Annoyed that my sister named her baby after my father

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Hello everyone. I have already posted on reddit and people were in majority saying that I was an assh*le. So I thought my not ask mothers/future mothers or fathers what they think rather than a bunch of adolescents.

I am pregnant, due July the 14 with a little girl that I was planning on naming him after my father. My sister was also pregnant and gave birth on the 4th of April to a gorgeous girl she named after my father ( Think Daniel/Danielle , Alexander/Alexandra). I am happy for her but I am so annoyed.

He is not her father, but mine. Our mum met my dad when my sister was 2 , they got married and had me 8 years later.
She has a father, he didn't abandon her. She is in good terms with her and our mother and even goes play golf with my father.

So why name your baby after my father? It is his first grandchild. I wanted it to be special for him.

Should I say something or just move on?

I would just use the name too

The main thing that’s screaming alarm bells here is how you your sister and your mum are all fighting for your dads attention and love. Your mums told her to leave her husband alone and go to her own husband - gross
your sister used his name and says creepy stuff
you can’t say with 100% certainty that they haven’t had sex ….I mean. What.
and you’re crying over his name on two different platforms, and fighting over who has a bigger claim over him

bet it’s all lovely for him.
maybe just think about who all this fighting is benefiting

Jesus your sister sounds unhinged. She's openly flirting with her stepfather!? Wtaf.

Your half sister seems quite possessive.
The names she chooses seem like the least of her problems.

You could always name your child after her - a sweeter version of her name even.

Sounds like he was such a good man that two girls wanted to honor him. I say also name your baby after him:)

So there will be two<3

You’re being ridiculous. She probably didn’t name her baby after you dad - I have a nephew called Daniel. If I wanted I name my baby ‘Danielle’ I would! They’re different names. It wouldn’t even occur to me that I was naming my baby after the family member with the boy version of the name? You also didn’t even tell your sister that you wanted to use the name. Also… he IS her dad too. Sorry if you don’t like that. But he’s been in her life since 2, so he’s pretty much a certain father figure. I hope this is just hormones and you can get over it without embarrassing yourself by saying something.

Euhm , no. I am annoyed and it isn't my hormone. Also once again, he is not her 'father figure'. This term erases her own dad completely. She didn't need her mother's husband to have a 'father figure' she has a father, who is alive and in her life.

Yes he replies, but never directly to her. He replies things like " (Her father's names) she looks just like you, my name , your looks. Terrific team" is his last message after she again wrote about how the baby is as "hot as Nick". Who calls their baby hot?

I have decided to pick a whole new name, Holly ( thanks to someone on this thread) or Victoria.

I don't know what my sister has done, but I sure haven't had sex with my dad. So can be out of the mum, sister and you please?

Well, he is our mother's husband, so I don't find it what she said creepy. But maybe I am biased.

She honestly, literally calls her baby 'hot' OP?

Jesus Christ she sounds like a wrongen tbh.

I think you are right - knowing you were pregnant and considering a family name, she ought to have discussed possibilities with you.

This doesn't sound like a normal close sibling relationship - it's coming across as competitive and odd. Much depends on what kind of person she is - something like this can be innocent or loaded, depending on personalities involved.

I bet your dad would secretly have preferred your child to be the one named after him. There's a big difference between being the only father raising a child and raising one whose dad is present. Maybe there's a bit of unresolved jealousy from her, who knows.

Try to let it go for your own well-being. Remember your dad loves you and you can only be in competition with your sister if you choose to be

Although those messages sound creepy as fuck and someone in your family should be dealing with that!

Her poor dad!

OP I think you need a proper conversation with your parents about how utterly inappropriate her message was and that inserting herself into every aspect of your relationship with your dad is getting into stalker type behaviour. She might need to see a therapist and sort out what's going on here.

Holly Victoria is lovely, as is Victoria Holly. I have a soft spot for Caroline (as in Christmas Carol) of you want another Christmassy name. Victoria Caroline sounds nice.

I just wondered how the OP is doing and whether she’s now named her DD

Your father is definitely also her father so she can name her kids anything she wants.