Sister about to use my name

[tsapas]

Sister pregnant with a boy and on her short list of three names is Theodore. She's keeping the name picked a surprise.

I only want one child and I have always wanted to call them Theodore/Theadora.

I didn't react when she told me her list. She doesn't know this was the name I was wanting.

I know she got there first so has the right to use but is it worth me telling her that it is the name I want so heads up, if she uses it I will likely too. With a slight hope this will influence her to pick another?

[Pinkdafodils]

@KirstenBlest

@Pinkdafodils , the name that OP has mentioned is so popular, that he'd be sharing it with an awful lot of people anyway.

Then even more reason to not also have to share within your family.

[ThomasinaLivesHere]

Telling her could have a weird psychological effect where the name becomes more attractive to her. Also she could resent you trying to get her to not choose a name. She’s said it’s one of her favourites so you don’t have a right to claim it.

Just don’t say anything and hope for the best. You might not even get to choose the name. Your partner will have a say. There are some names I love that my partner vetoed straight away. When you’re daydreaming about names you don’t have another person telling you no.

[marcopront]

@Pinkdafodils

But Theresa might hate sharing her name with 3 other cousins..!

She might also hate being called Jane or Mary