Feeling very down, will I ever be have another baby?

[bunny2]

Since my second mc I cant seem to dig myself out of this hole, I am crying every day, drinking too much (though not loads), obsessing and feeling depressed. The more I search for answers the bleaker the picture gets. The Royal College of Obstetricians and Gyneacologists have lots of info about recurrent miscarriage and I read on the site "A history of subfertility (conception delay greater than 12 months) is present in 25 -30% of women with recurrent miscarriage. It is frequently due to ovulatory disorders and confers a poor prognosis for future pregnancy outcome". Well, I took over 18 months to conceive after a m/c, then was diagnosed with ovulatory disorders and treated only to miscarry again.

So is that it? Should I give up having another baby? The thought breaks my heart.

Quackers - you had better pop up every now and again as your story is all about hope! If you ever travel over to Liverpool, let me know!

Bunny - will set up thread now.

Morning, how is everyone today??
Couldn't help waking with a smile this morning.
Eyelash, I'm over alot as all my relatives are in Liverpool or Warrington! Coming over 2 weeks today for big Xmas party!
Beety, not surprised, I'm confused so god help anyone else. Briefly, I had a m/c at 15 weeks in March but baby was about 8. Then had a m/c in August at about 5.5-6 weeks. I got pg again and felt great, good symptoms etc..., then they suddenly went and I had some bleeding, which is how both m/c's had started. I just didn't feel pg anymore. I had an early scan booked anyway for yesterday so decided to hang on for that. Told work it was happening again and basically see you in 2 weeks, told friends, family that it was happening again, then miracle of miracles at the scan got a heartbeat.
Oh computer crashing again, will have to come back - bugger.

Quackers - so so pleased. I sort of knew you know......don't know why. I know its hard (iv'e had 2 okay scans and I still can't relax), but try to enjoy it a bit now....even if only for a few days before the doubts start again. I had heard somewhere that if they find a hbeat the m/c chances go down to 5%. And once you get to 8 weeks go down again. So sit back and try to enjoy. Get those mince pies out, get the carols on - you'll be crying before you know (well carols do that to me even when not up the duff)
I'm so pleased pet

My nuchal scan tomorrow, so fingers crossed
Lots of love

Thanks Lazyeye!! ROFL re carols!! Thought I was bad!
truckloads of luck for tomorrow's scan, be thinking of you chuck!!xx

BUnny, how was your evening? Hope you had that glass for me!!

quzkers get your but back to the july 2004 thread!x

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I am so pleased for you Quacks, all the best with the rest of your pregnancy

Bunny thanks for that information it was really useful. I started taking baby asprin last night and I am going to continue to use it. My consultant gave me Clomid, but I did'nt get chance to take it before finding out I was pg. I have an appointment with him in about 12 weeks time but don't really want to wait that long I have asked for it to be brought forward but his secretary doesn't hold up much help, unless I were to go private this time.

I have been tempted to take the Clomid in an effort to get pg quicker, it has generally taken me 7-8 months each time on my own and my m/c have happened at 7 and 8 1/2 weeks, but like you say I'm not sure if it will do more harm if I am ovulating fine on my own. I am 31 which I know isn't too old but I have been tring for over 18 months now

Fantastic news Quackers, so pleased for you!
Hope you enjoy the rest of your wonderful pregnancy! :0:0:0:0:0

Great news quackers!

Quackers - you are an inspiration!
Well done duckie!

Quacks, I am honoured that you have hijacked this thread! Now go and enjoy the next 33 weeks.

Eyelash, see you on t'other thread. I have just eaten lots of Roquefort cheese . But, God was is good?

Niknik, I dont think clomid will help unless you have an ovulatory problem. It wont make a woman with normal ovulatiion more fertile but it will hopefully make a woman who doesnt, ovulate. In fact, I think taking clomid when you already ovulate might increase your chances of miscarriage. I'm not sure about this but pls spk to a medical professional before taking it. I do understand and sympathise with your eagerness to get pregnant, I am the same.

Good luck tomorrow Lazyeye. Be thinking of you.

Thanks Bunny xxx
Have ot agree about Clomid, I was given it and shouldn't have been. I only had one cycle of no ov and Doc gave it. When I did some research, I found that the benefits were fab for someone who couldn't ov/had problems, but wasn't convinced to take it myself so quickly. LOLXX
Lazyeye, how did it go?

