Annoyed that my sister named her baby after my father

[Maxinemumof2]

Hello everyone. I have already posted on reddit and people were in majority saying that I was an assh*le. So I thought my not ask mothers/future mothers or fathers what they think rather than a bunch of adolescents.

I am pregnant, due July the 14 with a little girl that I was planning on naming him after my father. My sister was also pregnant and gave birth on the 4th of April to a gorgeous girl she named after my father ( Think Daniel/Danielle , Alexander/Alexandra). I am happy for her but I am so annoyed.

He is not her father, but mine. Our mum met my dad when my sister was 2 , they got married and had me 8 years later.
She has a father, he didn't abandon her. She is in good terms with her and our mother and even goes play golf with my father.

So why name your baby after my father? It is his first grandchild. I wanted it to be special for him.

Should I say something or just move on?

Just use it as a middle name maybe, she was there first,. Sorry man.

Get over yourself. You sound very jealous for no reason.

What would you say? "I don't like that you've chose a similar name to my dads can you change it?"

She can call her kids whatever she fancies.

I agree with you OP.
Was she jealous of you when you were born? Is she trying to "claim" your father as hers maybe - although she already had her involved father? What were/are the dynamics while you were growing up? (And now)

My husband has two cousins both names after their grandad. They use different diminutives (think Robbie/Bob) and only see each other every ten years or so.

it’s fine. You don’t own a name.

But…

…she’s known him longer.

I don’t understand the issue.

She is not my stepsister, she is my sister, well half-sister. We share a mother. To be honest, her and I lived in different world. By the time I was 10, she was already 20 and gone.

Why can't you name your DD after your mum?

And? He is not her father. She has known our mother longer too, doesn't make me any less of my mum's child. She has a father, who took care of her.

That would be too easy. She probably would have found fault with any family name her sister chose.

Agree with reddit. Your child is not his first grandchild. Family is about more than DNA. I have no half or step siblings but one of my brothers has two (ex) step daughters. He was married to their DM for several years when they were young. He continied to act in a fatherly role despite them having a father.
These two women are our family. The eldest named her twin son after my brother and we all thought it was a wonderful gesture, demonstrating their love for one another. You sound so callous.

Wow, grow up. A father isn't someone who has to be blood related

Why not name one of your first 2 kids after him if this is so important?

Maybe she just liked the name and it's not thing to do with your dad. And even if it was after your dad, he's been there for her long enough.

How old are you??? You're acting like a teenager.

apologies, I meant half sister.

She has known him longer than you. He WAS her father, she lived with him from 2? Dhe can honour him as she likes.

I will take a punt op that your mother has no problem with this whatsoever and thinks it is lovely

So, she would go to her dad's every other week and come back home. She didn't get along with her step-mum, so was often at home when she was a teen.

Her dad was with us sometimes during weekends. A very nice man. Today, we all kinda live in the same area of the country.

Well guess I am going to name my baby after her dad and then she will be all angry and make a big scandal.

Judging by your username, this isn’t your first baby. Why didn’t you name a previous child after your father?

You sound jealous that your sister has such a great relationship with him.

Who knows - but it seems like the obvious solution.

She won't because she will act like a normal adult. Do as you wish though.

Yup. She is a fantastic woman! Thank you.

do you love the name?

if so, go for it

i very much doubt she’ll care

This. Have a boy next time and then you can name him after your dad.

So she’s a fantastic woman so trust her when she says that there is nothing wrong with this!!

No the mumof2 is a joke about my dog. It's my first baby. I am not jealous of her at all.

Again, we never really lived in the same world, she used to play dolls with me and do my hair. I don't remember much of her in my childhood. When I was 10 she was already 20.