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Our Children budded on earth to bloom in heaven

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frasersmummy · 15/04/2011 08:12

I think we have had this title before but it seems appropriate for spring

I have started this thread in honour of all our children but particularly Fraser who would have been 7 today. Happy birthday son we still miss you dearly. You will always be our firstborn and we always remember you in our hearts

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lavandes · 17/04/2011 14:09

Throw it down the sink and do it properly!!!!

shabbapinkfrog · 17/04/2011 14:44

Grin My proper gravy and Richards would be two completely different things - believe me xxx

lavandes · 17/04/2011 14:48

I know, mine is nothing like his Smile x

shabbapinkfrog · 17/04/2011 15:00

Smile xxxxx

hazygirl · 17/04/2011 17:29

afternoon girls ,and im the same here , a lot dont like it when i mention jaydens name,my mil changes the subject and once said lets talk about something nice now dear,i want to screaM.infact when shes dead i wont mention her name ever again.
this is the only place i can say what i want about him,my fantastic little grandson with his lovely big eyes,and his little legs, not a day goes by when i dont think of you,love youxx

lavandes · 17/04/2011 19:59

Just had a blazing row with my husband. He doesn't think I should tell anyone who may ring tomorrow how I really feel in case I alieniate them. Could be that we are both emotional today. But I am really pissed off with him at the moment. To be honest I don't f---ing care what they think, but I may be wrong. xx

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frasersmummy · 17/04/2011 20:36

lavandes hang on in there with hubby .. its hard a time for you both....

you will both handle it differently but you will get through it ..

remember to be good to each other

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AxisofEvil · 17/04/2011 21:05

Hello all

lavandes · 17/04/2011 21:44

We'll be ok. We have been married for 39 years. We do have blazing rows as we all do, but they never carry on to the next day. He has gone to bed now, I doubt if this row will be mentioned tomorrow. It is a very difficult time for both us, and as we all know we all grieve differently. I do understand this but sometimes it all comes out and ends up in a godalmighty row. I think this is normal. But as I said before we very rarely carry it on to the next day, and I don't think we will this time. I will let him sleep and I will also let him bring me toast with marmite in the morning. Watch this space.

I am so grateful for this place where I can rant on and no-one judges me. xx

shabbapinkfrog · 18/04/2011 06:56

Morning girls xx

janedoe25 · 18/04/2011 07:24

Morning!
Lavandes im thinking about you and DH today sending some hugs ((())).

Well today is my first day at work since loosing Zoe and i am absolutley petrified. I am a childminder and im not looking forward to awkward questions from the kids. What is worrying me the most though is the usual playground gossips, i worry that i will stand out like a leper with noone speaking to me and also questions from the gossips and busy bodies!
What if i cry in front of the kids? God im so scared, but have to do it...........

I hope everyone has a gentle day xxx

shabbapinkfrog · 18/04/2011 07:59

Thinking about you and your darling son today Lavendes.

Good luck Jane - head high, smile pinned on and go for it xxxx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 18/04/2011 08:37

Thinking of you and your darling Richard today Lavandes. Be kind to yourself.

You WILL get through today, it will be tough, but you will do it xxx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 18/04/2011 08:39

I hope today goes ok for you Jane. You'll probably find the questions from the children ok as they are so black and white about things. Unlike adults who just stare at the ground as you walk past Hmm. Keep your head high and if you cry, you cry. There is nothing shameful about that xxx

AxisofEvil · 18/04/2011 08:52

Good luck Jane. My work is very different but I found the reality harder than what I'd envisaged.

Thinking of you Lavendes.

kazmus · 18/04/2011 09:38

lavandes, thinking of you, be kind to yourself, sod everyone else.

shabbapinkfrog · 18/04/2011 10:19

Everlong - what thread was it on? Can you remember?

peterpansmum · 18/04/2011 10:36

Morning ladies x

Lavandes - I hope today passes as quickly as possible for you. Am thinking of you and your darling son Richard. Do whatever feels right for you xxx

peterpansmum · 18/04/2011 10:57

Good luck for today Jane - I found children's questions much easier than some of the crap adults around me.... we are all here holding your hand today xx

ILike - 38 weeks Shock How the heck did that happen Shock - Am thinking of you also, and look forward to some lovely news... my fingers are truly crossed for you xxxxx

I have had a lovely weekend, some nice family time ... how's everyone else this morning? xx

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frasersmummy · 18/04/2011 11:01

I am at work but thinkingof you and your family lavandes

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CazandBelle · 18/04/2011 11:07

love to lavandes today xx

travellingwilbury · 18/04/2011 12:22

Thinking of you and Richard Lavandes , a candle is lit here in sunny Sussex xx

Jane good luck today , let us know how you get on x

janedoe25 · 18/04/2011 12:23

Sorry for being so self obsessed today.
Things did not go to a good start. its a long story so i will cut it down, one of my friends has 2 kids,a 4yr old and a 6 month old, she told me las week she is pg again but is terminating the pregnancy. Now i really did not need to know this! She text me this morning asking if i could look after her 2 children whilst she has the termination today. Now i am not judging her as it is her decision and her life but so fucking insensitive of her, i did not need to know and most certainly not care for her children when she is doing this!
And to top it all off i found out yesterday that a friend had lost her baby girl at 23 weeks. So its not a good day for work!

CheeseandGherkins · 18/04/2011 12:54

lavandes thinking of you

jane hope today goes as well as it can. Sorry your friend is being so insensitive, it's amazing how many people are like that.

Feeling a bit rough today, drank to much last night trying to blot things out, works for a little while but just makes things worse really I think. Will never learn...