Thanks for the advice girls, I know your right, but it is just so tempting when I have a box full to hand.

I will try to wait until Feb and get his advice I will also ask if he can do some blood tests now to rule out APS with me.

Bunny are you at a specialist unit, at present I am just with my local District Hospital

Nik Nik, in your situation I'd definately wait for medical advice. I am being treated at the ob/gynea unit in our local hospital, unfortunately the unit doesnt specialise in infertility and miscarriage which is probably why an admin cock-up led to me attending a menopause clinic (thought they all looked a bit older than the average ttcer).

I have just joined Mumsnet but have been following various threads for some time. You all sound like a great bunch of people!! I myself am pregnant for the third time. I lost my first in Dec 2002 (a live birth at 24 weeks - he died after two days) and my second in August - she was stillborn. I am currently 10 weeks and due in July 2004. Fingers crossed this time!

I just want to say to everyone who has experienced loss - please don't give up! That's not so say that I don't worry - I do believe me! Everyone is different but try and remain strong and trust that one day, you'll have a little bundle of joy!

Welcome Norfolk Turkey, you have certainly been throught the mill haven't you. I am so sorry. However, I just want to wish you all the very best for your new pcgy!!! I am due July too all being well this time, do come over to the due in July thread if you would like to chat. I do linger here alot, as I love the people on this thread, as you say they're lovely. It's so good to all have each other. Glad you have joined us! Take care for now.xx

Hi NorfolkTurkey - nice topical name! What a terrible double tragedy. Congratulations on this pregnancy, I hope and pray you have a healthy one this time. There is always loads of support here so please let us know how you're getting on.

You sound fab Norfolk Turkey - I wish you all the very best.

just reread the entire thread and NorfolkTurkey is right, we are a great bunch of people!

I've just read it too, made me cry. It's great.

Bunny, how are you, dod you have a nice weekend?

Eyelash, how was your weekend?? Hope all goes well today, I'm thinking of you chuckxxx Let us know how you got on.

Hana, Melliek, Brunhilda etc.... too many to mention onhere now, hope you're all well!
xx

NorfolkTurkey (great name) all the very best - terrible time you have had, so fingers crossed for you.

Had the nuchal on Thursday and well within normal range 1.2mm or something, so very pleased. First time I have had a posh scan where the monitor is above you head instead of giving yourself neckache by twisting. Very posh. Lots of views of tiny seahorse bouncing around. Nice scan, so fingers crossed girls and good luck to all of you as well........hoping the New Year brings us all good things man.

Lazyeye, that's brilliant news, can you relax a bit now?

Hi Quacks, yep a good weekend thanks but the MIL is coming to stay today - wish there was an appropriate smiley for that one! How are you feeling? A bit more relaxed I hope.

Great news Lazyeye!
I'm fine Bunny thanks, 8 weeks today. Doing ok, but still off work!
Hana, how did your appointment go??

thaks for remembering Quacks, it was this afteroon.....and really I think was a waste of time. We spent the first 10 minutes or so going over my history - which was really a waste as she had my hospital records in front of her - and then we just kind of looked at each other - I was told nothing that I didn't already know from reading various books or looking up things on the net - so many questions I had but she said she couldn't answer as she wasn't a 'fertility expert' - So I feel it was a waste of time. Blood tests weren't even brought up until I said that I myself had requested them.....I am now having the test done for antiphospholipid syndrome - was told not to ttc until results were back (early to mid January) and of course we are ttc now....so I said should I take the baby aspirin now instead of waiting fo results and she said no - so am feeling like I'm in limbo - chances are that we aren't pregnant this cycle (wishful thinking really) am just really really down . Everyone I know it seems is pregnant and no one I know is going through what have, or what I am going through. When people ask me ' so where are you going to give dd a brother or sister? ' I am now painfully honest about why there ISN'T a brother or sister for our sweet dd. Sometimes I feel like I am the only one going through this and want my baby NOW and don't want to wait.
We are also having chromosome analysis done on us to look at any possible genetic reasons why we are having m/cs. ( our baby lost in June was becaue of genetic abnormalities)
I'm just a bit donw, so this is more depressing from me than usual
hana