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Our fantastic DD3 has lost her battle.

231 replies

3girlies · 28/07/2012 12:01

Our beautiful and brave DD3 lost her battle against a brain tumour on 2nd July.She was 6 years old. The end came very quickly, just 2 wks after we were told it had spread, though she had been ill for a few weeks, we were hoping it was just the chemo hitting her hard. So devastated, I am weeping all the time it seems, how can you help the other children cope when you can't do it yourself?
I am glad she died at home in our bed with me, my worst nightmare would have been a long slow decline in Birmingham Children's hospital, I am trying to comfort myself with this one thing. The grief seems unbearable otherwise.

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Mamamaiasaura · 28/07/2012 20:29

So sorry to read this. Flora sounds like such a lovely little girl (my ds is ASD and those quirks make them even more special). I do not have any words that could make any of this bearable Sad
Xxx

Zhx3 · 28/07/2012 20:30

I am so sorry for the loss of your wonderful Flora, 3girlies. No parent should have to go through what you have. My love and thoughts to you and your family x.

CharlieUniformNovemberTango · 28/07/2012 20:45

So sorry for your loss.

Maybe it's a bit raw just now but when you feel able maybe you could sit with your DDs and let them make scrapbooks of beautiful Flora? If you give them lots of copies of photos and really let them be individual about what they want to show and say it will help them focus on the good times you've had. And it will also be something they can look at when ever they feel they need to be close to her.

Also on a similar theme is letting them decorate a frame and pick out one special photo to keep somewhere close like their bedside cabinet.

Planting a tree or flowering plant may also give them a focus.

There is no right or wrong way of grieving. Just do what you need to do to get by these dark days whilst it is still so raw.

Take care. Huge hugs to you all.

Rosa · 28/07/2012 20:46

So very sorry for you and your family.

civilfawlty · 28/07/2012 20:46

I'm so very sorry for your loss. X

muddyjumpers · 28/07/2012 20:49

So sorry for your loss.
RIP Flora
(((Hugs))) to you and your family xx

Sidge · 28/07/2012 20:51

I'm so very sorry your Flora has gone.

I have 3 girls and my dad died from glioblastoma.

Sending you love, peace and strength and wishing you many special memories of your beautiful daughter xxx

colette · 28/07/2012 20:52

So sorry , wishing you all the love and support you and your family need right now x

Sabriel · 28/07/2012 20:54

I would second contacting CRUSE, especially if your other girls have difficulties dealing with their grief in the months to come.

What a horrible thing to happen to your family and how sad to lose your lovely girl :(

buzzgirly · 28/07/2012 20:57

I'm so sorry for the loss of Flora. Sending love and support for you and your family x

mumblecrumble · 28/07/2012 20:58

SO sorry that your daughter has left the world so quickly. DO get all the help you can .

So sorry

Piemistress · 28/07/2012 21:00

So sorry to hear about your loss,,RIP beautiful Flora xx

MildredIsMyAlterEgo · 28/07/2012 21:04

So sorry about the loss of your darling little Flora.

Bear hugs to you and your family xx

StabbyMacStabby · 28/07/2012 21:07

I'm so sorry, it seems so wrong that these things should happen to children Sad

PavlovtheCat · 28/07/2012 21:43

what a beautiful name x

TheGashlycrumbTinies · 28/07/2012 21:53

Really sorry for the loss of Flora.

BardOfBarking · 28/07/2012 21:57

Holding you and Flora and her sisters in my thoughts tonight x

seb1 · 28/07/2012 22:00

So very sorry. x

sparrowfart · 28/07/2012 22:06

I am sorry to hear about your beautiful girl... what love and comfort she must have felt there in your arms. x.

RatherBeOnThePiste · 28/07/2012 22:24

so so sorry Sad

chickydoo · 28/07/2012 22:26

So so sad for your loss
Thinking of you

OB1Kenobi · 28/07/2012 22:36

I am so sorry for your loss.
You will all be in my prayers tonight
Xxx

moajab · 28/07/2012 23:20

I am so sorry. There are no words other than to say that you and your lovely family are in my thoughts. x

hmc · 28/07/2012 23:29

3girlies, so very sorry you lost your lovely Flora. It's awful that you have to suffer this loss. Dying in bed with you, feeling your love and warmth, glad that you and she had that

seasalt · 28/07/2012 23:31

So sorry to hear of the loss of your little girl.