Annoyed that my sister named her baby after my father

[Maxinemumof2]

Hello everyone. I have already posted on reddit and people were in majority saying that I was an assh*le. So I thought my not ask mothers/future mothers or fathers what they think rather than a bunch of adolescents.

I am pregnant, due July the 14 with a little girl that I was planning on naming him after my father. My sister was also pregnant and gave birth on the 4th of April to a gorgeous girl she named after my father ( Think Daniel/Danielle , Alexander/Alexandra). I am happy for her but I am so annoyed.

He is not her father, but mine. Our mum met my dad when my sister was 2 , they got married and had me 8 years later.
She has a father, he didn't abandon her. She is in good terms with her and our mother and even goes play golf with my father.

So why name your baby after my father? It is his first grandchild. I wanted it to be special for him.

Should I say something or just move on?

This post is the equivalent of asking dad for something even mum has said know.

Adoption is irrelevant here, as he didn’t adopt her. He’s her stepparent by virtue of the fact he married her mother, but he is not her parent either legally or biologically. Nor does he consider himself to be.

OP’s first language is unlikely to be English, given that she’s Colombian. Not being the clearest doesn’t make her irrational, or unreliable. It makes more sense to trust her judgment given that she actually knows her father, than to dismiss her because you dislike what she has to say.

@whumpthereitis who said she's Colombian?

Your username says mum of 2. So how would this baby be your dad's first grandchild?

By you reading ops posts. Where she's explained at least twice.

I'm not scrolling through 300 odd posts, I asked a valid question there's no need to be rude.

OP said that it’s a joke about her dog being her first baby.

@tweener - you don’t have to scroll through 300+ posts - if you look at the OP, in the bottom right corner, you can click in “See All” and read just the OP’s posts. To see all of another posters posts, you click on the three dots at the bottom right corner of one of their posts, and select “See All” from the drop down box.

You can also customise the way MN looks, so that the OP’s posts and/or your own, can have a coloured background, so you can spot them easily.

Thanks, I use the android app though and it doesn't have this functionality.

English is indeed not my first language. I don't contradict myself. She was with a father and other siblings one week, then home woth us another week. Half of the holidays with him, the other half at home.

She completely disappeared of my life when I was 10, came back 5 years later. And No, my dad do not consider her to be his daughter, she calls him Nick, and her father is "dad".

He did tell all of us how he was excited to become a grandfather. Of course her kids are also his family, but they have a man they call grandad, which isn't my father.

The mumof2 is a joke about my dog

He didn't adopt her, and even if he wanted he wouldn't be able to do so because she has a father who took care of her.

I did.

I know lol. I was replying to the other poster who started going off in one about hypothetical adoption nonsense.

Your dad is your dad, and you are having his first grandchild. That might frustrate some posters but it’s just fact.

Your half sister sounds frankly very very weird and obsessed with your father. And I think YANBU to be upset she took not only your mothers name, but your fathers too.

" Just put the little ones to bed , How are you X? Are you watching football again? Hahaha wish you were there to give me a back massage (husband's name) is not home and I feel lonely"

Yikes.

I think you are right to be annoyed and creeped out by her messages and her behaviour OP. What does your mum think?

I think I would have a wonderful first name and use Nicholette or Nikita as a very cool and pretty middle name.

Josephine Nicholette Smith
Adeline Nicola Smith
Elizabeth Victoria Nikkita Smith

Yeah that makes it sound like their relationship is not appropriate.

From that text message I would be happy wondering whether the baby is actually your half sibling. That's grim and not appropriate at all.

Creepy and inappropriate. 😲

My mother just replied in the group chat : " I am not sharing my man massaging skills , you're a grown woman now. Ask (husband names). If you feel lonely call your friends."

Her father also replied : "Hey I am here btw if you feel lonely"

That baby definitely is my niece and not my sister. I doubt my father has an affair with his own step-daughter. But you truly never know people. But she would be dumb to write sh*t like that in a family group with our mother, her father, paternal siblings, and I in it.

When she isn't putting picture of my niece with caption like "As gorgeous as you Nick" she write directly in the family group to him.

But it normally is "normal things" , like how he is doing, when we are going out next etc...

It's fine to ask her why in an open and non-confrontational manner.

It's imo unreasonable to be upset about this and I definitely would not make her a target of your negative emotions.

You can still use the name btw.

All of this other stuff is even weirder than naming her child after him.

Does no one else even think so? Does he reply?

I don’t think I could stop myself from leaving the chat.