"Too Beautiful for Earth" For Sylvie-Rose and all our Angel Children

[chipmonkey]

For my darling Sylvie-Rose, taken from us just seven weeks after you were born. Too beautiful for this earth but I so wish you could have stayed nonetheless.
And for all the Mums walking this tough path. Let us link arms along the way and not be defeated by the cruel blow life has dealt us.

I have found the p/w and it shows fraser is in the middle plot

I checked and the numbers tie in with the cemetary .. he is in 15 there is blank either side and the next headstones are numbered 13 and 17

Frasers garden was marked with a wooden cross before we left and it wasnt moved till the headstone went up so its just the councils' pw that is messed up

I have phoned them and shouted at them ..they said they had sorted it.. I was really quite snotty and told them that they better be sure cos if they disturbed my baby I would take it all the way .....

I am not proud of myself but fraser's remeber day is on friday and its birthday on Sunday so i was not being messed with

neurotic mother alert

oh fm, what an enormous amount of unnecessary stress to deal with. Especially this week in the run up to his remember day and birthday. How can they make a mistake like that? I would've reacted exactly the same way with the council, I wouldn't worry about what you said to them, they needed to be told and you needed to be sure.

Good for you, fm. Not at all neurotic, I would have done exactly the same. Some bloody pen-pusher that can't tell one number from another!

Had MIL around earlier. First of all made a comment that she had been to the grave and the lights weren't lit. The solar lights don't come on till dusk and the candles really don't look bright till after dark either.
Then she started going on about a guy who was speaking at church about how he didn't believe in God till after he had a heart transplant but now he totally believes in God as he let him live when he should have died. So I ended up getting cross and saying that in that case, I should turn my back on God for not letting Sylvie-Rose live.
Which I actually haven't, if anything I'm more spiritual but I was so annoyed and I can't even figure out why!

Not neurotic at all fm you are protecting your child. I'm glad it is sorted out xx

Grrr to your mil Chip sometimes people really don't think before they engage their brain. The God question is an interesting one, both my mum and mil are religious, regularly attend mass and are involved in the church community. Both have found what happened to Erin hard to reconcile their faith with.

Had a call this evening to say Erin's headstone should be ready for us to see by the end of the month then it can be put up. Has taken a long time as we ordered it in November. I hope it's as 'nice' as we wanted it for her. Headstones for babies, how did my life get here

Yes we will definitely view it before it's put up. They asked if we wanted to be there when it's being put it place but I don't think I do. Dp said he might though.

headstone for your baby .its just awful isnt it ...we never thought it was something we would ever have to contemplate was it ...

Ladies, a short while ago, I was on this thread talking to fioled about a headstone for Sylvie-Rose as I wanted something like she had for B. And I think we both felt that it was such an awful thing to have to discuss. It should be things like travel cots and buggies, shouldn't it, whatever? But yet, I do want it to be a nice tribute to her and as pretty as it can be. I think there is something so sad about a teddy set in stone, for example, a teddy should be soft and cuddly, not hard and cold. But a soft cuddly teddy doesn't last five minutes in the cold and the rain. And then I get to thinking she shouldn't be out in the cold and the rain, she should be here in the house with us.

Yes, MIL is something else. She is dogmatically Catholic but tbh I don't think it's in a nice normal way like other peoples' Catholic mothers. She is obsessed with it and is always trying to convert me back. But what annoys me is that I have my own beliefs. She thinks that anyone who isn't Catholic is essentially a "pagan" and by pagan, she means that they have no religion at all. But in a way,IMO she has missed the whole point! Why go to church every day and then be horrible to other people and cause divisions among your own children?

You're so right Chip some of the church committee ladies are the biggest bitches going but do it all under the guise of 'being a good christian' To me that means being kind, supportive, empathetic, understanding and tolerant. I must say I don't go to church anymore though both K and E were christened catholic. I help out on the church finance committee though as a favour to my mum. It's funny though I don't practise any religion all I could think when Erin died was we have to get Fr Joe here to christen her. I guess a catholic upbringing is a bit ingrained!

Yes cots, car seats, prams, sleeping and weaning normal topics of new mothers not headstones and cemeteries. I've seen a picture of B's stone on your blog fioled it's just perfect. We've gone for an asymetrical curved stone in a silvery blue granite with stars across the top and 'Love, like starlight, never dies' across the bottom. All the lettering is pink and it will have some butterflies on the plinth. We agonised over the words but in the end just went for her name, 25th August 2011 and Beloved daughter and sister. Trouble is the stones are fairly small being that they're for a childrens plot which I suppose makes sense but didn't occur to us at first.

oooh wtw so lovely! Sterre has a very similar wording, hers says darling daughter and sister and 'Love, like starlight, never dies' as well.
can't wait to see a pic of Erin's pretty stone!

It sounds lovely whatever For Sylvie-Rose, I think we're going to have this thread title, "Too beautiful for Earth" and are shamelessly copying the colouring that fioled has for B but with a teddy rather than a heart. Actually, I love B's heart but dh is set on a Teddy.

wtw Erin's stone sounds just perfect xx

We have 'love like starlight never dies' on the wall above X's cot and we read the book for both of our babies at his dedication. It is so meaningful and very very special (thank you again blue - it always makes me think of you too as you introduced the book to us!) B's special book is "Guess how much I love you" - which is why that wording is on her stone. Blue introduced us to No Matter What when we were pg with X and it just seemed so fitting for our family.

chip don't be silly - its not copying! :) I'm glad B's stone was able to help you choose Sylvie-Rose's.

Most recent picture of her garden is on yesterdays blog. X's godmother bought a 'Bless this Garden' decorative stone for B and we took it up there on Mother's Day. Perfect.

Fioled, I love that stone! The butterfly is just lovely and particularly when butterflies are B's "thing".

Morning ladies,

I agree ever the holidays are long and the weather in Edinburgh is pretty miserable. Lots of arts and crafts going on here.

Fiona

Yes I got the results back this afternoon. Low risk! I'm really relieved but still not ready to tell anyone in rl yet.
I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow and I've just bought some jeans in the size up and long cardigans so I'm going to hold off telling for as long as I can. Still worried about the anomaly scan and heart problems but I think I'll be worried the whole way through. So different to how I was with dd and Jude.

I might try but it'll probably have to be private. Tbh the scan was a bit quick and the sonographer was pretty short with us. She rushed the scan then we forgot to ask for pictures and she didn't offer so I don't think I'll be able to talk them into a 16 week.

I know. Even though it's at the start of my notes that I've just lost a child, I still have to tell every medical person I meet because they don't read the notes. "Is this your first child?". "Is there a history of heart problems?"

I think I need to have a badge made!
It's so surreal having a conversation about pregnancy and postmortems at the same time and I'm apprehensive of telling people in case they think I'm over what happened to my boy or in case they think I'm trying to replace him.