Any suitable bereavement groups for me?

[missdisorganised1]

I am 18 but feel older. My Mum and Dad died 11 months ago so I went to live with my Nan and Granddad until I was 18. I am back in the family home now, still at school and managing (a bit hand-to-mouth) on the living allowance given out by the trustees of Mum and Dads estate.

Are there any suitable bereavement groups for my age?. There seems to be stuff for the under 18's and I once visited an adult group with Nam where I was the youngest by 20 years.

I would like to talk to people more my own age but I see school friends eyes start to glaze over if I answer "How are you?" truthfully.

Any news on your results, Miss Dis? I hope you have been able to relax a bit this summer and have some good moments in amongst everything else.

Hi missd - just stumbled on your thread and, having read it, wanted to say how incredibly, INCREDIBLY well you have done this last year though I know it must have been horrendous for you.

What has happened to you is unbearably shit and there is no way around that. No amount of platitudes from a complete stranger can take that away - as you well know. But, by the same token, just because something shit and horrible happens to you in early life it doesn't mean that you can't make something fabulous out of the life that is now in front of you. And that is what I wish for you now - a fabulous, happy, loving life - one that does honour to you and your parents (who clearly did an amazing job in raising an amazingly stoical, emotionally honest, intelligent and thoughtful daughter).
I don't know how you found Mumsnet but I'm so glad you did - you are a complete inspiration. Whatever the next few days bring in terms of exam results you are going to be fine - even if it takes a few twists and turns your life is going to turn out good. Don't ask me how I know - I just do - because of the kind of person you have shown yourself to be on this thread.

i'm not religious in the slightest but I KNOW your Mum and Dad are incredibly proud of you. I live in constant fear of what would happen if I died and left my dcs - if they achieved even half of what you have so far I would be exploding with pride. But more importantly - you have to be proud of yourself. I know Uni and exams are foremost in your mind at the moment and I hope you get the place you want, but even if the results go pear-shaped you will still be fine - you are an astonishingly strong person - just keep pushing on and you'll get everything you need.

Thank you for all the nice things you wrote about me. My Nan says things like you say, about how Mum and Dad would have wanted me not to have let one dreadful accident spoilt my whole life. How it "wasn't my time to go" and how Mum and Dad and Gran and Granddad would be waiting for me when my time does come.
I don't have a plan B is my exam results are no good. Perhaps if they are close but not quite enough the university will take pity on me in all the circumstances. The school seems to think so. Fingers and toes crossed for Thursday.

I have just read your thread, and would like to echo everything that zippy said. Your experience of losing your parents at such a young age, and living independently must make you feel much older than your peers.
The fact that you are able to focus on your studies and achieve whilst grieving such a devastating loss shows the strength of character you have. I appreciate how hard it must be, and your parents would indeed be very proud.
All the best for Thursday, and I hope you get the results you deserve.

I'll be thinking of you on Thursday. Even if you don't get the results you want there may be other pathways to where you want to be.
We all mean those nice things we say (If I can speak for others). Your intelligence and maturity jump off the page. I bet your parents were really lovely people too,

Thinking of you for tomorrow MissD - what time will you get your results?

Hello MissD, I have followed your thread but not posted on it before.

I'd like to wish you all the best for your results tomorrow. Probably a rather nerve wracking night for you, but whatever the outcome, you did your best & you should feel proud of your achievements, after everything you have faced these last 18 months or so.

You deserve every success.

Thinking about you today and sending all good wishes and strong vibes.
I think of you often and have a special place in my heart for you. ( I have 3 children older than you and I think you are wonderful in the way you have and are coping.

Please Miss ( if you can bear it) post your results on her so that those who feel so proud of you can know.

I did it ? I got the grades I needed and I?m off to uni as planned!! I needed 280 points, which is a BBC, and I managed to get ABB.

