

You will find ladies on this thread who have 'walked a mile in your shoes,' We are here to help each other - this thread has been continuous for about 9 years. xxxx

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LilyTheSavage · 05/05/2015 04:23

Hello Bella and Spamminit. A sad but warm welcome. I'm so sorry for your losses.

Sending love. XXX

LilyTheSavage · 05/05/2015 04:25

Mojito
I love that you were able to think of DD without feeling overwhelmed. How lovely. Smile

bella93 · 05/05/2015 17:06

shabbs I am so so sorry. losing one is hard enough but I can not imagine losing 2. you are a lot stronger than me, I imagine.

wecanmanagenow · 05/05/2015 17:09

Hi can I join please. It's my daughters birthday tomorrow she would have been 14. She died at 14 months from meningococcal septicaemia

cathpip · 05/05/2015 18:53

Hello Bella,Spamminit and Wecan, I am very sorry that you have joined this thread. I lost my 3 year old dd Pippa in April last year from sepsis after she caught bacterial pneumonia, it was so sudden. This thread and the ladies on it have helped me through some very tough days indeed, I hope that just knowing that you are not alone is of some support.

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bella93 · 06/05/2015 20:47

thank you for the welcomes.

it isnt fair that any of us have to post here. I am sorry to you all too.

cathpip · 08/05/2015 21:36

I'm curled up in bed with my eldest, he came out of school with a temp which is still fluctuating but it scares the crap out of me as this is how Pippa started getting ill before she died. The only good thing is that he managed 6 slices of pizza and icecream for tea! A sleepless night for me listening to him snoring no doubt.......

Mojito100 · 08/05/2015 23:34

Take care cathpip. I find it almost impossible to lose those feelings of anxiety and sometimes dint even realise how anxious I am about something.

Mojito100 · 08/05/2015 23:35

Welcome all who have found us recently. Like the others I am sorry you are here with us. Please do share your ups and downs we understand what you are going through.

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LilyTheSavage · 09/05/2015 06:32

cathpip I'm sorry your eldest is a bit under the weather but 6 slices of pizza and ice-cream is a comforting sign that he's ok. I hope you got some sleep.