support thread for people with a baby and toddler finding it tough and not believing that there might be light at the end of the tunnel!!

[exasperatedmum]

I've posted numerous times before bemoaning the fact that my now nearly 3 year old dd is spirited/wilful/challenging etc etc, and drives me to distraction. Am on an emotional roller-coaster every day, and am shattered as 5 month old obviously not sleeping through, and bf every three hours. Every time I post I get a cluster of 'know how you feel' posts but no solutions as there are none, I know!! So I wondered if there is anyone else out there who feels like me, and whether we could sort of help each other through, because believe me there are days when I think I'm not going to make it!! I keep telling myself "She's only two" and "I'm in charge" but feel like I'm being run rings around. Can't decide if my expectations are too high, and I'm just turning into a witch of a Mum, or if I'm trying hard to have boundaries and be firm with a very non-compliant toddler. Baby has reflux so that isn't helping my general mood. I always thought I'd love parenthood, but honestly I find it the most difficult thing I've ever had to do, and would love to have just a teeny tiny break to revive my flagging spirits... but no chance. Anyone out there?!

yeah right!!
My 2 year old is driving me to distraction and my 1 year old has just started cruising round and crawling which is tiring..

Can I join?

My 8m old is crawling and it is driving my 2.10 old crazy (no no no shes going to get my THINGSSSS!!! etc)

He is getting really quite dangerously mean to her now.

Hi- yes after my dd2 took until the end of her 8th month to even bother sitting up she has just turned 1 and is now crawling and cruising.
dd1 who is 2 was saying today 'Get her away shes nicking my dinner!'
Cue much fighting/tantrumming/crying
And not to mention the god damn WHINGING arrrgggghhhhh!

ps - ijustwant8hours I find myself saying those words a lot. Even 6 hours would be lovely!

Glad Im not the only one whos kiddies are anything but angels... was getting worried for a moment!

DD's new method of mummy torture is to whine none stop from coming out of nursery at 12 till nap time. Today we got the bus half way and walked the rest, with poor DS trying to get back to sleep in the buggy. Oh the joy of trying to get a 2.4yr old to walk alongside! She started wimpering and fussing, cue severe increase in blood pressure and patience level severely decreased. So much for nursery, its made it worse! I just cant win.

DS is still being a nightmare re daytime sleep. He has now decided he doesnt need to go back to sleep after his 6am feed! What the hell is that all about????? Im seriously considering seeing a cranial osteopath, either that or Im packing my bags and fedexing my milk home

Oh the whinging, the whinging!!

WavestheWhiteFlag, mine are both up at 6, you have my sympathy!

I have the bizarre situation at the moment where the baby is sleeping from 8pm to 8am, and the 3yo is waking 4 or 5 times a night (because she can hear a noise/needs a wee/ wonders if it is morning yet etc etc) and then finally getting up for good at 6am. DH is REALLY fed up with the broken nights, I am really fed up with the both of them (DH AND DD) whingeing on about how tired they are. Am thinking of packing a bag, (with chilled out DS in it) and leaving the pair of them to it!!!!

Hi everyone.

Well me and dh have found today quite testing.

We drove to the coast for the day to visit my Granparents and look at some caravans and sites etc...

dd and ds moaned and whinged all the way there.
DD was quiet all the way home but ds cried constanly all the way home. 1hour and 50 min.
He paused for a few seconds whenever I tried to distract him.

Oh don't you just love the whinging..

just saw this thread
hiya
i have a nearly 14 month old dd1 very testing now a days with eat and sleep
and a 6 week dd2 bf.

sighs

where is the light

hi mama2leah.
Just grit your teeth and hope one of them becomes rich and famous and can put you in a luxury nursing home when you're old!

loooooooooool
that made me smile

Good morning. Hi mama2leah just repeat this is a phase.

Second morning at preschool for dd this morning but
She just walked straight in and said 'Bye'
Off to pick her up in a while, hope she was ok.

Glad to be of service x

morning all.
Have just finished a book called 'Can i give them back now?' by Joanna simmons it's an a to z of all things children very very funny and easy to read.
Want to recommend it to you all x

Thanks for that girlsyearapart I will have a look for it.

Did you go on holiday btw?

How was it?

Yes we went to majorca. Weather lovely kids had a ball. And we were accidentally checked in as all inclusive so saved lots of money..

Want to go again!

How are you?

Hello again, keep falling off threads, lovely to hear you had a good time on holiday DH has next week off, and we're going to try and tackle the spare room which is buried in stuff we've moved out of the way to make the rest of the house not look too bad!

Things are improving here, slowly, sometimes, or at least I keep telling myself that they are!
Am not repeating my early mantra of 'this too shall pass' very much atm DD seems to be sleeping better but we haven't changed anything so I'm hoping it will last as its kind of her decision

I like the sound of the book Can I give them back now

Will go and read some more of what you've all been up to, will try and keep up better

Hello Sprogger, its been really quiet here but we won't let you kill the thread!
Thank you for reminding me that it gets easier when they are a bit older, if they'd sleep - or even just stay awake quietly so I can sleep, it would be so much easier
When is your third due?