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Beyond the distant star, I wish upon tonight to see you smile, If only for a while, to know you're there.

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shabbapinkfrog · 04/10/2010 10:08

Our thread to honour and remember our precious children who sadly are not 'physically' here xxxxx

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shabbapinkfrog · 04/10/2010 19:22

Dee - I have just emailed you, I really hope I have the right email address Grin

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 04/10/2010 19:24

Ah {{{DEE}}}, I bet it's so hard to have conversations like that. I don't have any advice, so have a hug instead.

Oh, and I'm soooooo glad you decided not to go. Smile

I think I'm going to stay away from that thread. However I will partake in the curries and chips that are flying around. I'll say no to the JD, not because I'm pg, but because I don't like the stuff.

I would love to say I'm well 'ard, but infact I no longer have ANY tolerance when it comes to alcohol - it's shameful Blush

Minione · 04/10/2010 19:26

Dee - that's so sad Sad

I was speaking to a twin today, she's spent the last 7 years in the states but one of the reasons she wants to come back is that 'pull' to her twin, she said she never quite felt right being so far away from her brother.

shabbapinkfrog · 04/10/2010 19:34

I am just discovering the new message thingeymebob on here. I sat here and said to Tom 'Its brilliant this message thingeymebob on MN - you could proper bitch behind folks backs Shock.' He has just snorted beef and tomato pot noodle down his nose and onto his laptop....PMSL....I think I am overtired and the slightest thing is making me roar laughing.

Its either tiredness or the paint fumes in our living room!

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shabbapinkfrog · 04/10/2010 19:36

...but for anybody who feeds their children healthy food - it was a combination of noodles, lean beef, fresh tomatoes, herbs and spices - a little concoction that I just made for him - FRESHLY Wink

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loopyloops · 04/10/2010 20:22

Sorry, I can't cope with the twin thing, I'm going to go for a bit I think and just keep to light-hearted posts, it's all worn me out.

Sorry Dee, not meant towards you or anyone in particular, I just need to keep away from bereavement and all that other stuff too for a while.

Take care everyone, and thanks for being kind. :)

shabbapinkfrog · 04/10/2010 20:23

I understand what you mean Loopy - but dont be long or I WILL come looking for you Smile xx

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deemented · 04/10/2010 20:26

Oh i'm sorry my love... i hadn't meant to upset you at all, not my intention in the slightest. Should have kept my big gob shut...

I'm sorry.

ajandjjmum · 04/10/2010 20:28

Hope you can all give support to each other in peace - not knowing the rights and wrongs of what's gone on - just knowing that you're all very brave ladies, and I wish you well. x

shabbadabbadingdong · 04/10/2010 20:30

Just wanted to see if my new MN nickname is working.

Thank you - Im not brave Im just good at putting on my Elanor Rigby face every morning!

travellingwilbury · 04/10/2010 20:35

Very nice Shabs Grin

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 04/10/2010 20:59

I understand where you are coming from Loopyloops, we'll be here when you're ready to come back.

Don't be sorry Dee, we all say what we need to say, when we need to say it. That's one of the main purposes of this thread imo.

I think I kinda understand where Loopy is coming from. Before the whole SS thing flared up I was thinking about taking a break. I was reading people's posts and getting very upset by how they felt and what they said (which I know has been due to the pg hormones), and I felt like I needed to distance myself from the whole bereavement thingy, so I could get in the right headspace during this pregnancy.

However since this weekends' debacle I've realised how special this thread is and what it means to me.

hazygirl · 04/10/2010 21:21

hi girls, all together again eh, ive missed you all and hope we can support each other again.
lottie im out of naughty corner now, i got told off by dh for facebooking while eating tea, what sort of example am i setting.
can i give some news to those that dont know my ds has proposed to his partner in cuba, she rang us in tears on thursday in early hours,i hope they were happy tears.xxx
hugs to you all and thanks for all your help and support

shabbadabbadingdong · 04/10/2010 21:23

Glad you found us Hazy.

How romantic!!! WOW it sounds brilliant...do you get along well with her? Sounds like you do. xxx

hazygirl · 04/10/2010 21:33

shabs, i love them all,sure we have up and downs but my family mean everything to me, i may shout and rant sometimes but love emx

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 04/10/2010 21:38

Nice to see you here Hazy, and great news about your ds and his gf Smile

I hope you have an ok night TW and that D feels better in the morning. yes croup does get worse at night - sorry!!

Minione · 04/10/2010 21:41

That's great news Hazy x

zeno · 04/10/2010 22:20

Evening all.

Just checking to see all's well, and it is, so that's fine. Cold though, innit?

shabbadabbadingdong · 04/10/2010 22:32

Evening Zeno - bloody freezing here!!

lottiejenkins · 04/10/2010 23:04

Glad you are back where you should be Hazy! I just got all silly and emotional in the pub. One of my closest male friends has gone off travelling for 3 months! Cried my eyes out when he went!! Sad

shabbadabbadingdong · 05/10/2010 06:54

Morning girls xx

travellingwilbury · 05/10/2010 06:56

Morning all xx

hazygirl · 05/10/2010 06:59

morning allx

lottiejenkins · 05/10/2010 07:16

Morning xx

CazEM · 05/10/2010 08:00

Morning all. So glad to see you all here.

Shab - beautiful new thread, (and your name!!) I love the title.

Belle has a star named after her. Anabelle Violet, my brightest star in the sky - Mummy misses you xxx

Dee yes it is out of the mouths of babes. Love to you. xx

I can't remember if I said but we had my SIL and niece down for tea about a month ago. My niece is 3. After about an hour she said to me, Auntie Caz where is your baby Anabelle? Her Mum was surprised because she had never asked us when we are at her house, and my niece hadn't mentioned Belle since she'd explained to her she had gone to sleep weeks and weeks previous to this. I was so touched that my 3 year old niece had remembered the name of a baby she'd never met in the end - even though she was being prepared for her new cousin. I would say it was Belle's photo - but there is a photo of us holding Belle at her house too... I simply said "Anabelle went to sleep forever and is in heaven remember" and she replyed "with all the angels.

Angels take on a new meaning for me now.

Hazy what lovely news! :)

Still feeling quite Confused if I'm honest and a bit quiet, but I'm so glad our thread is still here and we're still together. I worried for a while over the weekend.