Parents criticised our chosen baby name without knowing it was ours

[Bringbackbuffy]

We haven’t shared any of our baby name choices yet with any friends or family, but we don’t have any lists. We just have a boys name and a girls name.

My parents went on a complete rant the other day about one of our chosen names- they don’t know we’ve chosen it- a friend of theirs has just named their child that.

It was really quite hurtful to listen to, and to know they hate the name so much- but we still don’t want to change it.

I don’t really know what to do, I just wish they hadn’t been so awful

Tell them you’re going to call a baby boy ‘Herod-Butch’, and when they fight back, say the only other name you like is Charlie. They will grab it with both hands

Op. 20odd years ago we named our son Conrad. When I told my mother she said. "Thats horrible why would you call him that" (yes I was hurt) ffw 11 years she was visiting and she said. " I always liked the name Conrad its such a good strong name" it had become her grandson whom she loved and was proud of and due to that changed her view of the name.

I will never forget her original reaction as it was hurtful and my beautiful baby boy did not deserve that. However it changed her view and I still love his name deeply and have never regretted using it even with her not liking it.

Charles is a wonderful solid and strong name. Use the name you love and wait it out. As it will become a possitive connection for them as its their amazing grandson who could not possibly be anything but Charles/Charlie.

On reflection those are the two reasons I wouldn't choose this name despite liking it. I always thought of connotations & possible nicknames before deciding.

OP they will adore your son and forget whatever they thought of the name once they meet him - I would ignore it and just try to forget it.

Fwiw I am not a fan of surnames as first names generally, and there is one in particular that I dislike (not really for any reason) and then my son started school and his best friend has this name, and he is such a sweet child and DS loves him and now that I know him I love the name too and only have positive associations with it (and this is with an acquaintance, not a family member!) - they will come round.

My dad doesn’t like the name my daughter goes by (diminutive of her first name), apparently it’s a name for an old vehicle! He wanted us to call her Kate instead.