Love, like starlight, never dies - In loving memory of all our darling children gone too soon!

[Bluetinkerbell]

I am the gentle breeze upon your face
The twinkle in the stars
I am the sudden ray of sunshine
That warms your broken heart.

Thank you Whatevertheweather for starting the previous thread! :)

Let this place be a place of support for all of us on this path together, with lots of smiles, lots of tears, lots of hugs and lots of understanding x
A place where 'new' and 'old' bereaved Mums and parents can share their grieve, experiences and memories of their darling children.

I'm seeing one on 6 October, chip.

We're going to have a kerb round hers. Lots of the stones in the cemetary where she is have them. She's at a Catholic cemetary in Scotland, though.

Oh, Blue, if you're going to need more plants....
I got this one japonicus for Sylvie-Rose's garden. I thought you might like the blue berries.

How did you hear about your medium, expat?

I would love to be rich. If I were I'd fly over to New York and see George Anderson. I read one of his books "Walking in the Garden of Souls" and it was quite a nice comforting read.

Blue That must have been so upsetting. I hope you're able to get something sorted out so that Sterre's flowers aren't disturbed again.

We still have DD1's ashes at home. We want to scatter them, but are dragging our feet a bit. I feel like it will mark another moving on somehow, but not sure if it will be a good or a bad thing. Possibly a bit of both.

I've considered going to a medium, and friends of mine have recommended one to me, but I don't feel ready to take the step yet. I was really seriously thinking about it a few months ago, when I had the most wonderful dream. DD1 was there and happy, telling me she was OK and that she was being looked after by other relatives who had passed. She then cuddled me for hours and, when I woke up, I could still feel her. I've felt a lot more settled since.

It's Gordon Smith, chip :).

chip, hope the lovely ladies here have helped to reassure you about your own importance as a person, as a mother, as a wife. You too, are loved and are precious to so many people. Sylvie-Rose is safe, and loved, and part of you forever.

blue that's so upsetting. I was at a bereaved parents' evening the other night and it seems that this sort of thing is quite common, as many people were discussing the challenges of keeping their children's graves neat and tidy, whether in churchyards or more public sites. It's not really a topic we would ever otherwise think about, is it?

shabba I bet the wedding was amazing, and hopefully, not too hard for you. Did you feel that Gareth and Matt were with you all?

Do you know it was a day filled with laughter. I had so much to do that there wasn't time to mope about. I didn't feel them at all during the entire day but my Mum said she felt assured they were there. It was a day of celebration and my son finally making my beautiful daughter in law his wife - they have been together 12 years!! It was a truly wonderful day xx

tamisara thankyou for the birthday wishes, he had a lovely birthday, i am in shock that he is now 13!!

btw in my post it should have that that i feel i shouldnt read this thread as it seems a private place?

anyway i am sending my love to you all, and along with the birthday candles i now have a candle lit for all your babies and children xxx

i wish i had some wise words :( but i dont, and i shall leave you and your thread in peace, it seems a very special place and whilst i wish you didnt need it, i am very glad that you have it xx

Glad you had such a cracking day Shabbs

Hi ladies xx
Around the first anniversary of Richard's death glitter appeared on our fireplace (no real fire, gas now) I cleaned it up and a few days later it was back. We have never had glitter in our house, very strange. We also had a lamp coming on in the middle of the night. I have also had things disappearing and turning up later. Some may say I am a mad old woman, but I do know what is real and what has no explaination whatever. xx

One time when we took flowers to the Crem where we scattered Richard's ashes and we have put a plaque I was sitting quietly by myself (hubby had gone to loo) my mobile rang and it would not switch off, my ringtone is Clocks by Coldplay which Richard sent to me, it would not stop until it ran out I couldn;t even switch off phone. I could not find out who had rung. I am not very good with modern technology but I can usually work it out eventually but that was a complete mystery. Call me crazy but to me it was a sign. Nothing has happened for a very long time and I wonder if he has gone and is resting in peace I hope so , only time will tell, I don't think he is in our house now. xxx

I'm glad you had a lovely day, shabs.

Oh MrsK, what a lovely dream. I haven't had any like that but my ccousin met my Nana in a dream. My cousin said my Nana was young and beautiful and looking after Sylvie-Rose.

If I add up all the signs, I should never be in any doubt.

Sorry I meant to say at the beginning of my post that I believe in signs.

So glad that you had a brilliant day Shabs the photos are beautiful and you are a very glamorous granny and mum in law xxx

xposts lavandes xx

chip I'm sorry that you've felt that way today. I have always thought of you as one of the kindest most open people that I've met on here. You sound like you're doing a fantastic job at being a mammy to your boys and also to Sylvie-Rose.

MrsK what a lovely dream. I would love to dream of B but sadly I've only had one which was quite upsetting as it focused on his problems, but I still woke trying to cling onto its memory.

chip I'm so sad you felt that bad today. Your boys absolutely need you, but they're there to give you hugs as well.

I've had a candle lit this afternoon for C and all our little ones. I feel a bit better this evening, I just can't stop thinking 'what if'. I don't know if this is normal, but it's something I've always done.

today hello and happy birthday Charlie. I hope that you have passed a peaceful day today.

Thank you First, it got better as the afternoon went on.

I'm much better now. Thank you all so much. I don't know where I'd be without you!

MrsK, that's the awesomest dream EVER!

My bloody nosepad on my glasses is digging in to my nose which means that I will now have to call into work tomorrow to get it replaced. I really didn't want to go into work tomorrow.

My friend's Mum died.

:( Oh, chip, I'm so sorry.

she is an amazing person and was her chatty funny self right till the end. Going to see my friend now.

Chip (((hugs))) Hope you're friend is OK (you too of course) :( xx