The Head of the Sixth form was lurking and clearly looking out for me when I arrived at school and I could tell by her broad smile that I didn?t have anything to worry about. She was very kind and made a special fuss of me knowing that I didn?t have parents outside in the carpark or on the other end of the phone. I thought I would feel tearful whatever way the results worked out but I didn?t. It was more like a massive weight lifted off my shoulders.

I think all of my friends got the grades they needed and six of us are going out tonight.

Can I say to the people here that have supported me, thank you, you did make a difference. I think it hasn't really sunk in yet but I hope that somehow Mum and Dad know the good news

exceedingly pleased for you

That is fantastic! Huge congratulations from a serial lurker. Have a lovely time tonight, and all the best with your studies...

Congratualtions, and all the best for the next chapter in your life as you go to university. Enjoy your celebrations tonight. :)

Not posted before but lurked and I just wanted to say how proud I am of you and so happy that you got the excellent results you deserved. You will go far.

Oh well done Darlin' . I am sat here with a smiley teary face. How fantastic ABB.! I am so proud of you.

Let us know how it all goes on for you. You have so many people rooting for you. ( Virtual friends and words on a screen and all that but true people who care for you. )

Fantastic, I am so proud of you and I know your Mum and Dad would be too. Have a great time tonight and remember all your virtual mums are still here to help support you at uni - bloody well done!

Dearest Miss Dis - huge smile here and tears in the eyes. So proud of you and hope you feel really proud of yourself! I hope my DCs grow up with the strength and grace that you have. Amazing marks but your achievements are so much more than your marks.
Get on out there and have a big party tonight! You have done your Mum and Dad proud. Yay!!

woohoo missD!! You clever, clever girl!
What great news - I feel so proud of you and I have a little tear in my eye, too. Have a great time tonight.

Your mum and dad are smiling down on you.

Love motnxxxx

I just knew you'd do yourself proud! I am so pleased for you & also a bit teary too.
Your parents would be thrilled that you exceeded expectations too. I am sure your grandparents are really chuffed for you too.

Enjoy your celebrations tonight- you really do deserve to raise a toast to your achievements.

x

so verty pleased for you xx

Oh what a wonderful result. I'm so very, very pleased for you. :)

Have a great evening.

People here have been very kind to me, especially today. I haven't managed to speak to my Nan or Granddad yet, they are on a coach tour until Sunday and instead of taking the mobile phone and leaving the list of contact details they did it the other way round.

The estate agent sounded pleased when I confirmed that I would be wanting to rent the house out but that's it so far apart from Mumsnet people. The aunt and uncle who help look after my finances get back from work about 6 or 6:30 so they are next on the list.

Well done you. I too have a tear in my eye. If it means anything I am immensely proud of you.

You are a credit to your parents.

Good luck with all your plans for the future.

Have just found this thread and read with tears in my eyes. What a brave and strong young lady you are. Your parents would be so very proud of you.

I think it is a good idea of yours to rent your house and go into halls of residence, you will make many friends there, some of which will hopefully become friends for life.

I can understand your difficulty with clearing out your parents possessions. Although I am much older than you I struggled with doing this. My dad died 6 years ago and mum 2 years ago but I am still sorting through a lot of their things and it is very hard. I took a lot of mum's clothes to a charity shop and think she would have liked that.

I also struggled with the wording of the gravestone for a very long time and it was finally finished and fitted 2 weeks ago. I decided to go for a simpe design with their names and dates of birth and wording about them being reunited in heaven. I really like your suggestion of them being together in life and death.

One again, well done, you have done brilliantly and should be very proud of yourself. I hope you are having a lovely time out tonight with your friends. DS1 also got his results today and is out celebrating somewhere.

Take care. MOS x

I've been a serial lurked on this thread miss but wanted to mirror a post that zippy did a little while ago.

Very well done on your grades. Amazing achievement.
I hope you have or are having a fantastic night out and can look forward to an exciting new chapter starting in September/October.

Well Done.

Gosh MisDis you will have two incredibly proud parents watching over you now. You are an absolute credit to them.

Wishing you the best of luck at Uni x