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Beyond the distant star, I wish upon tonight to see you smile, If only for a while, to know you're there.

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shabbapinkfrog · 04/10/2010 10:08

Our thread to honour and remember our precious children who sadly are not 'physically' here xxxxx

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frasersmummy · 18/11/2010 20:34

in fact... have a Bear hug

CazandBelle · 18/11/2010 21:24

Hi all. DH was readmitted to hospital this morning and put on a drip for 8 hours. He's been given loads of fluid and some drug to help him and he is so much better. Now talking instead of grunting and a lot more up and about again.

At dinner time we were told he would be in overnight, which selfishly had me in a panic because I dreaded the thought of being on my own overnight. Anyway, Mum said she would come and stay with me if he was kept in. I sound like a baby, but I've not been on my own overnight since Belle died and tonight wouldn't have been the right time to have the first one. Its too big a step.

Anyway, at 5pm Dr then said as long as his obs were stable and he was feeling ok when his drip finished (at 7pm) he could come home.

So home he is.

Thank you for the hug FM since when have we had a bear smiley?!

shabbapinkfrog · 18/11/2010 22:30

Glad he is home Caz. Hope he goes from strength to strength xxxx

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CazandBelle · 18/11/2010 23:30

Shelley - If you're lurking, DH's tattoo is now up to see! :)

shabbapinkfrog · 19/11/2010 06:43

Morning girls xx

Caz - that tattoo is so very beautiful.

Your precious girl weighed more than my twin boy, Gareth. The twins were born at 38 weeks and Danny weighed 5lbs 13ozs and Gareth just 4lbs 1oz. Doctors said it was because of his heart problems.

Two weeks later, when we got him home from the hospital, he weighed 3lbs 15oz and only managed 10lbs 10 ozs when he died aged 7 months.

he was a real fighter xxxx

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lavandes · 19/11/2010 07:02

Morning ladies xx

caz I'm so glad your husband is home with you. I hope he makes a swift recovery and that you both have a peaceful weekend.

A friend from work is coming later to take me out for a drive and to lunch. Some people are so kind, and not the people I would have expected to be.

shabs hope you are 'ok' xx

Minione · 19/11/2010 08:24

Hi Everyone

I've had some bleeding this morning, going to hte doctor's in half an hour. I am praying thaat everything will be ok. I don't think I could take anything else, I really don't.

shabbapinkfrog · 19/11/2010 08:31

Sending love and thoughts to you Mini - If it is of any use to you I had a small period for the first four months when I was expecting Matty. The first month I had no period I went to the doctor for a pregnancy test. I was shocked out of my mind to discover I was just over 4 months pregnant. It wasn't ever a heavy period but quite heavy spotting.

Let us know how you get on. xxxxxxxx

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Minione · 19/11/2010 08:41

Thanks Shab, it brown blood as opposed to red so I guess that is old blood so slightly reassuring. Its not heavy either, just when I wipe (TMI) but I can't help but be terrified.

shabbapinkfrog · 19/11/2010 08:52

Can totally understand how you must be worried. Best to go and get checked out. When I was pregnant with Matty I also had x rays done at the dentist and fell down my Mums stairs from top to bottom!!!!!! No wonder Matty was a nutcase Grin

Thinking about you xxxx

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Heliantha · 19/11/2010 09:25

Love to Mini and Caz - hope today is kinder for you both.

How many weeks are you Mini? Could it be an implantation bleed (6-8 weeks)? Hope the GP is reassuring x

lavandes · 19/11/2010 10:11

Hope all goes well today mini xx

CazandBelle · 19/11/2010 13:15

Mini lots of love to you. I had spotting early on how you described at 13, 14 and 15 weeks with Belle. They couldn't figure out where it was coming from but everything was ok. Thinking of you xx

Minione · 19/11/2010 17:31

The doctor pretty much said what everyone here said. However it has got heavier and more blood like, i'm not in pain but am fearing the worst. I had bleeding with Malachy at 13 weeks and it was much heavier than this so I should try to be more optimistic. I'm 10 weeks today, according to my dates.

frasersmummy · 19/11/2010 19:00

mini.. been there and have a noisy loving 5 year old now

I am praying for you

spilttheteaagain · 19/11/2010 19:22

Thinking of you Mini, what a frightening experience. Everything crossed that your little one is ok in there.

I did my first morning back at work today and it was ok actually. I did cry when my boss asked how I was doing and he tried to send me home then. He was very sweet actually and was nearly in tears too - I think he wanted to give me a hug but wasn't sure if he should so he sat on my desk and patted my hand Smile. Absolutely shattered now though and came home with a monster headache. Worst bit over now hopefully?

lavandes · 19/11/2010 23:45

*mini' I know nothing about this but send my love to you and your husband and hope it all turns out OK xx

Spilt Well done for your first day at work. I remember my 1st day back, like every 1st I have had it was never as bad as the anticipation as the ladies on here told me, hope it is the same for you in the future xx

fm Can I borrow your noisy 5 year old for a day. I am a Granny - my grandkids aren't nearby - and I love spending time with little boys,they are so funny I love talking to them. No girls in my family, I wouldn't know what to talk to them about. I DO sound so crazy at the moment!!!!

Men in white coats may be on the way, I will run xx

shabbapinkfrog · 20/11/2010 08:49

Morning girls xx

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travellingwilbury · 20/11/2010 11:54

Morning all , I am freaking out slightly as my brother is in hospital . Won't go into details here as don't want to upset but have done a thread in health to see if anyone has any answers for me .

I hate the fact I have lost my "it will all be ok " gene .

frasersmummy · 20/11/2010 14:39

ahem.. the thread is getting close to the end .. again!!!

I am not doing it cos the first time I did it shabs got banned and the second time I did it we were joined by someone who went on to get themselves permanently banned. I am a jinx Grin

So.....

we need a volunteer

CazandBelle · 20/11/2010 15:43

Would it be ok if I volunteered to do the new thread? I am not at home until tomorrow (both sides of family meal in Plymouth in prep for brothers wedding) will make one when I get home if that is ok?

Thinking of you tw going to read your thread now x x x

lavandes · 20/11/2010 16:03

go for it caz xx

I have read your thread tw such a worry for you and your family, sending love to you all xx

travellingwilbury · 20/11/2010 16:27

Great idea Caz xx

Thanks for all the good wishes everyone xx
Still pacing around and waiting for some news .

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 20/11/2010 16:36

Hi all, I'm still about, just a bit quiet at the moment.

Since C's remember day I've retreated from the thread, I'm not sure why. Maybe I feel I need to concentrate on this pregnancy and the baby. Pah, I don't know what I'm thinking/feeling half of the time.

I'm still very tired and feeling sick. I'm 17 weeks so I really hoped this would all have passed by now - it certainly doesn't help my mood.

Anyway, even if I'm not around much you are all still in my thoughts xxxx

I hope you db is on the mend TW. I don't have anything to add to your thread as I don't have any experience of the condition. Maybe bump it for the evening crowd? In the meantime I'll be sending him some healing vibes.

shabbapinkfrog · 20/11/2010 17:07

TW - thinking about you and your family...at the risk of sounding like my lovely Nan 'health problems like your brothers are very routine nowadays - not like in the 'old days' ....on reading that back it sounds silly but the medical world has come on in leaps and bounds. That wont stop you all worrying and being anxious I know...I think I need to shut up - everything I type sounds pathetic!!

Caz - well done for volunteering for the new thread xxx

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