I just want to kill him today

[Fifyfomum]

I am so annoyed with my son, he is 3.8 and has shown absolutely no sign of 'wanting to potty train' which EVERYBODY told me would 'happen naturally' when he turned three.

He is now sat on the potty, he has been there for around an hour and it looks like he will be there for an hour more. Every time he stands up he cries because he is busting for the loo and I sit him back down again but he refuses REFUSES to wee on the potty.

I need to potty train him before school it is getting RIDICULOUS and when I talk to him now he is putting on this 'baby' voice and sticking his tongue out around his teeth so he can't talk properly and I am SO ANGRY with him.

Why WHY won't he just use the potty? All his friends at nursery use the potty, he knows what to do because we have been going through this ridiculous process day after day trying to get him to bloody urinate out of a nappy.

ARRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH

I've started a Late Potty Training thread MrsF and am hoping it can stay chilled and supportive.

If you can manage not to shout at people who dare to say anything you don't agree with, maybe it will.

Saying 'the anger doesn't show' is one of those statements like 'no-one could tell I was drunk', or 'people won't notice I've just come in from having a crafty fag outside. They will and they do. And it does show. Just because people don't mention it doesn't mean they're unaware of it.

Well some people can be drunk and not have people notice, lots of people are alcoholics and don't tell anyone. One might say that the angrier you are likely to be, the better you are at hiding it!

Anyway the kids are off to nursery today which is great, I have a few hours to re-group, prepare myself for this evening and stop the dog from running away.

This is good news, All I've wanted to do for the last few days is cry into a pillow so I'm going to have a hot bath and then do just that, before getting on with the errands and making everyone's favourite dinner. Its been a tough time for us all but our children are not unloved, not in the slightest.

Son 2 has just thrown up at nursery so they are sending someone back here with him. So much for a day of sorting out and resting, sounds like my little man needs some cuddles :(

Oh gosh its all happening at once.

One might say that the angrier you are likely to be, the better you are at hiding it

You know, I've commented on that to DH before now Fifyfomum. He recently had a total meltdown with his mum (the first one ever, if he is to be believed, at age 40) and was really struggling with how to handle it as he is usually so calm - he really has no go-to coping strategies for when he gets angry.

I, on the other hand, have loads as I go from zero to fuming quite quickly therefore, if I get angry I'm not scared by it because I have experienced it before. DH hadn't and it scared the bejasus out of him.

On the subject of potty training: we're trying to persuade DS1 to poo on the potty rather than demanding a nappy (he's fully in control but just prefers his nappy). DH took a stern line this weekend and promised DS1 that toilet poops are AWESOME becuase they go PLOP and it's really funny and exciting. DS1 was a little reluctant but eventually gave it a go (mostly because he didn't get given a nappy) and was, as promised, delighted by the plopping. He also got some cake as a reward for toilet pooping. It's come to something when you are in the kitchen listening to your DH shouting 'And another one! PLOP! PLOPPITY PLOP PLOP! Hurrah!' and DS1 laughing like a loon.

Might be a useful tactic

Thank you plop I mean plump I suppose once we get him to do it once that will really help, I wonder if I can make a satisfying plop from the potty, to get him started?

Well DS1 has hung about in the bathroom watching/listening to DH make quite satisfactory plops of his own from an early age no boundaries here

I'm not quite as public with my toilet visits if it's a number 2

Opposite in this house, I am used to an audience of two (three now because of the dog) but husband is not up for having people around!

Hi op know this thread was a while ago, how are things now?