I just want to kill him today

[Fifyfomum]

I am so annoyed with my son, he is 3.8 and has shown absolutely no sign of 'wanting to potty train' which EVERYBODY told me would 'happen naturally' when he turned three.

He is now sat on the potty, he has been there for around an hour and it looks like he will be there for an hour more. Every time he stands up he cries because he is busting for the loo and I sit him back down again but he refuses REFUSES to wee on the potty.

I need to potty train him before school it is getting RIDICULOUS and when I talk to him now he is putting on this 'baby' voice and sticking his tongue out around his teeth so he can't talk properly and I am SO ANGRY with him.

Why WHY won't he just use the potty? All his friends at nursery use the potty, he knows what to do because we have been going through this ridiculous process day after day trying to get him to bloody urinate out of a nappy.

ARRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHH

Thanks plump I fail to see how language can be this giant issue that people make it out to be.

I fail to see how saying 'piss and shot' instead of 'poo and wee' makes me an evil person.

I don't think my comment was harsh at all... I stand by every single word of it. I genuinely wish I could hide this poster because her attitude and her language for describing her child disgust me.
And don't bang on about compassion, I've potty trained children too, I know how hard it can be, she is showing no compassion for her son and I fail to see why we need to show her compassion.

I find it amusing that Malcolm Tucker is something of a folk hero on Mumsnet, that's Mumsnet with a plethora of usernames referencing fucks and cunts and various other colourful words, yet faced with regular usage of piss and shit and the like by the OP people are requiring smelling salts because it's just all too horrid and they don't like it.

I am positive that the OP is not ranting at her son "Get your fucking shitty little arse on that cunting potty and PISS, you fucking pig headed little SHIT!!!!!" I am positive of that.

I agree with PlumpPartridge - my children (esp. my youngest) can behave in such a way that I'm practically levitating with suppressed frustration and irritation. I can deal with that somewhat by locking myself in the loo and having a expletive strewn internal rant to let off steam. It is not SS worthy to sometimes think your children are absolute sods.

It's not SS worthy because they ARE little sods margot

Sometimes anyway

Not all children are little sods- I can assure you. Not even sometimes.

Yours obviously aren't very old. I assure you they are!

How old would they have to be to make that determination? I can assure you not all children are little sods. i have never thought that once.

Nothing stopping you hiding this thread though, is there, Hector.

Hector I find her posts disturbing too. I could never think of a child in those terms.

Sometimes my youngest child behaves in such a way to make me think she is a little sod. My other two did at similar ages. Not so much now as they get older and are becoming more mature.

Atthestrokeoftwelve - it's about perception surely. What drives others to think "little sod!" may not bother you.

not sure Fifyfo is real
maybe lives under a bridge

Oh fgs.

She makes wide sweeping generalisations about children being little "sods". Perhaps her children are, and if so obviously a reflection of the way they are parented.

Let's hope the poor boy doesn't wet the bed.

I repeat (for the hard of understanding)

I have no problem with swearing. I do have a problem with the venom, seething resentment and poorly suppressed aggression that fuels the OPs posts.

You do not need to be in her presence to know that she lacks insight into the real life consequences of her attitude- the fast switches from high to low, the good boy/bad boy good cop/bad cop switchback is all we need to know. That speaks a thousand words to this old Gimmer.....

I have often referred to DS1 as 'that little sod' when speaking to DH. It is usually just after DH has watched DS1 kick me in the face and laugh, so he has some sympathy with me.

I don't say this in front of the boy, obviously!!

Nothing wrong, again with referring to them as little sods.

However approaching 800 messages with sustained venomous verbal attacks on the child is not the same as an affectionate albeit frustrated 'little sod'.

There is a huge difference between the two and far more experienced parents on here are telling the OP that her behaviour and attitude is not acceptable and 'normal'.

You're wasting your time Kudz, the OP's (under other name also) threads often go this way.

just as most have given up, exasperated she will keep reviving them.

And posters will keep trying to let her see where she might have been rather unreasonable.

And she will twist and turn and try to erase the last eleventy hundred pages of unreasonableness.

You say "He's exhibited a lot of challenging behaviours today"
I say "He's been a little sod,"
Let's call the whole thing off.

That's all folks! I think it's all been said now hasn't it (and bog off Kudzugirl with your 'hard of understanding' comment ).

There are quite a few experienced parents on here who are trying to help the OP instead of continuing to kick her long after the thread has moved on.

For the very last time there are no other user names! Can you not see when I've joined?

Anyway we had the caf meeting today, have asked for extra support about the sensory issues.
I really wish the car wasn't broken, I really need some space today

MrsCakesPremonition - glad to hear it.

How has he been with the potty today OP?

He has been pretty good with the potty but still doesn't understand when he is wet. Which is a huge problem or when he is wearing pants. Basically potty training out of pants is fine, in pants is not good at all

What about the pull ups with a panel that changes colour or something when wet? So he gets a visual clue as well as the wet feeling.