Where are my fucking hell shoes, and other delightful phrases from my 3 year old, HEEELP!!

[gaelicsheep]

What have I done? I have been known to swear out loud, in front of him, on occasion but FGS my 3 year old has a mouth like a sewer all of a sudden. I've done all the advising, telling people to ignore, don't rise to it etc. etc. But what if he blurts this out in Tesco, or god forbid at nursery?!

I have to get to bed so I'll leave you lovely ladies to ponder this one and will bump tomorrow if necessary. But someone please reply and tell me he'll forget these words if I ignore him. Please!

I have never ever tried to absolve myself of responsibility on this thread. Cue the liberal use of the emotion. I try to watch my mouth too, but I've been saying this til I'm blue in the face on this thread and nobody believes me! Then everyone gets indignant when I say I find it hard to believe that people have never once let a word slip in earshot of their children. If you people are really telling the truth then all credit to you. I wish I had your self control, I really do.

I honestly think this thread has lacked the empathy you hoped for due to the fact that goblinhild made a valid post and she was vilified for it. Then came the 'it's hard not to laugh/isn't it so cute' posts which many (myself included) find a bit

I'm sorry you have had a tough few weeks, I hope things improve and get easier for you.

Universally hated for stating the bleedin' obvious?
Do I get a big fucking medal then? Or just a sodding great pair of judgypants?

Ah, so now you're assuming I'm judging you. Not so nice when the boot's on the other foot is it?

GibbonInARibbon - I really don't care that much, I'm a big girl and I've been on this site long enough to be able to take a bigger beating than this. I too find Mumsnetting to be an interesting exercise in the study of human nature.

I'm truly not bothered at all, the whole thread is entertaining and completely ridiculous.
How will you survive the next two decades of parenting and stay sane if everything is such a huge issue and your reaction to someone stating the obvious is so over-the top?

Gaelicsheep I would never try to predict the people your children will grow up to be because of your swearing. That is what you did with your last comment.

"Gosh Goblinchild - I'd never ever have thought of that. " I was a bit sarky, that's all (it must be the new name, I was never the sarky type on here before). It was hardly a vicious attack was it now?

I'm sure I'll survive just fine thanks - with the help of Mumsnet of course.

If you don't namechange again, I will remember to be especially careful and sensitive when reading your posts.
And all the correct things to say.

gaelicsheep- I've seen swearing threads exactly like this one before. They start off funny- everyone joins in with a kid swearing story- and then it all gets nasty
(see above ), the OP gets mercilessly judged and everyone's feelings get hurt

I find this is something to share with RL friends, not people on here, tbh. Too many judgybollockses. Ditto popping over the neighbours and leaving a sleeping baby(you'll get oooh, I daresay that's what the McCanns thought) being late for school/letting your kids bunk off one day in a million, etc etc. It can be like a giant ghastly metropolitan PTA meeting on here at times, iykwim.

good luck. And don't end up being hounded into namechanging, either

'So, at the risk of sounding like Goblinchild and being universally hated, you reap what you sow. ' Greenmonkies

'Universally hated for stating the bleedin' obvious?
Do I get a big fucking medal then? Or just a sodding great pair of judgypants?' Goblinchild

'I was a bit sarky, that's all (it must be the new name, I was never the sarky type on here before). It was hardly a vicious attack was it now?' gaelicsheep

No it wasn't a vicious attack at all, and I was referring to Greenmonkies' post when I was asking for my medal.
I still think I gave you a civil and obvious answer to a simple question, but it turned out that it wasn't what you wanted to hear. And that's when it came unravelled.

Wasn't asking you to care GS

Was just wishing the next few weeks get better for you.

Actually, I went back and read your post, Goblinchild and it didn't really come across about giving advice and your comment about dodging traffic seemed unnecessarily patronising.

Perhaps this is not how you intended to come across, but if I was the OP, I would have got the arse, because a wry smile at your child's behaviour does not equate to an acceptance of it or unwillingness to take responsibility for it.

Gaelic - DS1 copies absolutely everything and has a memory like an elephant. I have let the odd swear word out, but so far, he seems (strangely) not to have copied this.

I would personally assume a toddler was mimicing an overheard swear word, rather than being taught to use it.

