Husband is trying to back out of naming agreement

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I'm looking for opinions on this situation. When I was pregnant with our first child, we could not agree on a name. Our tastes are just too different. At the time, I knew that our child was going to end up with a dull compromise name that neither of us would be keen on if we couldn't think of something else. Because of this, I decided to make an agreement with DH that he could name our first child any (first + middle) name that he wanted as long as I would be able to name our second child any (first + middle) name that I wanted. All went well, and he chose our first child's name. I didn't like the name he chose but never tried to interfere due to the agreement.

I'm now pregnant with our second child. I have chosen the name and told DH what it is. He is now trying to back out of the agreement. His argument is that this is an "extreme exception". He hates the name, so he should be able to veto it. My viewpoint is that it doesn't matter that he doesn't like the name. He shouldn't have agreed to this arrangement if he wasn't going to honour it. I'm not going to compromise when the point of the agreement was to avoid doing so.

Francesca was one of our choices but my DP's sister has it as a middle name and he wanted something different. My friend shortens her name to Chess.

Just saw you provided names. Im on your side!

I dont mind Olive Athena but im not keen on either name tbh.
Im of the age i cant hear the name Mary-Kate without thinking of the Olsen twins 🤣 so for that id never use it, im not into double barrel names either but its a perfectly normal name. I do love Francesca though!

I couldn't do the agreement myself (we just battled it out for days until we agreed) but I prefer your choice. I would swap them around though, Mary-Kate as a middle name, but possibly just because it's very American. Much prefer your choice to his, and he did agree after all

I like your choices better than Bud choices.

I think this is a hill I’d die on. He shouldn’t have agreed to the agreement in the first place if he won’t honour it.

This.

@PorridgeEater

The name that he chose is Olive Athena.
The name that OP chose is Mary-Kate Francesca.

Yes I read afterwards that op gave the names so have edited post.
Still think it's a daft agreement though!

Personally I think this was a really daft agreement to make in the first place. You should have just compromised on a name you could both live with.

But it sounds like he truly hates this name more than you disliked Olive Athena.

I don't think it's fair to name his child something he really can't stand.

There must be something else you'd like enough that he can live with.

I agree with those saying it was a ridiculous agreement in the first place, because I could never call my child a name I hated, but having made the agreement he ought to stick to it.

However, maybe you could compromise a little for the sake of harmony (though you shouldn't have to). Maybe keep one of your preferred names but not the other? (I love one of them and hate the other, but that’s beside the point.) In real life middle names are very rarely used or even known by anyone outside the immediate family.

Is he Greek? Maybe google Greek names and see if there are any you both quite like.