TBH, I think more about the other inappropriate things he could be saying at nursery - when his little logical brain strings together words he has heard in a very different context, rather than swearing.

Eg he was asking me what i was doing when I was BFing DS2 - my explanation included the word 'boob'. A little while later, he came back into the bedroom and announced 'I love DS2, I love mummy and I love your boob' - am hoping he doesn't repeat this at nursery!

So, as has been said many times before, it's about context.

FWIW, I would ignore and not draw undue attention to it.

I'd say this thread has been well balanced. Both sides have been rude and reasonable.
Surely you realise you did recieve comaraderie before us judgey pants came along?
Why are you called jugdemental when you disagree with people?

Because mrsr when you disagree with someone you are qualifiying their descisions / beliefs and opposing them showing that their reasoning is faulty and yours right - in other words you judge from your own morals beliefs etc what is right and if you disagree then its judgy. Not you personally iyswim, all of us.

It's why I don't think theres much of a pack mentality on here - we all have very differing morals, values and beliefs, to quote Brian, we're all individuals.

Personally I hate confontation - I will stick up for myself but I try not to go out of my way to change peoples opinions - someone once said " opinions changed against their will, will remain of their opinions still. I think thats right so generally I don't bother.

There have been some very sane people on this thread and its been nice to meet you - I'm off to find some more light hearted threads and finish unpacking my house because i've just moved.

I only came on for a bit of lighthearted distraction and am kind of wishing I hadn't bothered.

"we're all individuals."

I'm not.

Sorry for being blardy ungracious when I replied to you Gibbon. I did appreciate your thoughts, and other people too who I might not have acknowledged at the time, and I also hope that things get better. Perhaps when the hormones calm down. The snow's gone anyway, that's a start.

I am not in the least bit bothered by this thread btw, in case anyone thinks otherwise. I think we're tackling the problem just fine and it's starting to work. It's a shame the thread didn't continue in the spirit in which it was started, but hey, I've just learned of another taboo topic to avoid like the plague, lighthearted or not!

I shan't be namechanging Goblinchild. The only reason I did before was because I'd revealed too much personal and sensitive stuff in the past and wanted a clean slate. This is water off a duck's back.

You know the problem with almost every controversial thread on this site is that every opinion that is expressed in favour of the OP's POV gets assigned to the OP by default, whether that's actually the case or not. Similarly the first person to express an opposing view gets jumped on in force and held up as an example throughout the thread.

Result - I get vilified throughout, so does Goblinchild. Not fair in either case if you ask me.

Anyhow that's me done. Here's another for good measure.

I agree with your last post, Gaelicsheep.

To be fair, it wasn't the op that got my goat, but some of the 'how cute and funny' posts that came after.
But as you say, twas your op, so you took the flack.

Hope you feel a bit calmer soon, and all the best

Made the mistake of laughing when my son said oh bollocks and then he repeated it to all and sundry hoping for the same response. Can't really understand why people get so upset about swearing (as long as not directed at a specific person). However, managed to con him into thinking that oh blimey was the worst swear word of all and he must not say it so he says that all the time instead now

Lol emmarussell. We got bliming hell today. An improvement I hope?

I do feel a lot calmer these days MoreCrackThanHarlem, thank you, and keeping a firmer lid on my language. I'm currently reaping what I sowed a good few weeks back. [smie]

Bother that "l" key -

'You know the problem with almost every controversial thread on this site is that every opinion that is expressed in favour of the OP's POV gets assigned to the OP by default, whether that's actually the case or not. Similarly the first person to express an opposing view gets jumped on in force and held up as an example throughout the thread.'

That is very true GS and the pregnancy hormones are a nightmare, as my DH has experienced to his delight this weekend

my DD articulately exclaimed, when dropping her cup in the back of granny's car, "Oh, Bollocks!". No mistaking it unfortunately. She did this the week of her second birthday. Now she's just reached 4, there is (fortunately) an understanding there of what's "allowed" and what's not. And we yet have to figure out where she heard the expletive in the first place, as like most of you we try to make sure that they don't hear swearing, the pity is that they hear more of it from other children, particularly at school, than anywhere else.